We've Figured Ourselves Out A Bunch More Now And Realized That Our MDD Was 100% Bleeding Into Our System

(dont ask why it took 3 minutes to find the lenny face i got confused)

Plural POV #32

You find that most of your headmates are excellent company for toddlers - afterall, most of you are aquainted very well with people who are only now taking their first steps in this world, and have lots and lots and lots of simple, or annoying, or difficult, or complex questions to ask, and you know how to easily explain a lot of seemingly hard to grasp concepts because of that. Moreover, your sixth sense for when the littles are plotting trouble is really useful in such situations.

I’m the host of our system. For those who may not know, that means I front the most and am generally in charge of day-to-day activities and responsibilities.

I am also a front bound host. Or front locked, front stuck, front sticky, whatever other terms you may know. This means, more or less, that I cannot leave front, at least not fully. I’m always aware of the outside to some extent and I have extremely little access to our headspace/innerworld.

For me and our system, this means a lot of things. It means that I’m the person most people outside know. It means that I make most of our decisions and generally get more authority over our life (for better or for worse). It means that I don’t get breaks. It means that majority of the time, the other members of our system can’t really front without going through me, blending with me, being covered by me.

I believe it’s unfair to live like this. The rest of my system doesn’t really get to fully be themselves on the outside. They don’t get to have their own lives, their own friends, their own body.

And for me, I can’t experience the inside. I’m cut off from the inner world/headspace, I’m cut off from anyone who isn’t also in/near front, our memories get all weird while fronting in order to keep things from me.

I have so much responsibility and yet all I really feel like is “the default”.

My headmates feel so special to me. So unique. Like they have purpose. And I know I do too, but half the time, all I feel like is another mask.

I don’t really get to know myself outside of the body. I don’t get to experience the inner world. I cannot physically interact with my headmates the same way they can with each other and it’s honestly isolating.

My job is to be the default, the mask, the “normal”. I’m not normal. Not generally speaking at least. Im neurodivergent, im queer, im weird. I’m still traumatized, I just experience it through frosted glass and ear muffs. But I still feel like the most “normal” person in this system

I feel like the most boring, the most unimportant, because I don’t even have a choice. None of us do. I have to be like this, I have to be in charge of everything, and I’m not even good at it. I don’t get it. I don’t get why I was placed in this role but there doesn’t seem to be any way to change it.

So I try my best at least.

I feel weird even talking about my experience being plural because being a frontbound host it feels like every aspect of me being plural is just the times that I’m not me. I feel like I’m telling other peoples stories, even when I’m involved.

I hate feeling like this is my system or my life because it’s not. I’m not the only one here. Me being the default doesn’t make me any more real or important than the others yet I’m practically forced to act that way cause that’s how everyone sees it.

But when I’m not saying everything is mine, it almost feels like nothing is, especially when it comes to being plural.

If it weren’t for my headmates existing, my life wouldn’t be different from any other singlet because Im always out. All of my plurality is tied to what the other people in my head do or experience and I wouldn’t experience any of that without them. It feels like the only thing that’s special about my plurality is my headmates.

They’re their own people, and they only get to express themselves openly on rare occasions. It almost feels like me talking about myself the same way they do is taking away from that because I already do that on my non-system accounts all the time. I’m the only one who ever gets to not be plural all the time, I’m the only one who gets to present as “normal” if I choose to

But it sucks feeling like I have to. It sucks feeling like this is all I am. I’m plural too. I’m part of this system, but because I’m frontbound, it doesn’t really feel like it. It feels like I’m a singlet who just watches the rest of my headmates do whatever without really being part of that plural experience or when they’re not fronting I’m just alone entirely and it’s weirdly isolating.

Frankly I’m not sure if there’s a point to this, I was just struggling to come up with ideas of what to make a comic about and it turned into this ramble. I figured some people could relate at the very least so I decided to turn it into a post anyways.

-🦩 (Jameson/Jamie, he/they/it)

decoration i found at a thrift store

[ID: a simple black decoration with white text that reads: If you see me talking to myself, just move along... We're having a team meeting. / end ID]

WEEE!! WEEEE!!! WEEE!!! YAYYY!! YIPPIE! WAHOO! AWAWAWA!!! WEE WEE WAA WAA WAA! ZWEEM !! BABABABA! YAHOOO WEE YAY WYEE !! WEWEWEE!!

It's all fun and games until a system mate comes to Co-con while you're showering.

He wolf whistled at me and called me a "Tumblr sexyman"...

Goddamn it, Toya. /aff

Plural positivity cus we felt like it!!

[plain text: Plural positivity cus we felt like it!!]

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You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you're traumagenic/disordered and support endos

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you're mixed origins

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you're endogenic

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you're blurry all the time

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you don't have a headspace

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you're frontstuck

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you consider yourself one due to imaginary friends/imagis

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you have "too high" of a headcount

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you have "too low" of a headcount

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you only have non-human headmates

You're still a real system/plural/etc. if you only have human headmates

You're still a real system/plural/etc. No matter what anyone tells you!

[Plaintext: You're still a real system/plural/etc. No matter what anyone tells you!]

some quick things you can do that may help you feel a little better. pick one and see if it helps!

- brush your teeth

- take a shower or bath, or wash your face

- put away five things that are out of place

- cuddle a pet, plushie, or beloved object

- eat something, either a snack or a full meal

- drink water!

- go for a walk outside

- close your eyes breathe deeply for ten seconds

- make a checklist of things you need to do

- call or text a loved one

- journal

- check in with your headmates to see how each other is doing

it can be hard to look after ourselves when we’re suicidal, but you are worth it. please take care of yourselves today. we hope that doing something small for your own health may improve your mood, if only a little.

reach out if you want to brag about how you’ve cared for yourselves lately, or if you need a little encouragement. we love you.

new thing we’re trying out for our system

we’re calling them “Please do not front” or “DNI” songs.

basically we each assign ourself one and when that song is playing we don’t front.

this could be for many reasons, such as; a headmate is handling a subject that another is sensitive to, a headmate leaving front because they’re not doing well and needing reminders in case they forget and try to front again, someone else needing to hold front, etc.

they basically just act as a warning, not everyone has one yet but those who do are as follows;

Vesper - // Daddy Issues \\

Nikki - // Nothing’s new \\

and I think some1 else has one but I can’t remember who (-Nikki)

(Edit from Ves):

Luka - // The Ballad of Jane Doe \\