When You're Nonbinary Cis People Will Constantly Try To Shove You Back Into The Binary, And You'll Think

The fact that nonbinary and genderqueer people assigned male at birth (and more people, but it's hard to sum up a diverse group in one phrase) are so hyperinvisible really sucks.

Like the fact that there are so many posts like "oh you thought they were men but they're actually butches" but no one ever acknowledges that there could be femme gays who look like women. Transfemininity is forced into a binary of "cis man who's kind of fruity" or trans woman with no consideration for anyone who lives on the spectrum between the two or outside of it. Like people will make room for "not a woman but yes a lesbian" (dgmw they don't respect trans butches and lesbians, but they'll acknowledge they exist and pay lip service (even if it sucks, I'm talking you "non men loving non men")) but no one ever considers people like me who are the mirror image of: not a man but yes a fag (there isn't an equivalent word even that isn't a slur, reclaimed or not). People effectively deny any nuance or gender exploration to those they view as "male" while patronizingly pseudo acknowledging that of those they view as "female" and it sucks

I'm not a cis man I'm not a woman I exist not every nonbinary person is "woman lite" (and treating nonbinary people like that is shit on its own)

this is exorsexism.

This is a post I’ve wanted to make for a while. What with a lot of the discourse.

AGABpunk people with OCD, with intrusive thoughts about morality, you are not terrible people. You are not terrible people for feeling most connected to being transfem, or being transmasc, or being cis. Even if your assigned gender doesn’t “match” what is expected for those labels. You’re also not a terrible person for self-assigning an AGAB. Or for using neoAGABs. You have committed no crime and you don’t need to do “penance” or otherwise make up for your identity.

This goes for if you’re intersex. This goes for if you’re perisex. This goes for if you’re unsure if you’re intersex or perisex.

You don’t need to apologize. You don’t need to do anything to make up for the fact that you exist. Your existence is good.

Favorite Balrog Slayer

That poor pest control guy did not know what he was getting into, but given the state of my yard i feel like he should have known what he was getting into.

Thranduil.

full picture here

"Along the shore the cloud waves break

Twin suns sink behind the lake

The shadows lengthen

In carcosa

Strange is the night when black stars rise

And strange moons circle through the skies

But stranger still is

Lost carcosa

Songs that the Hyades shall sing,Where flap the tatters of the King,Must die unheard in

Dim Carcosa.

Song of my soul, my voice is dead;Die thou, unsung, as tears unshed Shall dry and die in

Lost Carcosa."

—Cassilda's Song in The King in Yellow, Act 1, Scene 2. Robert w. Chambers

Uh. I drew a picture digitally. That's what this is.

I want an a olotl so much.... but I’m patient I can wait 😜