Doing Important Research On This Fine Sunday Morning

Abuser’s entire play doesn’t make sense when you take it that they mean what they say. They’ll call you selfish, heartless, too sensitive, worthless, a burden, and then turn around and  make sure that you cannot possibly leave their life. Just how is it possible that you are soo horrible and the worst person ever to have around, but they also make sure you have absolutely no way to get away from them? They’ll go and convince you that you’re lucky they tolerate you, that nobody else could possibly want you around or deal with your problems, but then they also do everything in their power to stop you from leaving or from even trying to find someone better to test that theory.

And if you go and call it out, if you say ‘if I’m so selfish and sensitive and awful then why don’t you find someone else to sell this shit to’, then suddenly their game changes, then they didn’t mean it, then their words suddenly have different, hidden meanings that you should have comprehended (even though in the moment they said it, it was 100% to make you feel like the worst human being possible), and you’re supposed to always assume they say horrid shit to you because they’re upset, or because they ‘care too much’.

Abusers give themselves the privilege to change the meaning of their behaviour daily, if it achieves a goal for them on one day, and then doesn’t on another, then it meant something else that will achieve the same goal (making you feel guilty and stupid and enable them to control you more easily). Whatever they said or promised or implied, in order to make you compliant and do what they say, is no longer valid as soon as you’ve done as they say.

You, however, need to be 100% clear with what you say and what it means, and you’ll be called out for saying something little to the left of the truth 3 years ago. You have to consider how your words make them feel, what situation it puts them in, how it affects their life. Their words, however, have absolutely nothing standing behind it, and if you call it out you’re stupid, if you assume they’re for real, you’re also stupid for assuming that. There’s no way to win. Their words are only there for the sake of manipulation, they don’t stand behind a single sentence the say.

Amphibiuary 2024: Day 17 - robot

Robo frog will fix your car 🚗

I *firmly* believe Karlach snapped her own horn off so she could sleep on her side in Avernus. Anyways, here's some more silly wholesome headcanons. ✨💛✨

I still only know the bare minimum about Baldur's gate, bc I haven't had the time to play it, but I'm a big fan of Astarion's bat form specifically. Like yes ok he's hot and flamboyant as an elf, whatever, BUT OMG LOOK AT ALL THE SKRUNKLY LITTLE GUY FANART PEOPLE HAVE DRAWN OF HIM AS A BAT.

big acting announcement coming on Tuesday :P

would not be shocked

“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”

Note to self… do not listen to " You matter to me" from Waitress while drawing bloodweave ...

IMPORTANT!!!

that is all

while we're on the topic of talking about changes the pjo show made that i love, im glad they didn't push the whole Annabeth saying she and Percy *have* to be enemies because athena and Poseidon have beef. Instead she's just this cryptid autistic strategist 12 yr old who stalks Percy and pushes him into the water. She's like "hmm this white boy will perfectly serve my purpose and schemes" and she's so real for that