Thank you for sharing this.
Here is a very useful resource where FOG is an acronym for “fear, obligation, guilt”. The website is intended for those who are in relationships with people who have personality disorders but the toolbox is useful for everyone.
it's hard to explain because inevitably you sound like an asshole, but some people are allowed to lose their temper, lose their mind - you're not, though.
when your friend never texts you first and misses your birthday and never makes an effort; you don't mind. you know she's struggling, and you want her to get the help that she deserves. you give her every excuse and every chance.
it shouldn't matter to you so much that people are always coming through for her. you want her to be happy, you love it for her. you love that her community rises up to the occasion. why does it bother you that when she snaps at someone, says horrible mean things - but two hours later, everyone is comforting her while she's crying. you know she's stressed. why do you kind of hate that she is welcomed back to her job, that her parents are endlessly wiring her money.
and you're - fuck, are you envious?
but when you don't text back, someone sits you down and says i know you're struggling, but you're being a bad friend. when you're too numb to show up for work, your boss just shakes his head. i'm sorry. i can't approve more time off. we have the company to protect. when you finally snap back at your family for making that shitty comment again, you're forced to apologize for being too sensitive.
god forbid you need something. people aren't used to you being the one asking. you're the giver like the book you hated; your pages all open and rumpled. you always have the answer, always have the solution. you are reliable, trustworthy. people like you don't struggle with things. you're supposed to be lifted by tragedy. you are given a maximum of 24 hours to grieve, and then you need to just behave at the party.
you can't read the giving tree without feeling like crying, and even that feels like it's too much emotion. like, nobody looks at you and assumes you're the tree; they'd name five other people before even considering you in the running. you're just there, never-asking.
your friend gets to say mean shit, that's just her personality. when you make a snide comment, you're just being petty. people laugh when your friend stands you up for another event; they say she's just like that. you were 5 minutes late to a meeting with friends and they were mad about it for the rest of the evening. your friend sets everything on fire; everyone applauds her through the ashes. you so much as light a candle: and suddenly now you're an arsonist.
you don't want your friend to suffer, though. the thing is that you just wish that the empathy and kindness your friend gets - you wish you had that option, that everyone offered you grace and money and a gentle reception.
the other day you were fighting down the bad urge; the void call, the end note. you tried-anyway. you went to the family event, tried laughing at the right moments. nodded and smiled and all of it. one of your siblings threw a fit, but she's allowed to, so everyone just rolled their eyes about it. you took 3 whole minutes to stand outside when you got overwhelmed. you literally set a timer about it.
in the morning you woke up to a text from your parents: you were a complete disgrace last night. idk what your attitude problem is, but you really need to fix it.
Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: The 100 (TV) Rating: Mature Warnings: Graphic Depictions Of Violence Relationships: Clarke Griffin/Lexa, Octavia Blake/Lincoln Characters: Clarke Griffin, Lexa (The 100), Raven Reyes, Lincoln (The 100), Octavia Blake Additional Tags: Apology free work, Alternate Universe - Canon Divergence, Eventual Smut, POV Lexa, Fix-It Summary:
This fic is a canon divergent fix-it-fic for Seasons 3 and 4 picking up in Season 3 after episode 4. It is mainly written from Lexa’s POV. It will explore: what happens when Lexa realizes that she is enhanced by an A.I.; how Lexa communicates with the commanders and vice versa; The City of Light; a myriad of alternative tropes which will keep Lexa alive and Clexa endgame. Expect a huge dose of Lextra angst and drama as the story unfolds.
There will be smut and violence.
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Check TurboVote please
I saw this on Facebook and went to check my registration status, sure it was fine because I voted recently, but I put in the info and it said I’m not registered
PLEASE, especially if you’re a Black voter, check your registration status at vote.org
of @the-wip-project‘s challenge.
Q50: What fic/story made you?
A50: it was not so much a fic/story that made me it was more of an experience. When I was a kid my family would take long road trips, e.g., eight hours, to the beach in the summer. Those trips were made pre cassette tapes. On those rides, I could read, fight with my siblings or stare out the window and make up stories. I started writing them down when I was a kid.
What made me think my stories were worthy of sharing or publishing when I was an adult was a wonderful girlfriend who encouraged me to send my stories out to anthologies.
Love this so much!
Get you one who can do both 😍
I just watched Christmas Inheritance. Eliza Taylor is an excellent actress, I really enjoy her work. I enjoyed her work in this film but it was not easy to. The reason it was not easy to was: the horrible and predictive script, the somewhat wooden actors that were also in the film (Andie MacDonald was great, love her), the awful awful choice in eligible men available to “Ellie”. I mean seriously, I have not dated or tried to date a man in an age but surely their are more choices than: option one - entitled judgy rich elitist douche bag who treats his fiancé like a possession; or option two - judgy dismissive “set in his ways” not in touch with his feelings and can’t even look his love interest in the eyes traditionalist. Like wow both these dudes spent more time looking at inatimate objects e.g. cellphone or floor, than looking at the woman they are supposed to be into.
Is this what straight movies are like? Is the bar this low for male suitors? Surely there is more than one Justin Trudeau out there.
At one point I drifted off during a Ellie Jake scene because there was no chemistry and was like “how did Eliza and Alycia create so much chemistry in a post apocalyptic world when this Jake dude is stiffer than a nut cracker in this rom com?” Near the end I was just hoping Ontari would show up and kill the suitors. Sigh.
My only explanation for this film is that Ms. Taylor, as an Australian, had all these nostalgic ideas around “White Christmases” and was wooed by that aspect of the script. But that wasn’t real snow. Snow doesn’t spray up from the sidewalk midway up a stairway.
Le sigh.
#clexa forever
If you still post/reblog clexa or just lexa content plz reblog or like because I’m trying to keep that on my dash. Also want follow some more people.
To read!
Some of my favourite fanfics from my favourite wlw couples
Brittana:
- you are all that I need (Santana plays guitar and is in love with her best friend)
- Front row, baby (Santana and Rachel are having conversations)
- This love of mine (Christmas away from each other then new year party with the glee club)
- Secret heart (Brittana told from Rachel's point of vue)
- Simply divine (demi gods)
- In between days (after 3x06 Santana feels like she’s breaking apart)
Sanvers/Supercorp
- pajama based assumptions (Maggie finds Kara in Alex's apartment one morning)
- Is she? Or isn't she? (Maggie and Alex make bets on Lena's sexuality)
- Isolated (Kara feels isolated and Maggie is there to help)
- Oblivious (Kara is dating Lena but Alex thinks she is dating mon-el)
- Of Food and Romance (Lena steals Kara’s food, something that usually ends in a 30 mins lecture. The gang are baffled)
Vauseman
- If your heart was a prison (pick up lines)
- You little shit (baby in prison)
- Piper's best laid plan (book club)
- Hey you! Laura Ingalls Wilder! (Soulmate au)
Clexa
- Stealing kisses (secret relationship in high school)
- I run to you (Clarke runs after her father and Wells die, Lexa is her new roommate, Clarke is pregnant and Lexa helps her)
- Seven minutes (Seven minutes at a party but they know each other and the others don't know that)
- Unspoken words (soulmate au in which whatever you draw appears on your soulmate's skin)
- are you a doctor (because I’m bleeding) (lexa is a cop who gets shot and Clarke is a doctor who happens to be there)
Daisy
- On the run (after Hive, Daisy comes back to the base)
Shoot
- The little moments, our moments (cute af one shots)
- Reverie (cute one shots post Samaritan)
- The one where Shaw misses Root (cuddling and missing Root)
- You and me, we made vows (bored at a wedding)
- My therapist said... (undercover married people)
- Domestic hell (suburban couple+Halloween)
- 94 days (Root and Shaw are in prison for 94 days together)
- Close quarters (Shaw is a cuddler but she doesn't admit it)
Naomily
- Desiree (last chapter-> party, Effy came with Naomi whom Emily has a huge crush on, really cute at the end)
- Red (They are in a dark place and Emily overdose)
- Travelling together (Naomi is sick and Emily is there for her)
Trini and Kim (Power Rangers)
- Too busy lying to myself (to see your color) (soulmate au, really good and long)
- We're electric (friends with benefits to lovers)
- You arrive along with the sun (soulmate au, short one)
- I am in love with what we are (not what we should be) (fake married au)
Clizzy
- In that little café (Clary and Alex friendship)
- Waiting... (Clary meets the gang at the clinic)
- Come in a little closer (there was never much space between us) (Clizzy start fake dating until they are dating for real)
- Isabelle (Izzy coming to term with her sexuality in a really cute way)
Emison
- honest, let's make this night last forever (Ali knows it's a date but Emily doesn't)
- Sleepover protocol (the girls learn about emison and a sleepover ensues)
- Shut up Aria (they get together, the girls find out and they get high of Jason's brownies)
- 25 Occasions People Have Celebrated in the Liarverse (25 little one shot with emison as endgame)
- Mama (Emily carries the baby and then it's Alison's turn feat. the other Liars)
- Begin again (Ali comes back in season 5 and Emily helps her in her first day back at school)
- Place your bet (accidentally married in Vegas, 21 chapters)
- Right now it feels like we're bleeding (so deep that we might not get back up) (emily is in a dark place after Sara's death so she travels and sleep with a bunch of people but Emison is still endgame.)
Wanda Maximoff/Scarlet Witch
- Mistrust - 1.2 (The Avengers have difficulties trusting Wanda, but then she’s hurt in battle)
- No Matter What (they go on a mission, get kidnapped and Wanda volunteers to be the one tortured)
- Do you trust me? (They are trapped on a roof during a mission and Wanda and Tony must trust each other)
- The Wisdom of Children (Wanda and Peter are best friend and the Avengers don’t like them)
- It’s the Little Things that Matter (After civil war, Wanda becomes the hero she was always meant to be)
Posie
- you know (three times Josie hates Penelope and one time she doesn’t)
- get in the closet (Caroline walks in on Posie and P has to hide in the closet)
- Stupid Cupid (Love Is In The Air) (a girl does a spell on Penelope so that she falls in love with her but her love for Josie is so strong that is doesn’t really work)
- (meet me) under the mistletoe (mistletoes show up around school and people have to kiss each other)(long, really well written and good)
- You and I (are a Molotov cocktail of idiocy and sexual tension) (Posie knows Lizzie is in love with Hope)
Deanoru
- Rooftop Rendez-Vous (Karolina is popular, Nico is not but they’re dating)
Kelly and Becca
- You Do Something To Me (first night without Eden and Becca has a nightmare but Kelly is there for her)
- Paradise Rebuilt (snippets into their lives)
- Stuck on you (late night at the hospital)
Crisana
- Crisana fluff (what happened at the hospital)
- a night at the hospital
- Studying (cute fluff)
- I just want you (5 kisses no one saw and one they did)
Zoe and Madison
- we’re a shimmering balance act (the entire coven knows they are in love but they don’t)
- morning pretender (coffee shop au)
Hope and Amy
- Just a Basic Hot Girl (Hope doesn’t walk away at the end because Amy makes a move)
- They Can Wait (after a year in Botswana, Molly throws a surprise party for her best friend and Hope is in the attendance)
Kellex
- electric love (preath from Alex’s pov but still kellex endgame)
- let’s make this moment a crime (Kelley sprains her ankle so Alex and her stay in for New Year and they get together)
- A Little Slip Up (Kelley accidentally reveals and they are married)
- One day (after the World Cup, they kiss and it gets messed up)
Cazzie
- you’re one of the few things that I’m sure of (after holding hand in the car, C distance herself from I but realizes that she wants to be with her)
Juliantina
- Respite (after Juliana is kidnap, angst)
- Best of me (fake relationship)
Lintz
- Give Me Something (Maggie briefly moves in with Sydney and they get together)
- it’s better when they’re cute (no one know they are married until Maggie gets hurt)
From Odette Annable’s instagram. Her friend Arielle’s sister JULIA KEBBEL is MISSING from the LOS ANGELES area.
I’m sharing this partly because Odette did and also because I knew Arielle a little bit before she was an actress. We went to middle school together, and although we weren’t exactly friends, she is a human person I had classes with and now her sister’s missing… so I feel compelled to share the info.
Please reblog or repost, I don’t care. Just get the info out there!!!
It was so nice to see Clarke happy! I think she smiled more in this scene than in the all the episodes since 3x07 combined.
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