I’m About To Save You Thousands Of Dollars In Therapy By Teaching You What I Learned Paying Thousands

I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

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starz8nk

4 months ago

if u call me baby in that soft voice i’ll do whatever u want me to do

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4 months ago

I just want someone to hold me while I cry. Not tell me its alright or try to make it better, just hold me and kiss my hair. Let me talk about what's making me upset and wipe my tears with your thumbs and kiss my cheeks afterwards. And if I fall asleep in your arms...?

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starz8nk

5 months ago

If you think about it isn't that the opposite of being a vampire

Born to be a vampire

Forced to be human

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Imagine a sphere of a colourful light floating in the void. It's all shiny and sparkly and emits a warm glow. That is a dimension in the multidimensional void. That is a whole universe, with all of its planes of existence.

In this reality, there are many planes of existence. Your reality, so the one you are seeing this post in, and all the afterlives, and all the other planes, like the one Fae realm.

Picture it as layers, as separate spheres, they all belong to one universe.

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starz8nk

5 months ago

Idk who needs to hear this but it's not misogynistic to call out women who treat queer men as sexual objects. That is the meaning of the word, and why fujoshi means "rotten girl". They're basically an even worse version of girls who want a "gay best friend" as an accessory, and the female version of men who want to see girls in the bar make out because it's "hot". Anyone who tells you otherwise is not only blatantly lying to you, but dangerously homophobic and should be avoided at all costs.

Also, as a trans man who has been in plenty of fujoshi spaces in the past, they are infinitely more transphobic than people who use the term correctly (as in not using it on gay trans men living their lives, but actual fetishizers). But what the fuck would my cuntboy ass know am I right.

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