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people thinking that all afab nonbinary people are inherently moving towards masculinity and all amab nonbinary people are inherently moving towards femininity.

this is exorsexism.

this idea is often used to justify using the terms transmasculine and transfeminine in some kind of universally applicable way, but it's based on a gross oversimplification of the gender spectrum as a slider between male and female/masculine and feminine.

there is an infinite number of directions for an amab nonbinary person to go in. femininity is not the only one just because the gender binary says so. they could transition into an in between space, considering themself androgynous rather than masc or fem. they could transition into neutrality. they could transition into nonbinary masculinity. they could transition out of gender altogether. they could transition into a gender that has no ties to the binary. they could transition into fluidity. they could transition into an infinite number of things. the same is true for an afab nonbinary person.

take xenogenders for example. if an afab nonbinary person identifies as a specific xenogender, they'd be considered more masculine than before, but if an amab nonbinary person identified as the exact same gender, they'd be considered to be more feminine than before, even though most xenogenders aren't inherently masculine or feminine. not all nonbinary genders consist of a balance of masculinity and femininity.

when i came out, i didn't move towards the opposite of my AGAB by virtue of moving away from my AGAB. i am now equally far away from both.

the gender spectrum is not linear.

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*Gasp* and Feanor thought it was Morgoth who stole his silmarils this whole time- but it was actually his own youngest sons?!?! I present to you the twins, Ambarussa

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The fact that nonbinary and genderqueer people assigned male at birth (and more people, but it's hard to sum up a diverse group in one phrase) are so hyperinvisible really sucks.

Like the fact that there are so many posts like "oh you thought they were men but they're actually butches" but no one ever acknowledges that there could be femme gays who look like women. Transfemininity is forced into a binary of "cis man who's kind of fruity" or trans woman with no consideration for anyone who lives on the spectrum between the two or outside of it. Like people will make room for "not a woman but yes a lesbian" (dgmw they don't respect trans butches and lesbians, but they'll acknowledge they exist and pay lip service (even if it sucks, I'm talking you "non men loving non men")) but no one ever considers people like me who are the mirror image of: not a man but yes a fag (there isn't an equivalent word even that isn't a slur, reclaimed or not). People effectively deny any nuance or gender exploration to those they view as "male" while patronizingly pseudo acknowledging that of those they view as "female" and it sucks

I'm not a cis man I'm not a woman I exist not every nonbinary person is "woman lite" (and treating nonbinary people like that is shit on its own)

this is exorsexism.

....I...Good to know...

the worst part about ocd and ocd-like tendencies is that you think hyper-analyzing your thoughts and constantly psychoanalyzing yourself will fix you but that's actually part of the disorder. it's the disorder. disordering.