This.

that boyfriend wants to be violent towards her

thinking about how my friend was telling me it was so hot her boyfriend choked her, but he didn't even ask beforehand☹. and you think this is just normal?

DO ITTTTT

pondering making a studyblr

'Makeup is an art form', yes. If you use it to create funky, vibrant eyeshadows, tradgoth makeup or add spirals and designs to your face, this is a form of 'self expression', as people like to refer to it. It's abnormal and indicates you're doing it for yourself rather than to adhere to the standards of beauty.

However, doing makeup which looks ‘natural’, trying to hide the fact you’re wearing it, using it to cover blemishes, hyperpigmentation etc that is not self expression if anything it’s self concealment. Hiding your natural self to appear more attractive to society is not an art form it’s a form of subordination which reinforces the idea that women must perform and that there’s something inherently flawed about our bodies. But libfems aren’t ready for that conversation.

insanity

while equality in the feminist sense consists of a safe existence in society, for men it is always in the violence.

"oh, you're a feminist? then join the army and kill people with us."

"oh, you're a feminist? then I can hit you. we're equal, right?!!"

"oh, you're a feminist? and do you know that women actually kill too? It's not just men who are bad, you women are just as bad as us!"

instead of eradicating cruelty from our society, instead of advocating for the existence of everyone without the feeling of a threat to her or his life and well-being, they decide to remain with their right to inflict pain. because to give that right up means to give up male. privileges. which, of course, should never happen.

Funny how words change. I was thinking about the phrase "gentleman's club," and what I'd IMAGINE that would mean (based on the definition of "gentleman") is a place for well-bred, intelligent, likely educated, civilized men to talk, drink and smoke cigars with other men of the same mindset. I picture Mr. Darcy sitting there with Mr. Bingley. Instead, it's come to mean "The lowest, dumbest, most perverted dirt bags you can imagine throwing filthy dollar bills at women who they're paying to take their clothes off." The men who visit these places are the furthest thing from gentlemen.

The funny thing is, if there were a "Lady's Club" it would probably still resemble exactly what we'd imagine: well-dressed, elegant women having a beautiful luncheon with their female friends, behaving totally appropriately. The most they might do that was "out of character" for ladies (supposedly) is laugh uproariously after a few glasses of wine.

Since I'm on the subject, Tea Rooms (which were very popular in America in the 1910's-20's and were generally owned by women) were very close to what I described as a Lady's Club, and I'd love to see them brought back. Getting dressed up to go to a fancy tea with a lot of female friends sounds like so much fun!

tip: break up. thats so incredibly dehumanizing

The fact people are giving her advice that isn’t “don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with or into” is why women will never be free

I love to see the general public finally waking tf up

Guess what group has been talking about all these things for years and was demonized, shamed and threatend for it 🤔

Reminder that saying no is not being a bitch, it's having the human right of choice. Being against males on female spaces is not being a bigot, it's being against misogyny. Wearing comfortable clothes and liking your natural body is not letting yourself go, it's being free from society's impossible beauty standards set on women.

Keep standing up for yourself.

as a bengali girl one of the biggest reasons i used to think i was "nonbinary" was bc i was told it was normal to have an incongruence w/ womanhood bc of my race... who fed me this lie

why is womanhood based on a woman's proximity to whiteness?? why are women of color deemed less female for the not fitting standards made against us? and why is the solution to that to push us into some third gender instead of just abolishing gender itself?????

has anyone else experienced something similar??