Girls With No Car On Grocery Day

im like no worries & then feel so upset i get chest pains

college is so fun because what do you mean the top floor of parking garages causes panic attacks

what’s poppin only gays can see this post and rb

"would preteen you be proud of current you" is complicated because preteen me didnt think we would ever be an adult. not in a dark way or anything, i just didnt realize the passage of time also applied to me

i have old yarn. should i make a sweater in colors i would actually never wear

broooo don't become part of me forever lmao don't leave my life with nothing but the memories behind broooo now I'm going to be haunted by a spectre of your influences on me for the rest of my life lmaoooo the people closest to me might hold your name in their tongues as long as they can see me dude that is so not cool

“0 notes” is such a fucked up & evil thing to implement on this site. it feels so mean. so clinical. none of my mutuals will ever have to bear the burden of seeing it though. Not while i’m alive

tumblr should let me mute people without blocking them PLEASE

A recently published study by John Pachankis and Mark Hatzenbuehler has substantiated what’s called the “Best Little Girl in the World” hypothesis, first put forward in 1973 in a book by Andrew Tobias, then writing under a pseudonym. It’s the idea that young, closeted women deflect attention from their sexuality by investing in recognized markers of success: good grades, athletic achievement, elite employment and so on. Overcompensating in competitive arenas affords these women a sense of self-worth that their concealment diminishes.

…Deriving self-worth from achievement-related domains, like Ivy League admissions, is a common strategy among closeted women seeking to maintain self-esteem while hiding their stigma. The strategy is an effort to compensate for romantic isolation and countless suppressed enthusiasms. And it requires time-consuming study and practice, which conveniently provide an excuse for not dating.

Best of all, it distracts: “What love life? Look at my report card!”

…But the study does show that the longer a young woman conceals her sexual orientation, the more heavily she invests in external measures of success, potentially leading to undue stress and social isolation

Another of the study’s findings is that girls who grow up in more stigmatizing environments are more likely to seek self-worth through competition. I spent my first 18 years in a rural, religious town in North Carolina, a state that recently passed a constitutional amendment barring same-sex unions by a wide margin. Now here I am, a metal detector scanning for golden prizes. That’s no coincidence, the research suggests.

Welcome to the gun show >:y