Little Reminder For Myself

reminder

• try not to invalidate your struggles by comparing them to others • everyone handles situations differently • everyone is equip with different strengths and skill sets. • just because someone has it worse than you does not mean your struggle is meaningless

the sun couldn’t compare to that smile

A thing that irks me about the way certain DC fans discuss canon is they’ll read a run that best fits their interpretation of a given character and then they’ll use that to correct others based on that run alone.

I’m fairly new to the comics but I’ve been reading a lot of them lately— I jump around as I see fit— but what I’ve learned is that canon is barely canon half the time. Sure there will be time’s where things that are completely fanon become widespread like Tim’s coffee addiction but it feels like so many of these arguments about characterization come from a miscommunication.

I’m going to use Nightwing as an example bc he’s my fav but Nightwing’s personality has varied a lot over the years. I just read a post that was very informative but the tone of it was like this is what’s ACTUALLY the canon personality of Nightwing and one of the things they mentioned was that Dick wasn’t a playboy bc he only went on one date in that run. Like sure I wouldn’t consider Dick a playboy either but that’s a total misunderstanding of where that perception of him came from. Nightwing’s playboy-ness comes from the fact that he gets paired up with female love interests a lot. In Nightwing Year One he kisses Babs and when she asks about Starfire he’s weirdly dismissive of her. That’s fuckboy behavior. Do I like this interpretation? No but it’s still in the text. This isn’t even considering the media outside of the comics: Dick in btas vs the arkhamverse vs arkham knights— they’re all distinct from one another.

My point is DC is old and they’ve retconned their characters so much that sometimes the same character shares a name alone and nothing else, but it doesn’t necessarily make either one more or less canon. We’re all playing in the same sandbox I think it would be more fun if certain fans stopped policing other fans.

I think Bruce's biggest tragedy is that he's so obviously a girl dad but the universe keeps sending him mini versions of himself.

First Skype Call

Yesterday my best friend C.C and I dicided to skype today at 3 pm for the very first time. I waited so long to see her beautiful face pop up. I love her voice, amazing. It was so emotional seeing her for the first time that we could really talk to one another and knowing she is real. I loved talking to her so much and hopefully she liked talking to me too. I really love having her as a friend and I do hope I get to keep her around for along time. C.C. is amazing and I may have only known her for a month and two weeks but she is easily my best friend. I feel like she won’t judge me like others, and for that I am very thankful. ~Anon

Blood, cigs, and poring rain

"Tim feels abandoned" "he's being ignored" "tim is jealous of the attention they give damian" "tim is-" tim drake would break out into actual literal hives at the thought of anything resembling an adult monitoring him, he'd starting hissing like a feral cat if Bruce tried to get involved with his business, he'd saw his own arm off if his family tried to demand he checks in more than once a month with heavily coded messages

You’re allowed to love yourself!

The Glamour of Eating Disorders.

Because of my decade of eating disorders, this is where I’ve been 🦋

🌸I’ve purged in every single bathroom on my college’s campus.

🌸 I’ve been questioned for smelling like vomit

🌸 I’ve bruised my ass and legs (which hurt for weeks after) just by sitting down

🌸 I have fainting spells now! Last Friday I fainted 5 times and was nearly sent to the ER. Once I fainted in the shower and as a result, my boyfriend insists on keeping the bathroom door open and on checking on me. Every shower since.

🌸 I’ve eaten trash during a binge

🌸 I’ve eaten a 2 week old stale donut that I found in my boyfriend’s friend’s apartment during a binge.

🌸 I have rummaged through the homes of friends, family, and even strangers for scales to weigh myself. Once, I even pawed through a frat house during a party to weigh myself. (If you’re curious, I found one and did weigh myself.)

🌸I’ve shoplifted laxatives and diuretics in desperation.

🌸I have bone- bruised my coccyx (tailbone) by sitting on the toilet.

🌸 I’ve seized (had a seizure) because I had binged and purged so many times in a day.

🌸 I have destroyed my thyroid (a very important organ, I may add) because of my years of ED, and will now be on medication for the rest of my life.

🌸I have permanently damaged my intensities from abusing laxatives.

🌸 My stomach is beyond fucked up as a result of permanent damage.

🌸I have abused drugs I didn’t even want to do in order to suppress my appetite.

🌸I have damaged my heart because of my ED.

🌸 I have stolen food to binge and purge.

🌸I have both puked and shit blood because of damaged organs.

🌸I had, at one point, lost half my hair because of malnutrition– adding of course that I grew lanugo EVERYWHERE in addition.

🌸 I get dizzy spells every time I stand

🌸I have taken so many laxatives that I spent an entire day puking and shitting.

🌸 I have seriously emotionally hurt my partner (romantic) because of actions I took because of my eating disorder.

🌸 I have drained my bank account compulsively buying ED shit.

🌸 I have chronic chest pains because of my ED.

🌸 I have gotten bone-bruises in my sleep because I had my joints crossed.

🌸I have lost my adolescence and youth to my ED

🌸 I have estranged myself from my family because of my ED

🌸 I have not spent a day without thinking about my weight since I was 9/10 years old.

🌸 I have had my ED so long, it has become a part of my identity and sense of self– I am terrified of recovery because of this

🌸 I have shortened my lifespan significantly–to the point where I have discussed the fact that I will die first wth my partner, as we plan our future together.

This has ruined my life.

Please do not think these disorders will in any way improve your life, they will only plunge you into hell. I do not say these things for pity or attention– I simply want to deter others from ever dabbling in ED behaviors and encourage those who have not been disordered long to seek help before it’s too late. And, obviously, to deter anyone from seeking this kind of behavior. These diseases will destroy you in every realm of your life. They will kill you. I have lost friends to these diseases. Death is a real threat– do not make the mistake of thinking it cannot happen to you. It will. All an eating disorder will ever be is pain.

We need to destroy the glamour that seems to surround eating disorders, which only exists because of the rampant misinformation on the subject. We must bring the true reality of ED’s to light. We cannot let misinformation ruin any more lives. Please spread the reality of EDs. It’s never too late to recover. I encourage everyone to seek recovery/ and or treatment.

Much Love, K

Do you ever forget you have superpowers? Kon does often.

It’s still a sweet gesture.

You have no idea the demons I fought to not turn this little comic angsty. I might still do it, I haven’t decided yet.