Great Post.

How to transform her into a hot wife.

Practice Tip #1

Get her to sign up for a Tinder account.

Going from average girlfriend or wife to hotwife requires a certain change in mindset. You have to get her to see her sexuality as something good, powerful and fun. It is often disastrous to bluntly ask a girlfriend or wife to cuck you because that could be jarring and confusing. Instead approach the lifestyle obliquely. Build her self confidence. Tinder offers a great opportunity and platform to make flirting fun and easy. Tell her you want to have some fun on Tinder by creating an “alternate ego” for her on Tinder. Buy her some sexy outfits and spend a Saturday at some interesting places taking photos for her profile. Once the account is set up the two of you can spend time scrolling through guys she finds attractive (just for fun) of course. This activity alone will stimulate your cuck clit and lead to hours of stroking

It won’t be long before she and other guys start matching and “chatting”. Take it slow. Make it a game. Use these results in your sex and masturbation fantasies together. When this stage loses its titillation she’ll be ready to take another step like meet one of the guys for a date. You can watch these dates from across the bar. After each date, meet her at home and pound her wet pussy as she tells you about her date.

As her confidence builds and she is secure that these fantasies are strengthening your love and sex life , she’ll be ready to take one of these dates home and suck his cock while you watch surreptitiously. Soon she’ll be wearing anklets and riding random hot cocks for you whenever you want her to (Practice tip #2 coming soon)😘

Defining things... naming is inherent to human nature; here a set of definitions worth to be shared in order to get a better understanding.

Terms & Definitions:

Swingers: Typically a couple in which both partners are allowed to engage in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, often referred to as “full swap.”

Hotwife:  A wife who has her husband’s permission to engage in sexual activities with other men. Also the term used to describe the fantasy with the same scenario. In this relationship all extra marital activities are approved of by the husband. Trust, respect, and the couple’s love for each other are central to the relationship.

Cuckold: A man in a relationship with a woman who engages in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, usually with a level of cheating and or humiliation. -Cuckolding

Cuckoldress: The female half of a cuckold relationship. A woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband, usually imposing a level humiliation on her husband about her extra marital activities.

Vixen: One term used to describe a woman in a Hotwife relationship.

Stag: One term used to describe a strong male figure in a Hotwife relationship.

Cucky: A humiliating term used to describe a man in a cuckold relationship.

Bull: The name often given to a wife’s repeat lover in a hotwife or cuckold arrangement

Reclaim: A term used to describe the passionate sex couples often experience the first time they have sex after one of them has has sex with someone outside of their relationship.

Hall Pass: Often used to describe a onetime “free pass” given to one of the members in a relationship to enjoy one sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship.

Half Open Marriage: Used to describe a relationship in which one member of the relationship has the other‘s permission to enjoy complete sexual freedom, while the one remains completely faithful.

Shared Wife: A wife whose husband “shares” her sexually with other men.

MFM: A three some involving two men and one woman. In this arrangement the men are straight and focus on the woman.

MMF: A three some involving two men and one woman in which the men are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the woman.

FMF: A three some involving two women and one man. In this arrangement the women are straight and focus on the man.

FFM: A three some involving two women and one man in which the women are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the man.

Humiliation: A sexual kink which usually involves the woman verbally abusing the man about his inadequacies and inability to satisfy her, most often because of his penis size or his lack of stamina.  

Tease and Denial: One partner sexually teases and leads the other on, only to get them excited and then deny them sexual gratification.

Edging: Binging a person right to the edge of orgasm and then slowing or stopping sexual activities thus denying them the pleasure of orgasm.

Ruined Orgasm: Bringing a person right to the point of orgasm, and then stopping resulting in a weak orgasm. This is usually achieved through the use of oral sex or masturbation.

SPH: Small Penis Humiliation, verbal abuse used to humiliate a man about his lack of length and or girth.

Male Chastity: A kink in which the man is most often secured in a chastity device, referred to as a cock cage, and is denied the pleasures of sexual intercourse as well as masturbation.  Couples who engage in this kink often try to push the boundaries of how long the man can go without sexual release. This fetish often includes a level of humiliation as well.

Cock Cage: A metal or plastic device which locks to secure the penis. It is used impede the man’s ability to masturbate as well as achieve a full erection without being release by his key holder.

Key Holder: Most often the wife of a man confined to a cock cage. The key holder has full authority over the man’s ability to and the frequency of orgasms allowed. Often the key holder will use time in the cock cage as a punishment for her dissatisfaction with something the man has said or done.

Pegging: Used to describe a fetish in which the female uses a sex toy or strap on to perform anal sex on her male partner.

Wife Breeding: A fetish in which the wife is involved in unprotected sex with men other than her husband. The men ejaculate in the wife, thus presenting the possibility of pregnancy by men other than the husband.

Clean Up: An activity in which the man cleans up a woman after she has had sex with another man. Most often this is done after a lover has ejaculated into the woman’s vagina and the woman’s partner performs oral sex on her licking up as much of the other man’s sperm as possible.

Sloppy Seconds: A term used to describe the act of having sex with a woman after she has already had sex with another man. Most often after the first man has ejaculated inside of the woman’s vagina creating a “sloppy” situation for the second man.

Size Queen: A woman who prefers man with very large penises. Often with minimum size requirements which must be met before she will engage in sexual intercourse with a man.

BBC: Big Black Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a black man.

BWC: Big White Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a white man.

Queen Of Spades: The name sometimes given to a white woman who prefers sex with black men, often with above average penises.

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Great advice!

Looking to get my gf into the lifestyle or even just open up more sexually without telling her outright, any tips would be welcome!

Show her you love her.

not just in your words, but in your actions too. buy her flowers, buy her a card for no reason, help her around the house, and don’t forget to tell her you love her. Both men and women need to hear “I love you.”

Build her confidence.

Compliment her, tell her she is beautiful, tell her she looks nice in certain outfits, etc. If she has a nice ass, tell her. If she has great tits, tell her.It is important that the compliments are sincere. She will know if you are faking it.  During sex tell her how good it feels, how good she feels, how good she tastes. Tell her how good she is at sucking dick or how good her pussy feels.

Make her feel safe.

She has fantasies, even if she does not tell them to you or says she doesn’t. Open up about something you have never shared. She her it is safe. You’re together and you’re not going to judge each other.

Be honest.

If she asks you a question, no matter how embarrassing or hard the answer is, be honest. Trust is key to a woman’s ability to open up sexually.

Share some porn.

Text her a sexy picture or see if she will watch a porno with you. This is a great way to introduce kinks or to get the conversation started.

TALK.

After you have watched some porn or shared a few tumblr pics, flirt and tease about them. See if she is receptive. If she resists, back off and try again at another time. Once you plant the seed, water it from time to time and her mind will do the rest. She may be into some of the same things, but like you she does not know hot to bring them up. Crack the door for her.

You may need to do these steps for a several months before she starts to feel secure enough to open up, so have patience. If you rush it or try to force it, she will retreat. Remember your relationship should always come before sexual fantasies. Our fantasies are part of who we are, but we all guard them for fear of judgment or rejection. It is YOUR job to take those fears away from her and provide the environment she needs to relax and let go of her fears.

I hope this helps and good luck.

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Great post, you were very patient and got your reward. Thanks for sharing your experience and your amazing wife ;-) congrats man.

How did you get her to start fucking other guys. Did you start with swapping first or threesomes? Did it take long to convince her and was she keen to continue after the first. Did she want the same guy or to try others? Sorry for all the questions but am very interested and envious of you.

It took a very long time.  For years I talked about the fantasy of watching her fuck other guys- threesomes, gangbangs, etc.  She would always get very hot in bed with these fantasies.  Slowly talked her into swinging, which led to MFM threesomes, and then her just fucking guys while I was there, and then her fucking guys when I wasn’t there.  It was a progression and it took about a decade to get where we are now.  She did love fucking other guys, and at times she craves new cock, and other times her religious upbringing makes her feel guilty, so it comes and goes.  She does prefer to have one guy at a time, that is a regular fuckbuddy, but she is open to having multiple play partners.  Hope this helps.

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Who Knew “Just Watching” Could Be So Much Fun?

To Those Men Who Want To Watch Or Enjoy Watching Their Wife With Someone Else:

Until recently it’s been the prevailing opinion that the desire to want your wife to be fucked by someone else makes you a weak man…a pathetic & effeminate loser who lets his wife do whatever she wants to him.

But we know now that’s not true, is it?

Thanks to pioneers like @stagnationhw , @hotwivesandgames, @allaboutthehotwifelife, @oursexyexploration, and many others—we know now that there exists throngs of other men who have the desire of wanting to share their wives, sans any humiliation*. These other men are strong, independent, masculine, & secure. 

*no judgment or shade towards men who do like humiliation

We know for them that it’s not about letting your wife walk all over you because she can and because you’re too “weak” to control her, no…

Rather it’s about giving your assent, your consent, your “permission”, your encouragement and support to her so she can embrace her inner naughty side… the “darker” or “sluttier” shades of her sexuality, so to speak.

It’s about being secure enough in yourself and who you are, in your relationship with your wife and with what the two of you share so that you can identify and embrace and explore this desire you have.

For you, it’s not about weakness. It’s about strength.

It’s not about getting walked on; it’s about not being afraid to walk on the path less trodden.

It’s not about a lack of choice; it’s about a willing decision.

You’re a Stag, a Stag Cuckold, a Hotwife Husband. You are what you choose to call yourself. 

But what’s more is that you’re more of a man than those who criticize and judge your desires and choices because of their own fears and insecurities.

I say fuck closemindedness, and fuck the outdated Puritanical constraints society tries to impose upon you and shackle down your desires.

I say embrace them, because that’s what being strong is all about!

Your blog gets me sooooo wet. I’ve always loved the thought of banging multiple dudes. Then my hubby admitted to wanting to share me and when I asked how long he said he’d never even been interested in wife sharing until he met me and that turns me on in itself. Trying to work up the courage to post a pic of my big pierced tits on here and see how many guys would be willing to fuck me ;)

Some women are naturally sluttier than others. These women have a high libido and can basically have anything they want once they realize the power of their pussy. Your husband realized this and put you on a pedestal fast. He wants a HotWife not a cheating wife.

And yes, show us your tits, but also show us that freshly fucked pussy once in awhile so we know you’re not all talk.

#slut confession 

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I like all of the "kinks" you explore on your blog and tend to agree with you about how they are natural and evolutionary advantageous. I would love my wife to partake in bareback with some else than me, group sex, multiple partners, threesome, and double vaginal-however, there are also evolutionary reasons why culture has developed to limit these tendencies-STDs-viruses, bacteria, & other microorganisms! An argument can be made that prudish cultural norms took hold to limit our cheating urges.

Real talk for a minute. You should be getting tested, and verifying that the partners you hook up are tested too. 

Most clinics have an online portal so you really just need to go in, pee in a cup, and let them draw some blood. It’s not expensive and you can screenshot the results to prove you’re clean. Women can often just request these tests when they go in for their pap smear.

If your future fuck buddy doesn’t want to get tested then they are either dirty, broke, or lazy. 

Bareback is better, but I don’t play roulette with my health.

#get tested or GTFO