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Best Writing Advice Ever

Just write the damn thing. 

Don’t worry about literally anything. A n y t h i n g

Just get it written. 

The rest can be peacefully sorted out later.

#SelfLoveSunday

10 Essential Daily Self-love Practices For Your Healing Journey

1. Meditation - being present with ourselves. Making time to set down the mental baggage we accumulate throughout each day reduces stress & improves our mental health over time.

2. Mindfulness - grounding ourselves in the now. The present moment is where we experience our deepest joy. We must love ourselves enough to lose our mind and come to our senses when our thoughts wander away from the now.

3. Breath - the essence of life. Consciously taking deep breaths throughout the day has a calming effect on the body & mind and stops shallow breathing which can induce stress.

4. Nature - reconnecting with ourselves. Immersing ourselves in nature is essential for our healing because it influences the subconscious to create peaceful thoughts. There is no wifi in nature, but we are guaranteed to find a better connection.

5. Rest - making time to do nothing. Living our lives by the clock takes its toll on the body and mind - this is why we need to make time to rest. Rest does not mean spending hours in front of screens - it means completely relaxing the body and mind.

6. Tribe - surrounding ourselves with positive people. We cannot hope to heal ourselves if we are surrounded by negativity, we must spend our time with those who support and nurture our growth. A hot air balloon can’t take flight if it’s tied to the weights on the ground.

7. Diet - what we feed the body & mind. We are what we eat, if we are consuming positive content we will manifest positive thoughts. If we feed ourselves healthy foods we will manifest better physical & mental health.

8. Exercise - letting the yang energy flow. Strenuous exercise such as running allows us to release yang energy, expressing this energy through the body helps us to let go of anger & resentment.

9. Bathing - taking care of the vessel. Cleaning our vessels regularly promotes physical health and is a form of self-love. A regular hygiene practice also promotes self-confidence.

10. Creativity - expressing ourselves without limits. Repressed emotions are a common cause of mental health challenges, allowing these emotions to be expressed through creativity prevents them manifesting as poor mental and physical health.

Healing ourselves starts with loving ourselves.

Peace & positive vibes

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beginner writing tips!

hey! call me jae. are you a beginner writer or have an interest in writing? here’s some tips to help you start/get better.

i suggest you use ao3 as a writing platform. i find it usually gets you more views than wattpad or fanfiction.net. you can also post your writings here on tumblr if you don’t want to wait for an invite to ao3 (i have a few i can use so if you’d like one i can and will gladly send you one!)

do not- and i repeat- do not!!! put!!! author’s notes!!! in the middle of a chapter!!! it’s so unprofessional and your story comes out choppy! you want to keep your reader invested, and when you have an a/n in the middle of the chapter it just does no good for your chapter!

don’t use slang/dead words unless it’s dialogue! slang/dead words are something you’d use while texting, or for gen z, talking! or words that have been overused and have lost their punch. if you don’t have a large vocabulary, i’d suggest a dictionary or a synonym book. ex: if i wanted to use “love” in a sentence that goes “i love this book!” it doesn’t really pack a punch. instead, i’d use “i adore this book.”

do not overuse parentheses! for example- “You know parentheses? (Those little crescent-shaped thingies?) Well, sometimes they drive me crazy (overuse, lack of clarity, fuzzy writing).” that would be an example of overuse. if your trying to be passive, or put in a point in there that doesn’t necessarily flow with the context of the sentence, i suggest using commas or dashes. of course, you can overuse them too, but they don’t look as choppy.

try to make the flow of you’re story go smoothly. the reader gets confused when you jump from subject to subject!

don’t switch povs during a chapter (you can do it every other chapter). switching povs constantly causes mass chaos in the readers mind. now you can change point of views if your going for a more stylistic story, but i suggest you don’t do that until your intermediate at best.

USE PARAGRAPHS!!!!!! it irks me when writers don’t use paragraphs when they move on to another subject! you don’t have to indent, this isn’t an english paper, but please please hit “return” or “tab” (depending on whether you’re on mobile or computer) to create a new paragraph! a good way to remember this is when your characters are moving on to another action then you make a new paragraph, or when the dialogue switches from person to person.

that’s it for now, reblog if you’d like a part 2/intermediate writers.

It’s 2019. You need motivation? No, what you need is discipline.  IT’S TIME TO FOCUS. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up early, make your bed, go get ready, and go. Force yourself to make plans for the day, and follow through with all those plans. Force yourself to get to class early so you can look over the material. Force yourself to pay attention in class and turn off your phone or at least put it on silent. Stop texting your friends and going on Instagram in class. You are wasting your time, so why even bother going to class if your are going to be distracted? Be selfish. Stop giving your time to people that do not matter. YOUR TIME IS SO SO PRECIOUS. STOP WASTING IT! This is the most important thing that you can do right now, take care of you and your education. Stop being distracted by the world and it’s never ending problems. This is the time that you need to put toward yourself because you are the greatest investment of your life. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. EVERYDAY is a chance to wake up and give your 150%. EXHAUST yourself. That is the only way to give your all. At the end of the day, you should be exhausted from working so much, from reading so much, from exercising so much. Don’t go home because you are tired. Do whatever you need to get done and don’t come home until it’s all done. Stay late at the library. You feel tired? Good. That is how you know you are giving it your best. Go to the gym, and give your work out your all. When you go home, you should feel like you are drained. You should feel like you have nothing left to give because you gave it your all. Because then, you can be proud of yourself and everything you have achieved. Giving it your all is what matters. Give your all every single day. Discipline your mind and your body and you will become successful. You fall back one day? That is O.K., try the next day. You are human, so accept your mistakes. However, love yourself enough to know that you will never give up working on yourself and your dreams. THIS IS IT. THIS IS YOUR LIFE. Right now, no matter what circumstances we are all in, is what matters. Take advantage of today. Write down your dreams and force yourself to work toward them, one day at a time.  IT’S TIME TO FOCUS. THIS is your year. This is your life. One day at a time baby. One day at a time. Go ahead and don’t stop.

(via not-now-im-studying)

queens

A happy meal 🍔 🍟 💗

Happy Birthday to the cute, sweet, beautiful, funny, political ass 🎉 Here’s for 38 and for more and more to come. May we all all get our own Chris Evans’.

this man is now 38! 

he E X C R E T E big daddy energy

Five Feet Apart is sooo heartbreaking :(

It’s official Jeff doesn’t have Botox and David is the sexiest man alive

You’re so much prettier when you smile.

It's hard being an INFJ

(Note: may not relate to all INFJs)

We are rare and of course that is something to be proud of and sure we always make people happy but… doesn’t mean we are always happy.

We are known as old souls because of multiple reason. We are loners, we love learning… etc. It’s hard for us to make friends. Sure we like to solve other people’s problems but, we find it difficult to find someone who understands US and the problems WE face.

I have faced where I want to meet other people although I am shy because I always felt whenever I talk to someone that… I guess it’s as if they don’t understand. I always felt like I was on a searching hunt for a friend who relates to me. My best friend is a ENFP which are total opposites which makes us the best of friends and although I have her as my BFF, I always end up feeling alone and alienated in this world.

Another thing is, when I have feelings about something, they are deep. If I am sad, I cry until I cannot shed anymore tears and sometimes I end up getting a bloody nose from crying so hard. If I get mad, I would scream and shout if I could but, one thing I do is that I never show it in public. I always held in my emotions and waited until I was in a place where I could be alone so I could express that emotion.

Apparently there is this thing called “The INFJ Door Slam” and as I read of it, I found it to be true. If a person keeps hurting my emotions, I won’t be able to stand it and I admit, I wish I was stronger enough to tolerate it. Instead we try to confront the person about the problem and if they won’t listen, BAM! Instant door slam meaning, I cut all ties from that person to feel no more emotional pain and the reason why I say it’s true is because I have faced that first handedly.

I hate attention. Like, I guess I just want some friends who will just appreciate what I do but, I don’t expect this whole festival for me as they do this dancing ceremony for me. A nice thank you would be enough. I don’t know about the other INFJ’s but I get very awkward around people who give me presents. Like, I do appreciate it but, I always have the urge of thinking that I have to give them a gift back to thank them for the gift they gave me. It’s a confusing cycle.

Another thing, I enjoy being alone instead of an awkward situation and I am very independent but, at the same time, I want to have people in my live that makes me not so lonely and work together with them.

I know that I am the type of person that thinks. I would just stare off and think of all this stuff I never got a chance to think about. A lot of people, when they talk to me, find me more mature for my age. When they first meet me, they think may think I am a few years older then I am (between 2-5 year difference) and then I tell them and complete shock runs through their face. It’s mainly because as a teen, they would never imagine a teenager talking about. For example, everyone I see dates around me. Although I find it adorable, I have no interest in dating at this age because a) I view that I am too young to date and too… I guess too naive to start dating and getting to know someone I might want to marry when I have the difficulty on understanding myself let alone add another person on that plate of emotional reck b) dating is more of getting to know that person to see if you both are… I guess compatible for marriage and I am not ready for any of that like how I said in point a. I would list more but, I’m pretty sure you get the point…

Yeah… that’s some of the things… I don’t think I hit all but, it was me expressing something as a INFJ faces everyday.

I grew up with the guilty sense that a part of me was faking being a child; I was already an old soul. Lots of people are like that, particularly people who become writers, but nobody told me I was not unusual then, so I had to figure it out on my own.

Phillip Lopate (via infpisme)

“I’d like to know your intentions. How safe is it for me to fall in love with you?”

- Lady With A Handbook

This is completely and utterly random but I think my city is very pretty

Photo by me!

I’m sorry mom and dad for being your child. For taking all those years from your life for nothing. For being a shame and failing in life. I’m sorry for who I was, what I am, and for who I will become.

One of the reasons why most of us are depressed is because we fail to live upto the expectations of people.

life is better when you’re dead

Don’t fall in love with a good guy. Because when he leaves, you cannot hate him. You will think of all of the things he always did right; hating him will be so impossible, and loving him will still be so easy. Because he’ll want to be your friend. And you’ll want to be his, too. But catching up with him every 6 weeks will not be enough for your heart, and being his friend will be the most elaborate method of self-harm. Because he’ll still be the boy you fell in love with. When it’s all said and done, he won’t be anyone except exactly who you knew he was. And how do you fall out of love with the same exact characteristics that made you fall in love in the first place? So don’t date a good boy. Because when a bad boy leaves, at least you saw it coming. When a bad boy leaves, at least you can hate him. When a bad boy leaves, at least you can tell yourself that you were an idiot for falling for him in the first place. But with him— you did not see it coming. You can not hate him. You can not tell yourself you shouldn’t have fallen in love. Because he was a good boy, and good boys are good even when they leave you.

excerpt from an unfinished book #53 // “breaking up is hard to do” chapter: “let’s be friends” (via wherewritersblockcomestodie)

The stars tell us to shine; the world tells us we are broken.

shall we focus on what we excel at? or fix what’s broken? // Hina Syeda (via hinasyeda)

I may be delusional and think we have something, but at least you know you are being loved by someone. There’s nothing wrong with showing love. Everything starts with the lack of it.

Hira

I look at you and see a whole universe. A beautiful construction of so many different parts. You’re bright and mesmerizing.

When I'm older...

I’m getting the hell out of my house. I’m getting away from my parents. I’m getting whatever the fuck I want tattooed or pierced if my heart so desires. I’ll go to whatever school I want for college. I’ll live wherever I want. I’ll do what I want. I’ll hopefully meet a good guy that I like. I won’t care for my parents approval. I’ll get married. I’ll raise a good family. I won’t fuck up my family like my parents. I’ll give my family a good life. I’ll do whatever I want to do without criticism and hate. I’ll be myself, not the person my parents want me to be. I WILL BE MY OWN SELF. ME AND ONLY ME

honestly just holding your hand would make me hella happy

you know how sunflowers turn to follow the sun? to feel the warmth bless their faces? that’s how I feel around you, I can’t take my eyes off you, can’t look away from the way you shine

She married the devil and I felt in love with death

The lost writer

Do you know how much it sucks? Losing a best friend? Like actually losing your other and better half? Losing someone you talked to every day, all the time? Someone you looked forward to talking to regardless of what it was, even if it was a fight? Losing someone you gave everything to, to the point where I have nothing else to give anyone else, when the other person can’t even give you the time of day? Losing the person you’d spend every day with if you could? The one person that made you smile. The person that hurt you a million times, over and over, but you still forgave them and would do it all over again if given the chance. The person you do give anything just to see them more time.

Do you really know?

You wouldn’t believe me but ..You and those people I call “friends ”