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this is so important, take care of yourself babes

I wonder if you have tips on how to deal with depression and finding joy in life again when you struggle to feel it 🫠 💜

I will try my best to answer this but I am not super educated on this subject so keep that in mind.

DEALING WITH DEPRESSION AND REDISCOVERING JOY

Depression can often make it feel like the joy has been sucked out of life, but it's important to remember that you are not alone and that help is available.

SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP

If you are feeling depressed, it's important to reach out to a mental health professional. They can provide you with a proper diagnosis and treatment plan, which may include therapy, medication, or both. If your diagnosis includes medication it is also important to not get addicted to it, as that could lead to other thing

STAY CONNECTED

Loneliness can exacerbate feelings of depression, so try to stay connected with friends and family. Even if you don't feel like talking about your feelings, just spending time with loved ones can provide a much needed boost. But also make sure you are taking time to yourself

SELF CARE

This can mean different things for different people, but essentially, it's about taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. This could involve getting regular exercise, eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, or practicing mindfulness and relaxation techniques.

FIND JOY IN SMALL THINGS

When you're depressed, it can be hard to find joy in anything. But try to take pleasure in small, everyday things. This could be a cup of your favorite tea, a walk in the park, or an episode of a show you love.

BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF

Recovery from depression takes time, and it's okay to have bad days. Don't beat yourself up if you're not feeling better right away.

LIMIT EXPOSURE TO NEGATIVITY

Try to limit your exposure to negative news and stressful situations. Surround yourself with positivity as much as you can.

SET PERSONAL GOALS

Having something to work towards can provide a sense of purpose, which can in turn lead to feelings of joy and fulfillment. This could be anything from learning a new skill, to completing a project, or achieving a fitness goal.

UPLIFTING ACTIVITIES

Engage in activities that make you happy. This could be reading a good book, listening to your favorite music, painting, or spending time in nature.

PRACTICE GRATITUDE

Try to focus on the positive aspects of your life. This might be difficult during a depressive episode, but acknowledging and appreciating what you have can enhance feelings of joy and satisfaction.

A cosy guide to a cosy December ‧͙*̩̩͙❆ ͙͛ ˚₊⋆

Have a Christmas movie marathon. I will post a must-watch list soon!! <3

Cinnamon oatmeal... or just oatmeal in general... winter is oatmeal season... make it cute, though!! :)

Having hot Chocolate by the fireplace

Bows. Bows. Bows.

Visiting Christmas markets and going ice skating

Cute Knitted sweaters and uggs

Baking cute Christmas cookies and decorating them with your friends

Spending hours making your wish list

Writing cute Christmas cards to friends and family who live far away :)

Start working on your 2024 vision board

Buying cute ornaments for the Christmas tree

Fluffy socks and fuzzy blankets <3

Experiment with your coffee order!! I've been OBSESSED with mochas; cinnamon is also a MUST.

Trying. a different make-up style. I always love the frosty/blushy look for winter <3

Planning your Christmas outfit

Buy some cute Christmas-themed pyjamas (Victoria's Secret always has cute ones!!)

Scented candles to set the mood. My current fav is the salted caramel one from ZARA Home!! <3

Go see the Nutcracker

A good Christmas playlist is a MUST. I already made mine; feel free to check it out:

I've been completely swept up by the Christmas spirit, so get ready for many, many, many cosy Christmas posts!! ⋆ ⁺₊❆⋆

As always, please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! •̩̩͙❅*̩̩͙‧͙♡*̩̩͙❆ ͙͛

❆‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧౨ৎ

SELF VALIDATION

First things first, if you validate your existence on externalities, you will never truly be happy. While it’s important to have values and to act on them, it shouldn’t be your main source of happiness. 

E.g. parent validation, academic validation, and male validation. So, here are some tips to validate yourself. 

VALUE YOUR OPINION. You should have the ability to make decisions and identify yourself solely on your opinion. Trust, giving people that ability to shape your decisions and curate your identity, allows them to dictate your worth. 

SELF LOVE OVER OTHERS. Ensure you are doing everything in your power to treat yourself lovingly. Even if it means sacrificing a few things in life. E.g. going to sleep early instead of cramming for a test. 

BE RESILIENT. When I say that, I don’t mean ‘don't let anything affect you’ but rather, build yourself up to the point that when someone/something knocks you down, you can bounce back easily. 

BECOME SELF AWARE. Know your strengths, and weaknesses, and be mindful of the truth. Be genuine when it comes to this because self-awareness helps us with becoming more in touch with our inner selves.

AVOID NEGATIVE SELF TALK. This can cause us to rely on others to hear good things about ourselves. Instead, say affirmations in the mirror.

STOP PEOPLE PLEASING. There’s a difference between genuinely being nice, and being a doormat. You shouldn’t have to bend over backwards for others, and they give absolutely nothing back. Invest that time and effort into yourself.

SOMEONE’S GAIN IS NOT YOUR LOSS. This is a mindset shift that will change the game. You have to stop seeing successful, wealthy, pretty or intelligent people as threatening your skills or talents. There is enough success for everyone.

DETACH FROM OTHERS. Friends, family, males, etc. Stop letting how other people treat you, dictate your mood for the rest of the day. The only factor your mood should depend on is you. What you do, say, and act is the only factor. 

KNOCK OTHERS FROM YOUR PEDESTAL. The only person that should be on top of your pedestal, is you. By doing this, you create an inferiority complex for someone else and give them superiority. 

OTHER’S OPINIONS ARE MOMENTARY. They will always move on with their day and see what needs to be done. They do not care about you as much as you think. So, do not even try to give them the time of day. 

BUILD BOUNDARIES. With others and yourself. Both are equally important because you value yourself enough not to do something you’ll regret. 

My weekly reset routine

Hello girlies! After some days offline I come back with this blog, I will be telling you quickly my every Sunday "Weekly reset routine" which is popular among girlies like us, isn't it? For me, this is the first day of my weeks and probably the most important one, since I get relaxed, taken care of and I reflect on what to focus next. I hope it inspires you in case that you don't have a routine like this, and if you do I hope that it's working well for you!

My routine

Tidy up and clean all my space: Includes the kicthen (that's my assigned section between my family), my bedroom and my bathroom. While cleaning downstairs I listen to a podcast and in my room I listen lo-fi playlist.

Begin the laundry: Every week I do my laundry, every two weeks I also add my bedsheets.

Do my full shower routine: I use shampoo, hair mask and conditioner. After, I use my cleanser and face exfoliant. To finish I use my soap, body exfoliant and shave my legs and armpits. I listen to new albums every time while showering.

Post-shower routine: I do the rest of my skincare routine, dry my hair, apply cream on my body, get comfy clothes and check my nail polish.

Tidy up my clothes

Plan and reflect: 1.How was last week? 2. I plan next week goals and tasks 3.Add calendar events 4. Revise my routines and schedule 5. Check my budget

Digital detox: Eliminate any unnecessary data on my laptop and cellphone, mostly.

My post-routine

Light a candle and listen to frequency music: I listen mostly to heal my feminine energy and positive vibes

Practice journaling: I look out for prompts or I express my feelings, I have a new journal book and I prefer now to do it by hand.

Say positive affirmations in the mirror: I get them from pinterest! I have cried twice by now, it has helped me with my inner dialoge, concept and steem.

Practice meditation and yoga: I normally practice between 20-30 minutes, for me is more than enough and actually helps me relax and maintain my mental health. I recommend you Jessica Richburg in Youtube.

Watch a movie: I really love to watch movies! So now every Sunday I make some popcorn and get cozy in my sofa to watch one. Right now I'm into chick films, they are really funny and inspire me alot.

See you girlies, time to enjoy my sunday! 𑄽𑄺ྀ

HONEYS WINTER GUIDE⋆.ೃ࿔*:･❄️

honeys guide for a magical winter season~

winter scented candles : winter scented candles are a MUST for a hot girl winter. scents like peppermint, vanilla and cinnamon rly capture the essence of the winter season and they make my space smell so nice

winter fashion : winter fashion is probably one of my favorite types of fashion. i just love how when winter comes, excessive accessorizing is embraced bcuz its just so CUTE. wearing boots, earmuffs, leg warmers and arm warmers. theres ENDLESS inspo on pinterest for winter fashion so dress for the season <3

things that shimmer : during the winter, its crucial that we are taking good care of our skin during these dryer months. make sure to buy a moisturizer that soaks into ur skin well. doing so will make ur skin shine. for more shimmer, use sparkly lipglosses experiment with glitter in ur makeup.

sweet treats : chocolates, marshmallows, gingerbread, peppermint teas, candies, hot coco, candy canes etc etc. the winter season is one of my favorites bcuz of all the sweet treats u can indulge in, so let urself indulge 💗

a big fluffy blanket to curl up in

a good winter playlist (if u rly wanna get into the feeling of a magical winter, listen to the instrumentals for ballets like the nutcracker, or the instrumentals of old disney movies like beauty and the beast)

walk around with hand lotion and lipgloss if u dont already, this time of year its crucial, dry lips and skin isn't cute

FUR HATSSSS

respecting yourself౨ৎ ˖ ࣪⊹⭐️

before we can get into what it means to respect urself we must first acknowledge what it means to disrespect urself.

DISRESPECTFUL THINGS :

self deprecating jokes - no bcuz why are u trying to make other people laugh or get a reaction from others at ur own expense? also, ur brain doesn't know the difference and speaking negatively about urself stems from a bad self concept which isn't ideal for manifesting

not standing on business - do what u say that ur going to do. show up for urself. if u say that ur gonna do this and that but u dont do that ur showing urself that ur not reliable and trustworthy. you should be able to rely on urself and do what u say that u will

doing the opposite of any of the things mentioned above show signs of self respect. self respect means to stand firm on ur boundaries make sure that ur own needs are taken care of and handled before u rush to serve others. serve yourself.

advocate for urself bcuz no one will speak up for u unless u do it for urself, at the end of the day its YOUR life and no one should care more about ur life than urself

with that being said, its important to respect urself, ur values and ur wishes over all because at the end of the day we are always with ourselves. if u ordered a plate of prosperity and u received a plate of poverty, advocate for urself and make sure u get what u want. dont accept what u didn't order.

we invest so much time and energy into people, ideas, life in general and life is way too short to accept whatever people give u, when u can get so much more.

becoming a better student ₊˚⊹♡

Prepare for your classes ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆

Wake up on time. We don't want to be stressed first thing in the morning, right?

Eat breakfast. So you will be able to better focus in class.

Assigned reading and homework. Make sure you are prepared for your classes!! :)

Review your notes. Going through some of your flashcards before class is really helpful.

Check your bag and charge your devices. Ensure you have everything you need: Books, homework, chargers, pens, water...

In Class ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆

Listen and pay attention. You can save yourself a lot of trouble by simply paying attention, trust me.

Take notes. My favourite note-taking method is the Cornell method; I can make a separate post on that!! <3

"Quick notes." If you struggle with note-taking, try taking quick and messy notes. You can clean them up once you get home!!

Engage. If you have any questions or don't understand something, make sure to ask!! Most teachers really appreciate students who speak up. :)

No distractions. Turn off your phone, no chatting, you'll be glad...

After class ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆

Finish your assignments as soon as you can. Go home, put on a cosy outfit, have a snack, and get working!! <3

Prepare flash cards. A great way of reviewing your notes, too... :)

Update your Study schedule. Write down any assignment and due dates, reading you must do, upcoming tests, etc...

Clean up your notes. Review them, highlight the important parts, and maybe even make them look cute!! :)

Don't avoid topics/Subjects you dislike. I know it is tempting, but you can't avoid them forever, so you might as well get them done

Structure and routine ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆

Goals and Priorities. Keep them realistic and manageable.

Time management. Having a set schedule makes studying less overwhelming; it takes some discipline but is so worth it!! <3

Develop a routine. Figure out what works best for you; I prefer studying in the morning or at night.

No "zero days". Even if you can only do a bit, do it!! NO. ZERO. DAYS.

Remember your goals. Dreams will keep you motivated; remind yourself of what you're working for!! <3

Self-care and balance ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆

Don't forget about your hobbies. You need to do things that make you happy, so make time for those things!!

Maintain a balanced diet. I know chocolates and junk are tempting, especially when you are busy studying all day, but you're not doing yourself any favours.

Sleep. Sleep. Sleep. 8 Hours. Non-negotiable.

Exercise regularly. Even if it's just a walk, put on some headphones, listen to music, and give yourself a break. <3

Care for your social life. Reach out to your friends, make plans, and keep in touch; a good work-life balance is critical!!

Romanticising ˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆

Study dates. Meet up with your friends at a cosy cafe, discuss your work, and have some fun!! Studying doesn't have to be all serious all the time ;)

Silly Pinterest boards. Visualising your goals will help you find motivation!!

Music to set the mood. I have a bunch of playlists on my Spotify that might help!! <3

Cosy sweater and candles. The cosy Rory Gilmore vibes haha...

Getting a coffee before class. A little treat before things get serious... Simple pleasures, you know? :)

Babes, The hiatus is OVER, and I'm finally back!! I got a lot of asks on studying, burnout, and school in general, so I thought, why not start off with a little student guide?? I Hope October has been kind to you, and school hasn't been too overwhelming (though I know it, unfortunately, has been for many of you), and I'm glad to finally be back!! <33

As always, Please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!!

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

See yourself being perceived by others in this light bc you already are such a remarkable beauty to witness

Pov : everyone who sees you says this about your looks

"Omg you're drop dead GORGEOUS 😍 "

"HOW are you so pretty 😭😭 what's your secret"

" you're literally the prettiest girl I've ever seen I'm not even kidding"

"Your eyes are so mesmerizing wow😍 ..I'm in love"

"U have the most perfect lips"

"Ur eyebrows are always on fleek"

"I love how long and thick ur eyelashes are"

"You're so beautiful I'm obsessed"

"Ur skin is literally FLAWLESS"

"I'm convinced you're a real life goddess"

"I looove ur hair it looks so healthy and soft and luscious "

"How are u even real? U look so ethereal and out of this world!"

"Ur beauty has me daydreaming and writing poems"

"Ur beauty alone leaves an unforgettable mark on everyone"

"I can't fathom how pretty you are"

"Everything about u is perfect, like youre unbelievably stunning"

"What's it like being the most beautiful girl in the world?😍"

"U have this kind of beauty thats so captivating, haunting and addictive to look at"

"I love ur stylee u always look so chic"

"You're such an eye-candy I could look at you forever"

"Ur face is literally my desired face, ur beauty is the standard"

"Girl I would kill to look like u"

"Ur beauty leaves me speechless everytime, how do u have that effect?"

"I don't think anyone who looks at u can resist falling in love w you"

"Has anyone ever told you how powerful your beauty is? Like it's dangerous how beautiful u are"

"Do you model? U literally have the body and looks for it"

"I love ur fashion sense , u give off IT girl vibes"

"Stop looking at me with those siren eyes 🫠"

Pov : people say this behind your back

"She's def the kind of girl who steals all the attention with her beauty when she walks into a room"

"Y/N had a huge glow up, she keeps getting prettier everytime I see her"

"She looks so stunning in pictures but wait till u see her irl its even better"

"I genuinely think she's the prettiest girl in existence"

"There's something about her beauty thats so hypnotic it sticks in ur mind"

"My heart starts beating so fast when she looks at me. Her beauty makes me nervous"

"Have you seen Y/N? she's the prettiest around here"

"She has that kind of beauty that everyone wanna copy"

"She's naturally beautiful like she doesn't even try"

💌💌💌

Let me know if u want more like this 💫

the pipeline of :

finding out you’re autistic —> becoming hyper aware of your autistic traits —> having imposter syndrome because you think the hyper awareness is actually just you faking it

everyone thinking this persons a vampire but they’re just autistic.

‘you hate sunlight???’

‘yeah im super sensitive to it it gives me headaches’

‘but you hate garlic??’

‘mmh it gives me acid reflux, i have a bunch of gastrointestinal issues’

‘but- you only drink that weird red liquid!! which is obviously blood!!’

‘i have really bad sensory issues, that beetroot smoothie is the one of the only things that i can eat ://‘

‘YOU SLEEP. IN A COFFIN.’

‘….its comfy’

Ken was more than an antagonist/villain but a representation/metaphor for all the sweet boys in our lives who eventually grew up to be misogynistic men. Who take more than they’ll ever give. They are the boys who felt under-appreciated and unloved and found validation from Andrew Tate podcasts.

A lot of women if not all can relate to that on some level. Son. Brother. Friend. Cousin. Nephew. Uncle. It happens so much more than we want to think about. It’s so prevalent and sad that despite everything Ken did, Barbie apologized to him and received no apology in return.

Barbie Land was far kinder than Kendom. The Barbies were dismissive about the Kens, yes, but they were always treated kindly and with some decorum. Kendom literally made the Barbies their servants designed to cater to their every whim. Just look at that. And even then, Barbie apologized. President Barbie gave them a (admittedly low) position in the courts as a token of good will. A fairly realistic take right there but so sad considering the harm they’d done.

He stole her dreamhouse. He stole Barbie’s dreamhouse. And she apologized for hurting him.

Remember when creating new (healthy) habits, that you are replacing the bad ones. Adding new things to your life will absolutely feel tiring and time consuming. But it is because you are looking at it based on how you operate now. The goal is to replace. New, healthier habits will require different things from your lifestyle. It will also expand your mind, change your perspective and open you up to new interests and way of living.

I love when I realize that I’m handling a situation better than my old self would have.

You always manifest, even if you don’t notice. 🌟

for example, i was thinking about my new judy hoops plushie and the next thing i see is my classmate posting a drawing of judy hoops. I thought , "what a coincidence?"

what you think will always reflect, no matter what.

i see a lot of people struggling with manifesting , but they fail to realize that they constantly manifest.

you always manifest opportunities, friends, energy, gifts, even a simple butterfly. We are constantly in our heads, what we see IS what WE want to see.

the key to manifesting is you and you only! it will manifest only if you believe that it will happen.

it’s like knowing 100% that you will go to the shop and buy a dress because you know it will be there and it’s "real", and it takes 5 minutes to do. Nothing hard.

manifesting is so simple. the methods, techniques, advices are all here to guide you but you can even create your own method.

I like to use reverse psychology and the 369 method, but sometimes I just don’t even think of a method, I simply have it on my mind and boom here it is.

"If I have it in 4D, why I don’t see it in 3D" if you decided that you have it in your imagination then it’s only a matter of time of it appearing in 3D. 3D and 4D are NOT enemies but friends. let it go, don’t sweat it.

and the last thing I would probably add is TALK with the universe/ god / whatever your believe in. Ask for things, ask for sings, be grateful, have faith, BELIEVE!

there were times when I was completely anxious so I was literally sitting with my fingers crossed and asked the god to fulfill my manifestation asap. It’s okay if you still feel like it’s not real, it’s okay if your negative thoughts come up, it’s okay to doubt. Just learn to have faith in yourself , desires and the higher power you believe in"

" the universe wants you to win "

hope I helped a little bit to those who struggle with manifesting. you got it!

Whilst you nourish your body with exercise, slow yoga, nighttime body milk, adorn it with jewellery and sultry perfume, carefully drape it with clothes that fit… don’t forget to nourish your mind. Classical music, podcasts, brain games like crosswords, sudoku, mental math, art even if you’re terrible at it, gardening even if your plants never seem to grow, cooking even if you might burn the house down - embrace learning, embrace curiosity, and enjoy your own company. Be the best wife you could be to your own self first. Care for yourself, defend yourself, grow, teach, constructively criticise yourself; be the best parent you could be to yourself.

OPTIMISING THE SLEEP + MAXIMISING YOUR BEAUTY

This post is all about how to optimise your sleep and beauty at the same time <3 I hope everyone can use at least one tip today and apply it to their sleep routine.

Have a sleep schedule

it is ideal for us to sleep at the same time, and wake up at the same time everyday. This is so our bodies are producing what we need at given times, and healing us of any injuries without interruption + strengthening our circadian rhythm(regulates our alertness and sleepiness)

Create a good sleep environment

Before you go to sleep, make your room clean and wipe off any excess dust, a cluttered room makes for a cluttered mind. Turn off all lights and close curtains. Having a good sleep environment allows our body to shut down more easily.

Avoid caffeinated drinks and high sugar drinks before bed

Caffeinated drinks should not be consumed 4-6 hours before bedtime possible, which does include soft drinks. It keeps you alert, which causes trouble for your sleep. Sugary drinks before bed reduces the quality of your sleep.

Have time to wind down befor bed

Don’t do any high focus activity, or high intensity exercise before bed. Our body and minds need time to release the stresses and excess energy from the day. Reading, mindfulness, disconnecting from social media, journaling are some things we can do.

Avoid doing high focus activities, exercising and eating in your bed

Your brain should only associate your bed with sleeping or relaxing, or else it makes it harder for you to go to sleep easily.

Minimise naps during the day

This can contribute to any sleep complications, if you really do need to nap, keep it under an hour.

Sleep on your back

Sleeping on your side or stomach can cause asymmetry in your face. Plus, allowing your face to touch your pillowcase can cause acne because of bacteria.

Use a sleeping mask

Blocks out most of your sight, minimising the distractions in your sleep. Make sure it’s a comfortable one which you wash regularly, or it can cause acne.

Sleep using a silk pillowcase

Pure silk can be very beneficial for your skin and hair but also minimises the skin pulling on our faces.

Wash your face before snoozing

The excess residue and dirt on our face transfers to our pillowcase, which we use the next day and causes acne. + an unwashed face can lead to breakouts.

Sleep with a humidifier

For my dry skin girlies, a humidifier allows for your skin to stay moisturised during your sleep, to wake up to bright, glowing skin. This is really recommended, as we are getting into winter.

Brush your teeth before bed

This can help remove any prior food particles, protect from any bacteria and regularly doing this limits the ability for plaque to build up + bad breath is minimised in the morning

Use an overnight moisturiser

For my dry skin girlies, again, using a good overnight moisturiser can help keep your skin glowing throughout the night.

wearing a bonnet

Reduces having tangled, messy hair in the morning and protects your hair from too much friction. Silk/satin ones are recommended.

୨୧ 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝘩𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑑𝑎𝑦 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 ୨୧

♡ waking up early ♡ don't force yourself to make your bed right when you get up (but still try and do it eventually) ♡ set daily goals ♡ read motivational quotes ♡ yoga ♡ reading ♡ morning affirmations ♡ eat a healthy breakfast ♡ do skincare/hair ♡ drink matcha ♡ meditating ♡ taking a good shower ♡ journaling ♡ make a to-do list ♡ clean your space ♡ complete a task you've been meaning to do

i love my body

i am committed to my dream

i am getting better daily

the embodiment of baby pink

♡ i'm the embodiment of baby pink, soft, pretty and comforting.

♡ others know me as the girl who always smells wonderful! i smell soft and sweet, like cotton candy, milk, baby powder, flowers and vanilla.

♡ being in my presence is like being wrapped in a warm, soft blanket on a chilly day.

♡ people are always kind to me and enjoy being in my company, and animals are always drawn to me. seriously, i'm like a fairy!

♡ my handwriting is neat and pretty, very aesthetically pleasing and easy to read.

♡ i'm known as the girl who always dresses very prettily, dances ballet and always carries a book with her.

♡ my pets and my loved ones are always safe from harm, and nothing but good things happen to them.

♡ i'm delicate, graceful, always know what to say and speak very calmly and eloquently.

♡ i don’t fear confrontation, because it doesn’t come off as threatening; instead, i am listened to, others respect my boundaries and i am able to maintain peaceful, respectful relationships with everyone i interact with.

♡ when people are near me, good things keep happening to them, it's like i'm their lucky charm!

♡ i have the sweetest dreams every night, fall asleep in a blink of an eye and sleep peacefully, like a kitten.

PROCESSING YOUR EMOTIONS WITHOUT SUPPRESSING THEM - TECHNIQUES

this post is all about how to process emotions that we are uncomfortable with, safely and positively. Today, I’d like it if you’d try to implement at least one technique today!

REMINDERS

Remember that when you feel an emotion, it is your body communicating itself to you. Listen to your emotion, and understand.

All emotions are temporary, and will pass. But some can leave a more long term effect on us.

Having the skill of sitting through uncomfortable emotions calmly, and not let it impact our lives greatly will serve you well.

TECHNIQUES

STOP TECHNIQUE

S- Stop what you’re doing, pause all activities and shut off your brain.

T- Take a few deep breathes, continue until your focus is only on breathing deeply.

O- Observe your thoughts, your body language, any physical sensations and acknowledge them within you.

P- Proceed with any activity that may help you process this emotion. Meditation, journaling, stretching, talking to someone, etc.

ALL TECHNIQUE

A- Acknowledge, accept and alllow what you feel. Identify what emotion you feel, if you can’t, try to associate it with something. Sit in this feeling for awhile and truly accept it within you.

L- Link it to a circumstance or situation that may explain why you’re feeling this way. E.g ‘I feel so irritated lately, it may be because I’ve been eating sugary foods more’

L- Learn what this emotion may be telling you. There’s not much detail on this because only you know what your body needs/wants.

SELF EXPRESSION

Draw, write, compose music on what this feeling looks like, sounds like, maybe even their taste. This really helps go deep in your emotions, analyse it and then hopefully process it.

Being that girl once again- back to school!

It’s back to school season everyone, and my favourite times of the year. In this post im going to give you stuff to do for back to school + advice in specific areas of your school life! I hope everyone can take away something from this post <3 

THINGS TO DO BEFORE BACK TO SCHOOL <3

Revise your past term content in your core subjects, ensure there’s nothing you do not understand(it’s better to understand now than have to understand later)

Review what you are going to be learning for this current term in your core subject, you don’t have to study it, just familiarise yourself. 

Catch up with your friends- hang out, call or text before the new school term. My favourite thing is to create predictions of drama, couples etc in the upcoming term w my girlies!

Create SMART goals for you to achieve that term, in any aspect you want. I say; 1 goal for academics, 1 goal for social and 1 goal for extracurriculars/sports. 

Clean your room !! do a deep clean and declutter. E.g wipe down all surfaces, hover pillows, vacuum floor, clean mirrors, take out any clothes you dislike

Do an everything shower + face masks!!

ACADEMICALLY

Everyday afterschool, revise everything that you’ve learnt today + the things that you struggle on

Anytime you get homework, complete it as soon as possible. Most of the time, it’s easy and non time consuming. 

Create study guides for exams/tests while actually learning instead of when the assessments are actually coming up. It saves you a lot of time, which you can use for studying effectively.

If you don’t already, have a specific learning/studying style that works for you. E.g flashcards, blurting, mind map, spaced repetition, the feynman technique. (ofc you can have multiple). Just know the pros and cons of each studying technique. 

Or, what I do is that I assign specific studying techniques to different subjects e.g science - blurting, HASS - flashcards, maths - the feynman technique. This may be different to what you have the most success learning.

Have a place, time every day or at least most days, where you can study without distractions. I like to study at the library afterschool, it’s chill and literally void of any distractions.

The only advice in which i’ll say is not optional– do practise questions under the said test conditions. Stop using websites, listening to music, being on your phone etc. Get in the zone and transfer the environment. 

SOCIALLY

Make an effort to say hi or goodbye to some people, even if you do not know them that well. If you’re up for it, ask them how they are going or how their day has been.

Start remembering names and birthdays. This will literally make people like you so much more, it’s so simple but people swoon over this. Process names in your mind and write down birthdays in your calendar. 

Don’t be afraid to talk to others. Most people do not care if you talk to them, and some are glad that you talk to them. This is how people become well-known or well-liked. 

Watch videos on how to converse with people you do not know well effectively and become close with them. TED x has a lot of videos on this, and are usually helpful. 

Don’t try to fit in with the crowd. It’s so draining, and even if you think they do, they most likely dislike you(sorry!) . Instead, find/be with your people. 

Join a club/extracurricular. You meet so many like-minded people this way, while still developing your own skills. I say everyone should at least have one solid extracurricular. 

If you are in a talking stage, three weeks is enough time for him or you to decide if you’re willing to date them. It’s not the 1920s anymore, we have imessages, facetime, skype and others to communicate and get to know each other without contact

Call out your friends if you notice them doing something toxic or generally anything they shouldn’t do. E.g gossiping, getting mad at others, bullying someone. If they continue, it will influence you in the long run.

MENTALLY 

Reframe your mindset. I know most of us do not favour school, but do not dwell on negativity and find ways to be positive/neutral about your circumstances. You’ll feel so much better.

Detach. Detachment is literally essential in highschool, there’s so much drama and most likely you will somehow get tied up in it. Stop absorbing what happens and let it influence you, observe what happens and learn from it. I have a post on this here. 

Start saying affirmations everyday. I know affs are usually viewed as a manifestation thing, but it doesn’t have to be. It can be a simple one minute way to cultivate a neutral/positive perspective of yourself. 

Journal. Things will happen, so journaling is a great way to discuss your circumstances, feelings, trauma, relationships etc and develop a sense of identity at the same time. I have a post on this here. 

Meditate. It can be go-go-go constantly, but just take a break and gain some mental clarity and see how much better you feel decluttering your mind. 

Embrace a change and growth mindset, especially in an environment where we are constantly required to adapt. 

PHYSICALLY

Start stretching.. seriously. You sit at a desk for like 5 hours a day excluding lunch and recess, everyday, which is of course going to do a number on your body. It can relieve pain in many different areas.

Have at least 1 form of exercise you do everyday. I know being students, we have to sit at a desk constantly. But, do not give up on practising good exercise habits. Not only can it help with results, it’s good for you.

Get the recommended sleep of 6-8 hours per night, which is good quality sleep without disruptions. It helps with long term memory and you’ll feel better. 

Start packing healthy but tasty lunches to school instead of buying. You’ll save so much money in the long run, and it’s better for your body. 

BEAUTY 

Get your uniforms tailored just a bit. Not too noticeable, but enough that it fits better on your body. Especially for button formal shirts, as they make you look 10 times as bulky than what you actually are. 

Buy new jewellery, earrings, necklaces or whatever you’re allowed. Subtle but noticeable jewellery makes girls look so pretty.

Learn new hairstyles!! Don’t just wear the same hair everyday, mix it up, it’s fun and makes you look attractive. 

Get a good eyebrow gel + clear mascara. Legit life changer, I look so much better everyday because I look put together without make up.

apply  vaseline on areas you would apply highlight, but avoid your eye area. 

Have a good skincare regime!! Being a student is stressful, getting pimples is a sign of stress. 

Okay that's it. Happy back to school everyone! Here’s an affirmation for you <3

I am intelligent and capable. I am skilled and confident in my abilities. I am perceived well by others. I am healthy. I am wealthy. I am looking for this term to be full of good grades, vibes, friends, growth and fun. 

this semester: beauty & brains 🎀🧠✏️

things i'm looking forward to:

❥ sitting in the front row of every class

❥ previewing the lectures so i know the content ahead of class

❥ being the classmate everyone wants to sit by b/c i know everything

❥ raising my hand & participating constantly

❥ being the teacher's pet & visiting them during office hours

❥ getting dolled up for class every day

❥ having a different shade of pink folder for each class

❥ stocking up on glittery pencils & pens

❥ using a cute pencil pouch

❥ packing snacks & my 32 oz water bottle daily

❥ studying in the library & distracting boys with my presence

❥ being the classmate everyone hopes they get paired up with for projects & assignments

❥ getting asked to tutor people & to join everyone's study groups

Latest trend this October…

Embracing your natural beauty ˚₊‧꒰ა ☆ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

• Minimal makeup that compliments your face. I go to school wearing Burt’s Bees tinted chapstick (literally my saviour 🤞) and that’s it. NOBODY CARES. LOVE YOUR FACE.

• Self care. Showering/bathing regularly. Exfoliating. Lip scrub. Moisturizing entire body. Beautiful natural products and scents. Gua sha (I will never stop talking about gua sha 😽🧘‍♀️). Hair oil. Simple skincare. Eyelash/eyebrow serum.

• Embrace the body hair, girl. This isn’t for everyone, but I say this because when I was WAYYY younger I would stress so much about shaving and needing to be hairless (and for what?). Now I only wax my underarms and below the knee, anything else I just trim.

• Healthy balanced diet. I’m talking eating nutritious, seasonal, whole foods that make you feel good (this does not mean restrict and only eat lettuce). NEVER SKIP OUT ON PROTEIN AND NUTRIENTS. + fibre if you’re not tying to get constipated.

• Affirmations and confidence. I am not lying when I tell you confidence and affirmations have changed my life. I’m still working on my confidence but it feels so good to compliment and love myself. I seriously be talking to the mirror like a crazy person 😭😭.

‘I love you so much. You did amazing today. You’re so smart. You’re so interesting. I love my body. I love my face. I’m so beautiful.’

Be confident and put yourself first.

Accept and celebrate your unique features <3

September will be filled with happiness.

September will be filled with blessings.

September will be filled with positivity.

September will be filled with progress.

September will be filled with kindness.

September will be filled with opportunity.

September will be filled with love.

Get Your Morning Started 🤍

I bet you already read dozens of morning routines but maybe I can offer you a few different tips and tricks with my step by step morning routine.

waking up early is essential to make the most out of the day. If you aren‘t an early bird, try different kinds of alarm clocks (light, nature sounds, etc).

After waking up make sure there is some water on your nightstand and drink it. Start hydrating!

Try to avoid your phone as long as possible - no one needs your attention that early in the morning. Be considerate and put your attention on yourself!

Don‘t make your bed. Srsly! Open your window and air your bedding first. Making your bed right after getting up is a safe place for mites. While ventilating the bedroom you can go the bathroom, prepare your drinks/breakfast, journal or meditate. Make your bed 30 min after leaving your bed.

Meditate. Light a candle or incense sticks. Roll out your fitness mat and choose between guided meditations or non guided meditations (I recommend guided for beginners, you can find some on YouTube or Spotify) meditation is key try to stick to it daily!

Journal for organisation and personal growth. 5 to 10 minutes only (!!!) there are many journals out there, I personally use the 5 Minute Journal but any journal would do. You can use a plain notepad and look up journaling ideas on pinterest I really don‘t want you to spend money on stuff you don‘t necessarily need just for the aesthetic.

Move your body honey! Do a YouTube workout or go for a run. Walk your staircase up and down do whatever you feel like doing but try to ignore your lazy bum trying to make you skip this. Get stared on this one you can thank me later.

Breakfast, baby. Nutrition and hydration is non-negotiable! Have your vegetables and fruits, drink your coffee or matcha, don’t forget to drink your lemon water. Don‘t skip breakfast to loose wait angel. Your organs need the calories to function during the day so treat yourself with love and consideration.

Keep calm and moisturise. Quick shower or wash to get ready for the day. Skincare is everything. I’m currently investing (and testing) Korean skincare for myself but a few products are key: cleanser -> toner -> antioxidant serum (vitamin c) -> eye cream -> moisturizer -> sunscreen

Make up and dress up. Find your personal style you feel comfortable with and you‘re good to go. You can look up outfit capsules on pinterest for wardrobe ideas. In terms of make up I personally think less is more. Mascara, lip oil, some rouge on the cheeks and vaseline and you‘re fine. I personally prefer a sleek hairstyle.

Listen to podcast. This step is easily combined with breakfast or getting ready. I‘m currently listening to Confessions by Anastazia but I’ll probably make a playlist with my fave podcast episodes from various podcasts and share it with you.

Bisous!

she’s an angel. she’s clean and she smells good. she always dresses cute and her lips r always glossy. she radiates angelic energy and attracts only lovely things. she has long, pampering morning and night routines. she works out everyday, eats healthy, and always makes sure she gets enough sleep. she does her skincare every morning and night. she’s sweet and charming and shows respect to everyone, while at the same time only allowing a sacred few to bask in her heavenly vibes. she is witty and intellectual, and always learning. she sees the good in everything. she stands up for what she believes in. her number one goal is to become the best version of herself. and of course, she knows that she is destined for happiness and success. ⋆ ˚｡⋆୨୧˚

darling i’m a nightmare , dressed like a daydream .

literally the cutest

i love fainting sofas❤︎

Money Making Vision Board for 2023🤑💰

This year we making money, attracting bags, staying paid, making moves, and stacking paper!

❥ bunny's dream life scripting series: part one - appearance!

to kick off my scripting series, i thought the best place to start would be with designing our outer appearances! our wonderful bodies carry us through the worlds we create, so why not make them as sparkly, delightful, and lovely as they can be? many people want to manifest a change in their bodies or change in the way they perceive their bodies, and this is a fun way to get super specific about what you want.

how to begin:

first, make sure you have an open notes app or journal to write down your ideas! then take a look at the "dream appearance ideas" section to see if you'd like to include any of them in your appearance. if none of them appeal to you, you can use that self-knowledge to create something that sounds even better! the ideas i've generated are just a starting point for your own magical ideas.

then, use the template below the "dream appearance ideas" section to start designing your own! you can be as vague or as specific as you like. for example, with height you could write something as vague as "tall" or as specific as "6'0," - write whatever makes sense for you for each section!

note: some of these are "illogical" (my fave), some of these are natural, and some of them are just plain fun. some people might want all of these for their appearance, and some people might want the opposite of these listed below. that's the fun part - you decide what you want in your dream life, no one else! no body is better than any other body - it all comes down to what makes you feel the best, and getting specific with what YOU want is what this series is all about!

bunny's dream appearance ideas:

hair, skin, and nails:

your hair is always soft, clean, and voluminous; you never have to wash or style your hair for it to look amazing

your hair always looks perfect, no matter the weather or what you do to it

your haircuts always look amazing; bad haircuts don't exist for you!

your hair colour can change with the snap of your fingers

whenever you dye or bleach your hair it turns out perfectly

your hair grows super fast, healthily, or;

your hair always stays the same length and doesn't grow, healthily

your skin is always smooth and perfect with no need for skincare products, or;

every skincare product you use makes your skill look more and more beautiful

every skincare product is compatible with your skin, you never have to worry about damage or breakouts

your nails are always at the perfect length and don't grow past what you want

you only have body hair where you want it to be; you never have to shave or pluck again if you don't want to

you never sweat, and it's healthy for that to be the case, or;

you do sweat, but you always smell perfect either way

facial features and face shape:

you have a mythical eye colour (pink, bright purple, etc.)

your eyes are literally sparkly/glittery

your pupils are shaped like hearts, stars, or other shapes

your eyes are never dry or irritated

you have long, beautiful eyelashes

you have regular freckles, freckles in the shape of stars, etc.

your eyebrows are the perfect shape always and never need plucking

you never have anything stuck in your teeth

you have perfect "mewing posture"

body and posture:

your body is the perfect size, height, and weight for you

you feel confident and comfortable with your body at all times

you have your ideal posture

your walk is confident, attractive, mysterious

your walk is ethereal, graceful

you always smell clean and like your signature scent

template for the specifics of your dream appearance:

now comes the fun part - fill in the blanks with absolutely anything you desire! nothing is off limits or impossible, whether it seems "illogical" or not! write your absolute ideal, what makes you feel the most confident, excited, and happy, and know that all is possible! you can use the ideas that i provided above or you can come up with your own. my ideas are just a starting point - get creative and have fun!

facial features and hair:

eye colour:

eye shape:

eyebrow shape:

nose shape:

lip shape and qualities:

lip colour:

ear shape:

face shape:

words that describe my face:

words that describe my smile:

words that describe my eyes:

other fun characteristics:

hair and skin:

hair colour:

hair style:

hair qualities:

skin colour:

skin qualities:

other fun characteristics:

body, posture, and scent:

height:

weight:

body shape:

hand shape:

nail length:

posture:

walk style:

signature scent:

beauty marks or scars:

other fun characteristics:

REPROGRAM or TRAIN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS FOR THE VOID !

Hey everyone! I hope u all are doing well <3 This is going to be a simple , short and yet very effective method on how u can reprogram your subconscious to enter the void state

Ok...so I know this is going to sound a little weird but throughout the day say what you're doing as u do it

For example : You pick up your water bottle SAY "I picked up my water bottle " ( you can say it in your head too but if you're alone do it out loud )

This way when u will do it as you try to enter , your mind will be like " Oh yeahh they've doing this all day , it's fr " and you'll enter the void instantly since your mind is already used to it

Good Luck Loviees ! ♡