If You Are Having Trouble With Eating:

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pride parade in san francisco june 2017 // ig. @isisilvach 

When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:

“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”

Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either. 

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This is the most bizarre yet pure thing I’ve ever encountered on grindr

dont underestimate the power of kindness. strength is not being cold hearted and aloof, it’s being amicable in the face of bitterness or gentle with those who need to be loved. so please, if nothing else, be kind.

What to do if you meet a toxic “professional”

I met a shit doctor today. They shamed me and blamed me for my illness, treated me like a drug addict for needing anti depressants, refused to give me enough to last til next appointment… Made us cry, gave me a panic attack and shamed me for being an adult with special needs and dependent on my parents. Aggressively gave bad information. I will be reporting them to the psychiatry board, but in the meantime, I want to tell people what I learned.

If someone makes you uncomfortable, professional or not, tell them and if they continue just leave! You can walk away!

You don’t owe anyone apologies for who you are or for having an illness

Read online reviews before seeing someone, check for red flags. I wish I had! They had similar experiences! Almost exactly the same.

If someone constantly interrupts you when it’s your turn to talk, they are out of line.

I’m a trauma survivor. It’s hard for me to say no. You can say no. You don’t have to sign things against your will.

Take a friend or family member who will have your back.

Please don’t give up hope on finding treatment from a bad experience, try again when you are ready.

Prepare some phrases if you need help to walk away. “I don’t think we are a good match, I will be leaving now.” Is more than acceptable.

In hindsight, I could have called the police or someone, don’t be afraid to step out and do that. Especially if they hurt you physically, that’s assault!

I hope this helps someone.

friendly reminder: bad choices, bad pasts, and bad habits don’t define you as a person