This Stance Is Probably Going To Lose Me Some Followers, But I Want To Make My Position Clear.

This stance is probably going to lose me some followers, but I want to make my position clear.

I recently saw an infographic that had an addendum that “acehet” and “arohet” people don’t count as part of the community.

Now, listen: if a trans woman were exclusively attracted to men, would we say she wasn’t part of the community because she’s “basically straight”? Of course not. Not unless she chose to identify that way. Her shared experience of being trans would be, by itself, enough to make her part of the trans community if she wanted to be.

Why should we make different rules for other orientations? We are not defined by who our partners are—if we were, every person in the world who is not currently in a relationship would be “basically aroace.”

So-called “acehet” and “arohet” people share our experiences of being aroace, and that by itself is intersection enough to include them in our community if they want to be part of it.

I’m not going to tolerate any form of exclusionism on this blog. We need all the solidarity we can get, especially at times like these, when queer rights are under attack. Labels are for us to adopt for ourselves, not to force upon others. If you disagree with me, well, you’re entitled to have your own opinion, but if you actively try to exclude anyone on claims of their being “basically het,” I don’t care if we’ve known each other for years; I will block you without hesitation.