Being aromantic, asexual, or aspec in any amount does not make you inhuman, sick, or in need of treatment. You are wonderful as you are
Context: [Link 1, Link 2]
this is something that’s been lost as common knowledge both since the drop off of anti-ace discourse and directly Because of it ever having been a thing in the first place, but in light of recent published bigotry pointed at aspecs (aces And aros) gaining attention I think this is something that bares emphasizing:
this reaction isn’t new, it’s something we’ve seen from conservatives for decades now.
a commonly accepted talking point is that conservative christians Must love aspec people, because they represent the theoretical ideal of abstinence. it’s something that I see even from spaces that Aren’t using it as a weapon against aspecs, and in a vacuum it makes sense as an Assumption.
but the thing it misses is that conservative christians do not think asexual and aromantic people Are Real. when they idolize abstinence it’s as a great sacrifice that one makes to defeat the Universal Demon Of Lust. and, more importantly, It’s Something That’s Supposed To End. you’re Supposed to get into a nice heterosexual christian marriage and have lots of little babies that you take to your nice heterosexual christian church, repeated ad infinitum.
and moreover, both christians and popular society In General see our ability for romantic love as The Thing That Makes Humans Human.
so you introduce the concept of people who Don’t experience either of those things and you get two reactions.
1: horror. the “this is a mental/physical illness that desperately needs to be fixed” approach. the idea is monstrous or pitiable but always revolting. they Believe that you live this way, but they don’t believe that it’s something that a “normal” human being could experience or that it’s something that someone could be Happy experiencing.
2: Suspicion. they don’t believe that asexuality or aromanticism Is Real, therefore it Must be a coverup for something even more revolting than is being lead on. it’s not unlike the idea that any feminine or non-threatening trait in a guy (Any guy) is Really just him trying to lure women into a false sense of security by Being seemingly non-threatening, and is therefore even More suspicious as a potential threat.
we’ve Always seen “well if he doesn’t want to fuck humans then I’ll Bet He Wants To Fuck Something Else” and pedophilia accusations/implications. they don’t see aspecs as Pure and Holy, they see them as a threat either to their understanding of what humans can be or as a wolf in sheep’s clothing trying to get away with something.
this is hardly even the first time that aspecs have been presented this way in published news articles or tv. the difference is that public awareness of asexuality and aromanticism has shifted, and with it the bigotry that was always there is being amplified.
that said, I think it’s important to emphasize that this isn’t new, considering the history of erasure ace and aro people have experienced when trying to talk about said bigotry.
I don’t necessarily think this post needs “evidence” (especially with the fox news article already linked above), but for the sake of illustration lets turn back the clock to 2015 for one of the examples I have saved [Link]
To every aspec: I am proud of you.
To aspecs who are out and loud about your aspec identities: I am proud of you. Keep on being true to yourself. You inspire us all.
To aspecs who can’t or don’t want to come out yet: I am proud of you. Take all the time you need. We are waiting with open arms to welcome you when you are ready.
To aspecs who don’t ever plan to come out: I am proud of you. To put your safety and comfort first is an act of pride in and of itself. You don’t need anyone’s approval but your own.
To aspecs who love being aspec: I am proud of you. Your joy is revolutionary.
To aspecs who don’t love being aspec: I am proud of you. It’s hard, but you keep going anyway.
To people who aren’t sure where they fall on the a-spectrums, or if they do at all: I am proud of you. It takes courage to find answers, and you are doing so well.
To the aspec reading this right now: I am proud of you. Wherever you are in your journey. I hope you are proud of yourself too because honestly? You are amazing. You make our community better by being in it. Thank you.
Ok y’all, I need you to drop links for free binder services. It’s November which means that parents won’t think it’s odd for their children to request that they not inspect packages. They’ll simply assume it’s a present for whatever holiday they observe. So please do your part by dropping links in the reblogs and trying to get this seen by those who need it
edit: k, so I mean this in nicest way possible. Liking isn’t going to help anyone. This isn’t just for me, other people need these links. If you if you can’t/don’t have the energy to find and post links to ACTIVE donations. Please at least reblog so someone who follows you can. Please and thank you <3
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**URGENT: PLEASE READ/SIGNAL BOOST**
Monday, May 15th: Hello everyone, I’m Gemma, a bi, mentally ill, and disabled woman in desperate need of help, as I'm still struggling to pay my rent which is two weeks overdue.
As most of you are already aware from my previous posts, I have been struggling financially these past few years due to Covid-19 and my welfare benefit (Universal Credit) being under continuous reviews, which is due to my worsening mental/physical health and the UK’s controversial changes to how benefits are assessed and assigned. And after a lengthy health assessment, I have been declared not to be fit for work, however, I am still waiting for the outcome of my Adult Disability application, which I applied for back in January.
To be quite honest, these past few months have been absolute hell for me, and with no other income, I've been relying on the kindness of others to get by. However, due to my outstanding debt, my benefit last month was taken and I wasn't able to pay my rent or utilities, and the funds that I received to pay off everything were recently taken by more overdue bills and fees. (I missed a council tax payment and was charged for the full years amount.)
If anyone could spare any amount to help me, even if it’s just £1/$1/€1, it would save my life, and sharing definitely helps just as much. Thank you so much for all your help!! ❤
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My dear lgbt+ kids,
Did you know „conversion therapy“ is still not banned in most European countries?
Conversion therapy describes cruel, abusive attempts to force someone to change their sexual orientation or gender identity. It has been proven to not only not work but also cause lasting damage and trauma and greatly increase suicide risks. The United Nations has qualified it as what it is: torture.
This official petition is calling on the European Commission to do three important things:
Ban conversion practices across the EU – by proposing a new law or strengthening existing ones.
Protect victims – by updating victim rights laws so survivors get the support they deserve.
Make sure all EU countries act – either by introducing a ban or improving weak laws.
SIGN THE PETITION HERE
They need 1 million signatures from EU citizens by tomorrow (May 17, 2025) to make the EU act. This is not just a symbolic number! If they reach that number, the European Commission is legally required to respond and consider turning it into law.
At the time of writing this, they have reached 915,945 signatures.
If you’re from Europe, please consider signing (it’s easy and safe). If you’re not from Europe, please consider sharing!
With all my love,
Your Tumblr Dad
i lost my job two months ago but luckily i’m about to start a new job on Monday. unfortunately i have to wait 4 more weeks since i get paid biweekly to get my first paycheck
we were just only barely able to pay rent with my girlfriends SSI so we’re struggling. i had to miss my last two testosterone doses and i feel horrible. we’ve been eating as little as possible to try to get by but it hasnt been enough
please boost if you see this, i really need to be able to get groceries and our prescriptions so i can be able to start work to support us
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This site has been going around Twitter trans accounts quite a bit lately, so just pointing out here too that it'll do fuck all, they're exploiting trans people at a time when hrt is particularly hard to access and please don't give them your money
Some of you might have seen me complaining about my dissertation recently and I would really appreciate it if anyone could take some time to fill in this survey for my research.
I’m looking into the idea of rainbow washing and whether brands using the pride logo and being inclusive in their adverts actually convinces people that they’re an inclusive company for the LGBTQ+ community - or if we’re all just cynical about corporations using pride for profit.
hey guys. my name’s chris. i was born christina. from the time I was five years old, I knew I was trans. and I spent my high school years being picked on for being too boyish. Art was my escape. Through art, I could draw my body exactly how I wanted it to look.
This year I turned 18, and finally told my mom and dad I’m trans. I wanted to do it before Christmas, so I could spend my first Christmas out of hiding. I knew my parents would be upset, but I didn’t expect them to kick me out.
Sadly, they turned on me. they said they loved me, but that i’d be a bad influence on my five-year-old brother. a big part of me is relieved that I’ll be out of the house, but the other part of me is freaking the fuck out. i’m jobless and broke. i have three more weeks before I have to pay rent and groceries all on my own. I’ll be looking for a job, but in the meantime I'm desperate to have the security of a month’s rent.
Please PLEASE help me. if you can even give $5 … it will help so much.
My dear lgbt+ kids,
I want to share a petition with you:
"Switzerland currently does not recognize the right to surviving spouse AVS (Social Security) benefits for LGBT+ widows and widowers, while heterosexual widows receive full benefits under the law.
Traditionally, following the death of a husband, a widow is granted a widow's pension. However, the government still denies a widows pension to lesbian widows who meet the same criteria.
Take the case of Beatriz Hernandez, legally married to her Swiss wife for many years before her wife’s unfortunate death (...)
When her wife died in 2015, Beatriz filed for the spousal survivor benefits. The Swiss government, however, denied her the surviving pension on the argument that she could not be a widow because she was married to a woman. (...)
We call on the Swiss Government to recognise the constitutional rights of LGBT+ widows and widowers immediately, by granting and paying out the survivor rights which they have funded and earned as Swiss citizens over a lifetime of contributions.
A widow's pension must be granted regardless of the sexual orientation of a woman who loses her spouse."
Sign here!
With all my love,
Your Tumblr Dad