Idk If It’s Hpd/npd But I Fixate On Random People I Think Could Be Equals & Imagine Us Being Really

I know there's already an NPD flag, but I'll be honest...some of its color symbology and language feel both stigmatizing and yet also too lax. If you'll hear me out, I'll explain my version's changes.

I like that some of the colors on the original are picked off of the narcissus (daffodil), so I reincorporated that and added the green of the leaves for growth and recovery instead.

Something about the black strip being support for people with NPD felt...dark, sad, and generally like it added to this idea that were are a dark mark on the population. Instead, I made the white strip for this as a way to say...I want to wipe the slate clean on how others see us so we can be really supported. Additionally, the black, red, orange gradient kinda looked like raw meat. Just felt too violent. We aren't inherently violent.

Finally, I changed the verbiage of "normalization of symptoms" to "destigmatization of symptoms" as I feel the distinction is a healthier way for us to view our of symptoms.

We are struggling with bad coping mechanisms that DO need to be correct, but are misunderstood and need to be destigmatized.

Lastly, the overall more childlike palette as a whole represents trauma stemming from childhood and how suffering from this PD often feels like being thrown back that childhood pain and never learning safe coping mechanisms.

Thank you for reading!

I also previously made a comic about the comorbidity of personality disorders with autism. Though it only briefly mentions my NPD/NPD traits, I still think it's important to add here:

AND STOP USING PEOPLE'S MENTAL DISORDERS TO CALL THEM ABUSIVE.

"actually all pwnpd are abusive because they have low empathy and don't care about anyone but themselves-" I will eat you.

Just a reminder that ableism against personality disorders, especially cluster b personality disorder, is alive and well.

Not having empathy doesn’t make someone evil. It doesn’t make them an abuser. In fact, people without empathy are better in certain vital positions. We’re better at being first responders, 911 operators, and other tasks that would overwhelm empaths. We work better in critical situations than empaths do.

Thinking that any disorder makes someone evil is ableist. And when you take into account the sexist bias in diagnosing women with BPD and the racist and classist bias in diagnosing POC and prison inmates with ASPD and NPD? It’s not only ableist, it’s all kinds of -ists. Plus, it’s really rich for someone who claims that empathy is what makes someone good to have so little empathy for people with disorders that are literally trauma-based.

So yeah if you see someone being a dick to people with PDs? Say something. Because they’re definitely not going to listen to us.

Bc Ive seen some ppl ask me about it (and bc im bored) Im just going to say what I* mean when I mention npd hierarchies

So basically some ppl with npd (myself included) have somewhat subconscious rankings of the ppl around them. For me personally these ranks are split into 5 main tiers and most ppl vaguely fall into 1 of them, unless I am close to that person and they get a more personalized rank

The tiers are:

1. Superior (negative) - where you are better than me and that is a threat. I highly dislike you and want to take you down somehow to prove myself better than you

2. Superior (positive) - i look up to you greatly and want you to notice me. I want to become friends or be recognized by you and I am personally interested in you

3. Equal - An ep pretty much. You are on the same level as me and my narcissistic traits are toned down greatly. I value our relationship a lot

4. Inbetween - I see you as somewhat lesser than me but I dont dislike you and often enjoy interacting with you. However you are not on the same level as an ep and I have a lot less things I am willing to put up with for our relationship. Most ppl are here

5. Inferior - You are so far below me I dislike you. I dont like talking to you and you are often exceptionately annoying to me. I will only interact out of either obligation or if something you have brought up personally interests me. Maybe also to fight you if youre a prick. Not many ppl are here

These ranks are not active choices and are entirely subconscious, only noticeable by how I feel about interactions with you. If you are very close to me you may have your own personalized rank, but that happens to very few ppl

*I, me, 1 person on the internet who is not a medical professional. This is what I mean when I talk about hierarchies and these are my experiences, not a universal definition or whatever

Fake claiming is wrong even if:

(Tw: post mentions RAMCOA, CSA, abuse, medical neglect and abelism)

- you’ve been diagnosed your whole life

- you’ve been researching your whole life

- they don’t fit the DSM criteria exactly

- they are undiagnosed

- they are a minor

- they have a large system at a young age

- they don’t feel safe getting diagnosed

- they don’t talk about being a system

- they talk a lot about being a system

- they’re fictive heavy

- they’re factive heavy

- their host is a fictive

- they remember most of their days but not their trauma

- they don’t remember anything

- they remember day to day life but don’t remember trauma

- are happy as a system

- are unhappy as a system

- they do not have daily flashbacks

- they have “weird” triggers

- they are open about being triggered

- they don’t say when triggered

- they are still learning about their system

- they have subsystems

- they are a RAMCOA survivor

- they are a victim of CSA

- they are frequently re-traumatised by their own thoughts

- they are neurodivergent

- they are not on medication

- they ARE on medication

- they were not abused daily

- they were abused daily

- they went through and are vocal about their biggest trauma being medical neglect

- they call out fake claiming as what it is, abelism

Fake claiming is and always has been wrong no matter what the “justification”

Nadia from The Circus Tent System

Ok yes "more male characters with big naturals" but are you normal about trans men/transmasc folks who have tits? Are you normal about them not binding? About them not wanting top surgery or not wanting to bind?

Are you normal about cis men with gynecomastia? Are you normal about gynecomastic men not binding, or not wanting top surgery?

ARE YOU NORMAL ABOUT REAL LIFE MEN WITH BIG NATURALS?

We really need to stop moralising emotions.

A kid who gets angry when they get hurt is not somehow ‘worse’ than a kid who gets sad. They are not less deserving of love, sympathy, and affection just because their natural response is anger.

Adults are allowed to be angry without being evil or immature.

Like literally any other emotion, anger, when successfully regulated, is GOOD for you to feel! And pretty much any emotion can be harmful if it gets out of control.

I’m making this posts from the perspective of someone with ASPD, but this applies to other ND people too as well as NT people.

*notices one (1) tiny detail that other people didnt notice* well, i'm clearly way more observant than all of you. i might even be a genius, if you think of it!

It’s absolutely insane how I still see so many borderlines misuse the term narcissist…you do realize all that crap they say about ppl with NPD being evil they say about us too, just to a lesser extent, right?