Listen I Would Die For Jameela Jamil

Since once in a blue moon I actually discover a decent rule for adulting, and since I know I have followers a few years younger than me who are just entering the workforce, I want to tell you about a very important phrase. 

“I won’t be available.”

Imagine you’re at work and your boss asks you to come in on Saturday. Saturday is usually your day off–coming in Saturdays is not an obligation to keep your job. Maybe you were going to watch a movie with a friend, or maybe you were just going to lie in bed and eat ice cream for eight hours, but either way you really, really don’t want to give up your day off.

If you consider yourself a millennial you’ve probably been raised to believe you need to justify not being constantly at work. And if you’re a gen-Z kid you’re likely getting the same toxic messages that we did. So in a situation like that, you might be inclined to do one of three things:

Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Cave when they pressure you to come in anyway, since you’re not doing anything important.

Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Over-apologize and worry that you looked bad/unprofessional.

Lie and say you’ve got a doctor’s appointment or some other activity that feels like an adequate justification for not working.

The fact is, it doesn’t matter to your boss whether you’re having open heart surgery or watching anime in your underwear on Saturday. The only thing that affects them is the fact that you won’t be at work. So telling them why you won’t be at work only gives them reason to try and pressure you to come in anyway.

If you say “I won’t be available,” giving no further information, you’d be surprised how often that’s enough. Be polite and sympathetic in your tone, maybe even say “sorry, but I won’t be available.” But don’t make an excuse. If your boss is a professional individual, they’ll accept that as a ‘no’ and try to find someone else. 

But bosses aren’t always professional. Sometimes they’re whiny little tyrants. So, what if they pressure you further? The answer is–politely and sympathetically give them no further information.

“Are you sure you’re not available?” “Sorry, but yes.”

“Why won’t you be available?” “I have a prior commitment.” (Which you do, even if it’s only to yourself.)

“What’s your prior commitment?” “Sorry, but that’s kind of personal.”

“Can you reschedule it?” “I’m afraid not. Maybe someone else can come in?”

If you don’t give them anything to work with, they can’t pressure you into going beyond your obligations as an employee. And when they realize that, they’ll also realize they have to find someone else to come in and move on.

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Disability pride month

July is Disability Pride Month. The first Disability Pride started in Boston, MA in 1990 but it has since become an international celebration. The aim of Disability Pride is described by the founders of Disability Pride NYC to “promote inclusion, awareness, and visibility of people with disabilities, and redefine public perception of disability”.

The disability pride flag

The Disability Pride flag has some very interesting symbolism interpreted by the artist which include:

The Black Field: this field is to represent the disabled people who have lost their lives due to not only their illness, but also negligence, suicide, and eugenics.

The Lightning Bolt: the shape of the lightning bold represent the non-lateral lives that many disabled people live, often having to adapt themselves or their physical routes to get around an inaccessible society.

The Colours: each colour on this flag represents a different aspect of disability or impairment:

Blue: mental illness

Yellow: cognitive and intellectual disabilities

Green: sensory perception disabilities

Red: physical disabilities

why is it so difficult for ppl to distinguish between "this person is a literal bigot and should not have a platform" and "this person is not actively malicious but has accidentally done a couple harmful things that should be addressed" and "this person has made a few poor taste jokes several years ago but has since grown as a person" and "this person simply just didn't know the 'proper' term for something"

okay finally writing this bc its hit that point in the night/morning where i regained the energy to rewrite this but. can we please talk about the habit of people using scars/physical disabilities to make a character scary in this fandom?

like with, say, tubbo, not too bad! hes such a likable character that generally his scars are just drawn as a part of him, often horror pieces with him focus on other aspects like the nukes or him living by the woods or the fact that he died for those scars. all fine as far as i can see

....and then theres quackity. who is a canonically half blind character with an obvious scar. and people use it to make him *scary*. artists, both visual and textual, exaggerate the scar, describe the unnervingness of his fanonically blue eye (which, the subject of giving a mexican person a blue eye just because hes half blind when thats not how blindness works is.. hm), even sometimes describing it as a glass eye (meaning using the prosthetic as a reason to be unnerved by him). they give it otherworldly properties, they make it like a 777 machine to symbolize his greed and want for power, they make it into a void on his face, a glitch, a poker chip, whatever.

and let me say- that shit should really stop flying. i get the intents of people who do this, really, i do! i dont think the people who do this are ableist, but. dont use scars for horror. dont use physical disabilities as a way to make a character more terrifying. please. quackity can be scary and unnerving on his own, you can do it without resorting to "disability/scars scary", i promise. i havent seen it happen to other physically disabled characters yet (except for michael_beloved but ive talked abt my distaste w horror including him before), but im gonna take that as a blessing

(note- while i agree this shouldnt be done for mental illness either, this is about physical disability and i want it to stay focused on physical disability because ive seen ppl talk about the horrification of mental illness but not abt physical disability, not in this fandom anyways. however, feel free to make your own post or find posts from people who talk about the habit of using mental illness as horror in the dsmp fandom)

They did this on Mike’s farm, fite me

You can look me in the eye and tell me this isn’t the kind of shit the losers do in their free time, but I won’t believe you.

Which pan flag is the right one please I don't want to mess it up

THIS is the real pansexual flag we've been using for years:

bright pink, yellow, and blue stripes. this is the actual one.

THIS however, is made by mspec lesbian exclusionists and purity culture obsessed twt users:

dont use this or any other "new" pan flag they try to fucking make. its not our flag. its never been our fucking flag. as a pansexual i fucking hate everyone who uses this or tries to get content creators to support this. fuck exclusionists.

hey scott dangthatsalongname mcc admin picker of teams gay king shit smajor1997. may i propose to you next pink parrots (just so we can make fun of wilbur always in pink for 3 mccs) for mcc16 (or the next special mcc idk what's going to happen next month):

please mr. smajor. we're deprived of bench trio team up. we miss crime boys team up. we beg you lord scott. please 🙏. picker of teams, we beg thou to give us this team up and ill be happy to go to limbo.

I used to have a coworker who was 3-4 years my junior. I asked them if they were still taught internet safety at school, to which they confirmed, but it was the same über-serious "Don't talk to strangers" online bullshit that I was fed when I was a kid.

This doesn't work anymore. It hasn't worked in a long fucking time.

Public education is so fucking far behind when it comes to internet safety and etiquette. The lessons have to change. Not just for kids and teenagers, but for parents as well.

We can't remove the idea of talking with strangers, even adult strangers, entirely anymore, because inter-generational friendships are super important (looking at you, MCYT), but we do have to establish things like: how to recognise red flags when having conversations with anyone (not just adults, people your own age can be just as conniving and vicious), how to access tag and content blockers when you start seeing things that make you uncomfortable, how to understand site rules and guidelines, etc.

The issue is that the internet itself is full of great advice about how to filter content on different social media sites, it's just that none of you chucklefucks wants to use it. What are you waiting for? For someone to do it for you? Is that it? That's not blissful ignorance, that's just laziness and entitlement.

You don't do your own research. You follow each other in bloodthirsty packs. You constantly misuse words that have hurtful and horrific meanings and consequences. This is not okay.

Open up Wikipedia for once in your life, Jesus fucking Christ...