Apparently This Is A Trend? Not That I Needed An Excuse For It Anyway

Oarfish

there's a fine line between being wary of manipulation and becoming completely paranoid because you get very close to the realisation that pretty much all human interaction involves doing things we hope will lead to a result we like

The fact that nonbinary and genderqueer people assigned male at birth (and more people, but it's hard to sum up a diverse group in one phrase) are so hyperinvisible really sucks.

Like the fact that there are so many posts like "oh you thought they were men but they're actually butches" but no one ever acknowledges that there could be femme gays who look like women. Transfemininity is forced into a binary of "cis man who's kind of fruity" or trans woman with no consideration for anyone who lives on the spectrum between the two or outside of it. Like people will make room for "not a woman but yes a lesbian" (dgmw they don't respect trans butches and lesbians, but they'll acknowledge they exist and pay lip service (even if it sucks, I'm talking you "non men loving non men")) but no one ever considers people like me who are the mirror image of: not a man but yes a fag (there isn't an equivalent word even that isn't a slur, reclaimed or not). People effectively deny any nuance or gender exploration to those they view as "male" while patronizingly pseudo acknowledging that of those they view as "female" and it sucks

I'm not a cis man I'm not a woman I exist not every nonbinary person is "woman lite" (and treating nonbinary people like that is shit on its own)

this is exorsexism.

....I...Good to know...

the worst part about ocd and ocd-like tendencies is that you think hyper-analyzing your thoughts and constantly psychoanalyzing yourself will fix you but that's actually part of the disorder. it's the disorder. disordering.

Ch😅

I didn't know this...reblogging to remember

the terms afab and amab have always belonged to the intersex community

just because perisex people have bastardized their meaning, doesnt mean that it belongs to them now

afab DOES NOT MEAN "person who was born with a vagina"

amab DOES NOT MEAN "person who was born with a penis"

that re-definition is the result of bastardization.

someone who has a vagina is müllerian or close-to-müllerian (and that term is inclusive of trans women/fems/nonbinary people who have medically transitioned)

someone who has a penis is wolffian or close-to-wolffian (and that term is inclusive of trans men/mascs/nonbinary people who have medically transitioned)

someone who was afab can be wolffian at birth

someone who was amab can be müllerian at birth

DOCTORS CAN AND DO FUCK UP, EVEN IF THE BABY IS PERISEX. STOP TREATING THEIR GENDER ASSIGNMENT AS GOSPEL.

i dont see why i cant start a trend, so here goes. lets try to build back our attention spans. lets try to focus on just one thing for as long as possible. lets not watch those "asmr for people with adhd" videos where they fuck up adhd folks even worse. lets resist the urge to reach for our phones when watching a movie. lets read the articles we reblog, even when theyre boring. i know its hard, i have adhd too, but its worth it. i also know that this hard work doesnt always seem super impressive to other people, so id love for yall to tell me in the tags or replies if youve done something, no matter how small, for your attention span. you deserve to feel like youve taken back some of what social media has ripped from you

Fingolfin

50 posts!

Do I win anything?