Hi! I saw someone post a link to your posts in a discord and it kinda got me thinking so I decided to make an account and try an ask? So I don't think I'm plural? I don't have headmates or memory gaps or voices or anything.
But like a lot of people, including a lot of my plural friends, have told me my experiences sound plural? and what I do have is like what feels like different sliders? Like there is default me and in specific circumstances my like self perception? self image? shifts away on like one axis and that results in like different ways of behaviour and different internal self image? and like sometimes I imagine stuff like one version of me giving another headpats or stuff for comfort?
And I don't know, I guess I'm just a little confused, this is like the first I get to think about this? like a lot of these feelings are new and I used to get panic attacks when people told me my stuff sounded plural and I saw you did asks so I just wanted to reach out and see if you had any advice?
Sorry if this is a bit rambly
Anon, this sounds Very Plural to us however we look at it. Memory gaps, inner voices, none of these things are a requisite part of plurality - simply common traits between many systems. They are also, conveniently, possible to exercise. Knowing that you *are* plural leads to beginning to make out the different folks inhabiting your head, which leads to communication between you all, which leads to them forming more well defined personalities, which leads to an inner dialogue, and so on.
The "Me but an entirely different set of ideas, beliefs, self image, goals, and actions" is how many have described the feeling of what ends up being a member of their system. It also doesn't have to be a brand new person, just a kind of you. Visualizing interaction between yourselves is something i see systems struggle with often, too. Having that is nice to hear - we were elated when we first interacted between ourselves using more than words.
Lastly, this is not something to worry about. Ultimately, you can choose to see your lived experience through plurality, or be just one very multifaceted individual. We do ultimately suggest that you do, as it can and does benefit many. Thank you so much for the ask, and wishing you all the best!
hiya, don't know where else to throw this but. recently realized that being referred to in a plural way is,,, very nice,, (using we, being called darlings and puppies by those close to me (us?)) and this has been really interesting to feel and experience, especially since I had already been using we occasionally for a while before hand? talking to myself too but idk how unique that is to plurality..
this is a bit of a ramble but point is; very unsure, don't know if any of this means anything, and don't know how to find out if it does. need to do something to try and figure that out so; why not throw this here...?
oh we had 100% started sometimes using "we" or other plural language about ourself before we figured out we were plural lol
and you're 100% allowed to experiment with that stuff or ask friends to use it for you if it feels good. regardless of if that leads to a plural self-conception down the line.
being plural? awesome
being a singlet but using plural pronouns and shit? awesome
like. it probably means something. being referred to in ways that gesture at multiplicity feeling good probably means that reflects some way you are, or want to be treated or percieved. but it's yours to explore and decide the degree to which that does/doesn't change how many people all of you think you are.
genuinely fucked up that if i want to interact with someone online i have to say words and have a conversation instead of just mashing my face against them like a cat
omg wait I never posted sentient sapphic sword here????
it's a sentient cursed sword that changes shape to suit the wielders fighting style n stuff, my idea was to make it like, a game with branching paths based on who you choose and what stats you invest in resulting in different forms for the sword and bla bla
gay sword :)
muzzles look so good on people it's hard to even remember they weren't designed for them to begin with.
legitimately my first feminist awakening as a ten year old child was realizing that girls were expected to respect “boy stuff” but boys were never expected to respect “girl stuff”
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being plural is a kind of queerness.
social transition to a plural identity is much akin to gender transition. if you have a supportive community around you, trying on new identities is essentially free. you can try being plural, using different names at different times, being treated as more than one person - and if it doesn't end up working for you, you can always change your mind later.
being plural is a kind of neurodivergence.
self diagnosis is not a crime. if you see a list of symptoms and they fit your experience, if advice for dealing with a given disorder helps you manage your own symptoms, you have as much claim to that condition as anyone else. and pursuing a formal diagnosis should be a decision based on if that diagnosis gates helpful treatments you want or opens you up to discrimination you don't, not an obligation.
average tgirl experience of saying "we need to kiss" every few days and then continuing to be stuck hours and miles away. but still we must express that we need to kiss, it's important that this gets said
oh shit, it's 3/21/23, 32123, palindrome day