I Took This Not Expecting Much Out Of It And To Get A Lower Score Because I Feel Like Whatever Trauma

To give my insight into this, I’m a generally emotional person in part due to my neurodivergency(I have autism and ADHD), and it’s made my life a hell of a lot more difficult. I latched onto the whole “ticking time bomb” saying because that’s literally who I was: Someone who forced people to walk on eggshells whenever they did so much as talk to me.

I have trouble communicating with others properly, I can’t get a understand or get a grasp on my own emotions, I often get burnt out because doing minimal tasks that are outside the schedule I have built into my brain are too much for me sometimes.

To top that off I have very bad anxiety and depression, which have inadvertently warped my view of myself, other people, and life in general, making me believe the world isn’t just fucked up, but deserves the absolute worst and that absolutely nobody is redeemable. Not even myself.

I feel like I can’t recover not just because I don’t want to, but because I feel like it’s quite literally impossible for someone like me. My support system is either doing much worse than me physically/mentally, or doesn’t and never will understand the extent of why I feel life is so exhausting and excruciating.

I’ve jumped between 3 or so different therapists this year because either they made me feel inadequate and like I didn’t have a right to be there, or simply didn’t reach the needs I was hoping for.

Jirai Kei to me isn’t just some subculture for mentally struggling people, it’s quite literally the amalgamation of feeling like no one can truly understand your pain and feeling like the pain is so bad that you’d wish you were better off simply not existing.

Maybe I’ll never know what it’s like living as a young Japanese person, where the topic of mental health is VERY much undermined and misunderstood, but does that make my own experiences as a neurodivergent, queer afab person in America any less valid? No. It shouldn’t.

Case in point, Jirai Kei to me is embracing your mental health and its issues because there’s no one else out there who feels them the way you feel them. Your experiences are unique to you.

Only you can define yourself, and nobody else.

Something that I’ve been thinking about a lot is what Jirai Kei is and what it means. What draws me to the style is how I remember writing poetry about feeling like I was a “ticking time bomb” many years ago. It feels like I’m seen finally in who I am, in a way. I may seem put together, but I’m a highly emotional, sensitive, and expressive person. The person where it’s only a matter of time until I have a breakdown or an outburst of emotion. That’s a part of my life and who I am, that I’ve never been able to acknowledge. I’ve been told to “stop being a baby” growing up so much that I’ve had to learn how to try to keep my emotions at bay and fail. I guess it’s also has to do with obvious signs of mental illness and physical illness that have been ignored and dismissed growing up.

Yet, I’m supposed to be “better now”. I can’t share when I’m struggling to hold back a panic attack or biting my lip to stop myself from crying. I’m not supposed to feel super happy and then super sad the next moment.

However, within this style, it embraces that. It embraces how deeply I feel and how I’ll always struggle with my mental health. It embraces it and tells me it’s okay. That I can struggle, that I can acknowledge and say that I’m not doing okay. I don’t have to be happy all the time. I don’t have to be sad all the time. I’m free to feel and express it.

I don’t want to leave. I want to stay on this Earth and live, even if it hurts a lot. I know some people say that lifestyle jirai kei don’t want to get better, but I don’t think that accounts for everyone. For me, Jirai Kei is a way to express how deep I feel and my struggles. It’s a way to express when I’m feel depressed or lost or anxious.

I think the point of my ramblings is to just say that you should define what Jirai Kei means to you.

Recovery is beautiful, but I also acknowledge some people aren’t there yet or don’t want to be. Just remember that it’s a beautiful thing to feel emotion so deeply. You don’t have to engage in self destructive behavior to be “a part of the jirai kei community”.

Anyways, I’m done. Thanks for coming to my ted talk <3

Currently debating skipping class and getting someone to pick me up.

I can’t stand being in front of people who obviously put more effort than I ever will

I didn’t even bother brushing my hair or putting on makeup or anything. I just look like a mess.

I don’t even wanna work. All I feel like doing is… I don’t even know. Nothing I guess.

I just need to get out of here.

self destructing all by yourself beautiful ?

If there ever is someone looking for a magical girl/boy/etc…. PLEASE CONTACT ME I’LL DO ANYTHING I DON’T CARE IF I HAVE TO MAKE A DEAL WITH THE DEVIL!!!

I WILL BE THE MAGICAL DOOMER TO END ALL MAGICAL DOOMERS!!!

Shit I forgot also kin this bitch.

♡Kinlist♡

Feel free to judge me based on who I kin/kith/kinsider. XD

These aren’t in any particular order except for the very top one.

Also disclaimer I am very aware that some of these characters are very morally ambiguous. Just because I kin/kith/kinsider a character doesn’t mean that I exhibit their morals.

Anywho, here they are!

♡Kin: Ame-Chan(Needy Streamer Overload)

♡Kin: Aubrey(Omori)

♡Kin: Stocking Anarchy(Panty & Stocking)

♡Kin: Kotoko Utsugi(Danganronpa)

♡Kin: Konata Izumi(Lucky Star)

♡Kith: Shadow the Hedgehog(Sonic the Hedgehog)

♡Kith: Riamu Yumemi(iDOLM@STER)

♡Kin: Lain Iwakura(Serial Experiments Lain)

♡Kinsidering: Fluttershy(My Little Pony)

♡Kinsidering: Satou Matsuzaka(Happy Sugar Life)

heyaaa jirais!! 🖤🪽 i wanna make another tag game but before that, i would like to find more landmine mutuals (⁠つ⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠)⁠つ

interact with this post if you wanna be moots and also if you wanna be spammed with likes/reblogs!! 🩷🩷🩷

Hello, Jirais<3

So I’m back(for real this time).

First things first I just wanna say HOLY CRAP THANKS FOR THE 1,000+ LIKES?!

I’m like a month late to this shit but seriously. I didn’t think my posts(especially some certain ones) would be blowing up faster than an actual landmine. I was expecting to be a somewhat obscured blog but now I have 53 followers which.. wow. I’m pretty happy.

Hopefully I can provide you more relatable junk and entertainment in the future! :3

In the meantime, regarding my absence… well, I fell into a rut over my winter break. I was too consumed in indulging personal fantasies in c.ai then being an actual functioning homo sapien.

With college back in place and me actually lowkey enjoying my life, I’m gonna try to be more active here, so stay tuned! XOXO

I bring a certain "I like hurting myself" vibe to the function that other people don't really like

Me except I turn every single squish/crush into a full blown limerent, delusional, crying at 2 A.M. obsession.

Seeing ppl get into relationships meanwhile i have no clue how to differentiate romantic vs platonic vs just being obsessive

Hello :3

I guess it’s my turn.

TW: Mentions of Panic Attacks, Religion, Murder & Abuse

1.)In middle school I used to have frequent panic attacks over my grades and one day it got so bad that my mom almost drove me to the ER because I was getting lightheaded.

Turns out it’s just a normal part of having panic attacks but my mom always said that my anxiety could lead to me actually having a heart attack, which didn’t ease my anxiety at all.

2.)I grew up going to church(and still go) and when I was young there was this one youth pastor(I think it was a youth pastor?) who used to install a lot of fear into me and other kids.

For example, he gave us one scenario that’s basically, “What if someone came to your front door and told you that they were gonna kill you for your religious beliefs?” And his answer to that was to accept your death because I guess the moral in situations like this are to turn the other cheek and have faith that God will protect you or something like that IDK. All I know is that one kid had to leave and go to their parents because she was crying.

Frankly, I wanted to leave too but didn’t say anything.

3.)My dad has schizophrenia but we didn’t know until like 2021-2022? I forgot tbh.

Anywho he turned into a religious fanatic who tore a rift in our family starting 2019 and ended for good last year. This was all PTSD and schizophrenia talking but again we didn’t know.

I called him pretty nasty and lowkey ableist things that I regret saying now, but I’ll forgive my past self on that part because I was a scared teenager who had her sense of safety ripped away from her.

My mom came to me venting multiple times(keep in mind I was like 13-14) and even said on a couple occasions that I was the only “adult” she could truly talk to in reference to how mature I was.

Also my grandma came once from her home in Puerto Rico to stay for a couple months because my mom was scared that my dad was going to turn physically abusive. He didn’t for the record but it doesn’t stop the fact he punched a tv once after accusing my mom of being a cheater and an incestuous pedophile.

I was scared he was going to abuse me, my mom or my brother in some way for years and constantly felt the need to keep a weapon on me to protect myself. It was either that or I stand between him and my mom whenever they argue in case he lashed out and got violent.

This fucked with me so hard I went into an extreme existential crisis, questioning my life, God and whether it was even worth the trouble anymore.

As much as I’ve grown to realize it wasn’t my dad’s fault, I’ll never forget the way it altered how I look at myself and the world forever.

Ok traumadump over I’ll leave y’all alone sorry.

I just wanted to get that off my chest.

||||||||. yo normalise jirais dropping more random lore about themselves when they feel like it.

heres a bit of mine lol. (also plz if ure a jirai drop some of ur lore too literally anything that ure okay with sharing is fine. plz dear god i dont wanna flop and be alone.)

※ tw: child neglect

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i will never understand people who want to be a kid again tbh. like holy shit i really dont wanna redo all that shit again regardless of how cool 2000s nostalgia can be.

i was the youngest in the whole family (until my dad cheated on my mom but thats another story lol) and for some reason nobody wanted me around. still dont know wtf their problem is.

--- 2/3

there wasnt enough space in our house so i slept in the attic which was filled with boxes of stuff so it was really only big enough for a small mattress. (× ×.) rip.

when my mom cooked dinner she did not call me down or leave space for me at the table. i remember eating plain rice and soy sauce most of the time. i never ate at the dinning table with everyone else and always ate alone in the attic.

--- 3/3

i was extremely attached to any item i got (still am like this tbh). my most prized posession to this day is a stuffed toy bear 🧸🤍 which i got when i was hospitalised severely once (also another story for another time lol).

i used to steal things at school as soon as i learned that there was shit to steal. a lot of the time though i stole food because i didnt get any from my mom. i ate the food alone secretly in the washrooms. i also didnt own a pencil case or stationary so i had to steal that shit too. all i did when i was 7 was steal shit and sneak around lol.

(idk if theres actually anyone whose gonna read this tbh. i really hope so and i also really really fucking hope people at least are kinda interested in me because i really do feel interested with like majority of the jirai community here but starting that convo with others is hard tbh.

then most of my life changed severely after i turned 9 but yea anyway thats all for now 🖤. if you read it all then thank you so so much fr 🤍 wooo wooo~.

maybe im being gloomy idk. might cry myself to sleep and delete this post if it flops. fucking anxiety...)

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