This Is So So Unpopular...but They Both Lowkey Deserved Better. They Trauma Bonded And Never Got A Chance

REMA | Calm Down (2022)

female authors and men who recommend them

everytime a woman says they are only reading a book or consuming certain media cause a male pop star said he personally likes it my heart fades away all of woman kind weeps

It can be true but the patriarchy is strong enough no need to even say stuff like that.

Especially cause a lot of times the books are written by female authors. I wonder is it is the fame association or the fact that its men giving stuff validity. I think the goal of men reading women centric work is to understand women better and the fans want to know what the guy likes but many never give an actual opinion.

Even if they did the point is to form your own opinion which will never be the same as a mans not really.

4 example a looooong time ago when I was a teen kji was still recommending books to fans back when fans read actual books. A lot of girls got sprung by the fact that he read a korean translation of me before you

( I only watched the movie and ended up reading the second book cause finnick from hunger games and khalessi from game of thrones was in it) but it was a big deal at the timw.

Now and days it is really not in the sm ent image to be intellectual for some reason, I suppose fans don't like that idk.

Many thought of it as a...indicator of him being..idk romantic.

Which..is possible but actually looking back in his old interviews he basically said he mainly read books to imagine himself in the main role he said this many times.

So he generally has little interest reading books he wouldn't want to be in. Me before you was a tragic romance which is basically his entire acting career. Andante, he cared for ill people the entire drama and his girlfriend who passes away. Spring has come, he cared for his girlfriends family and eventually his sick mother. Miracle that we met, literally played an angel...guardian angel..like that's very obvious.

Even the superm show as we wish where for like the first time ever the managers said the members get to create the mini dramas they want to star in.

Mark even reenacted his parents engagement story. Kji ended up doing a tragic romance that included memory loss and a car accident. It lowkey is neverending cause he even made it clear he hates romance but talked about a romance movie from the 70s he watched....where the fiance died.

Bonus round he only has writing credits on one song and it makes a reference to this movie. A very obvious reference.

Some people like what they like for very specific reasons. Even if you read the book or watch the movie you can't feel how they felt while consuming that same thing. It is good to pass on likes or learn of new things from people but its your own personal experience that matters.

I love watching golden girls because I think old people are like large adult babies who can talk, most people would never know thats basically the only reason I watched the show so many times.

This stuff although is there to just figure out but I think many assume korean is so hard to understand and confusing we must rely on social media to tell us who the kdolls are. 1stly tv interviews say much more than fansubs and fandoms. Many people do say a lot about who they are but many people read more fanfic than interviews. Some read both but the fandom version is more fun. I can say this cause I read kpop fanfic since like 2014 neve got in the way of like me knowing real personalities and fandom creations. This is shots fired for some people at least but kji isn't really shy..sm made him shy. He was super go getting and excited back in 2012 . Some may disagree that this was fake and the real him is shy, but I disagree, outside of Korea is usually when he's more talkative both to strangers and in general. Now it's reserved for the fans and outside of that he was typically mum. Nobody saw that kji again until at least a year into super m. Not simply clowning around but speaking his peace and defending himself and sharing his opinions.

In super m he got to be loud and obnoxious without censor because that's "American style" promotion. Cool guys can also be funny and total jerks yet still well liked in America.

yes he is an anxious person but not shy and introvert is a stretch.

Shy baby bear jongin at least to the degree it's been sold is giving noona fanservice I'm sorry. Anyone can be shy at any given moment but shy as in a personality trait is a bit much for anyone who's an idols and literally interacts with new people everyday.

I LOVE pseudoscience and feel like many things in pseudoscience are very accurate and have a lot of truth in them. But personality tests are iffy at best and go only surface level of what makes up a person. I also don't believe the basis of the test is ... good either

It's important to note that it was made to pigeon hole women more than actually discover who a person truly was on the inside.

Those personality test are inaccurate on multiple levels, please research many books debunking the extrovert introvert myth similar to animals personality changes with environment and comfortability. The same shy person in New York can be an extrovert in Los Angeles. Also personal experiences can craft a person's being extroverted or introverted. It's not a 100 percent set thing that can't change...complete myth..one that America and a lot of first world countries have latched onto in the name of faux tribalism.

For multiple reasons I keep referring to other sources to expound upon the fact that it gives me major ick people can't see how gross the origins of a Eurocentric world war two control device to dehumanize women SHOULD NOT be used as an accurate test of any kind and it's based off of a very immoral and inhuman type of thinking. I highly recommend reading this for appropriate cultural scope. I think it's better explained by these author's.

CNN

How Koreans fell in love with an American World War II era personality test | CNN

If you stroll through Seoul, you might come across four letters popping up time and again, emblazoned on ads or peppered into daily conversa

The craze to me was honestly a bit scary with how many people quickly latched onto these labels and identified themselves like, for so many reasons nooo! It's really ick to me for lots of reasons, yes it's fun but many people label idols like this. Rare types and common types, introverts and extroverts and it's like the idols begin to play more into the roles they were assigned.

Jongin being branded as an introvert(the offstage version of exo kai still a character btw) was to I believe sell a certain image to the fans. Introverts don't go out to clubs and party with girls and their friends, they stay quiet and text on bubble and act like they are texting their middle school clique. It always gives I don't know anybody here guys come get me. Yet that obviously can't happen but it creates that illusion and further deepens the bond.

At a certain point kji just stopped really saying much cause the bear bear image is what people cared about. I remember early on he explained how much he didn't like fanservice but he would try to get better. Basically I think he may have liked the book because of it having a caretaker in it and he likes that caretaker role. Most visible when he's with kids.

He as a person has that as a strong part of his character. I wish people would try to look at things a little deeper. If one does feel the need to get something or consume something just like their fave did at least maybe one form your own opinion and enjoy your own personal experience first and foremost but also understand why that other person likes that thing. People like men written by women more than the women who write them. Understand it takes a lot of positive influence from women to make a man like that. I.e the mother and other older female role models.

I wish kpop fans would be just as concerned about kpop artists hygeine who still have 10 layers of makeup on when they go to sleep so they can rush to their next schedule first thing in the morning. You know I never thought about it before but people only tease nice people who never do or say anything. I just leave people alone when I don't care about them, but somehow there's this weird obsession to publically humiliate your fave's percieved competition. Sadly hindsight is 20/20 because if some of these hateful people would read books and articles and the actual interviews of kpop idols you'd know quiet a few of them are not the most hygenic either. Yet I never see longposts about all the times kpop idols were on v or ig live after a concert and just put new clothes on with makeup on their faces and go to bed. I don't do that cause I know you never know someones mental state maybe they are really struggling with something personal. I know people just delete and get new socials and pretend they never said such rude and tasteless things but words do hurt. I never understand people wont tell the honest truth about politics' morals or something of common sense to a celeb but they will make fun of them.

Valid critique is fine. Show concern but just being mean for the sake of it is so pointless.

I try to say things that make sense and that I would actually say to a persons face; ask simple questions or make a critique of their work. But bullying someone like we are in middle school or something is so childish.

the way you guys still thirst over harry styles in 2019 and he doesn’t even shower…

mind you at this time Justin Bieber was doing completely fine in asia. The misinformation and lies that Exo had replaced him in Asia was propaganda done by s.m. Around that time I actually found photos of Jb with japanese idols and fans taking photos and doing interviews in japan and press conferences. He even went around south korea and met with producers and artists. S.m does a lot of social media play. There was a twitter thread that exo was having a concert and all of justins fans left to go see exom not even in the building but they went go wait outside while exo was performing. My first introduction to how deceptive s.m entertainment was. Jb was their biggest foreign competition. Sadly as a little kid I literally believed the lie that exo ended Justins popularity in Asia due to s.m entertainments hate campaign against him. He would later start up a successful clothing brand of his own in Japan meanwhile and Exo still promotes other peoples brands that they have no control over and to date has had at least six members sue over human slavery allegations.

idk why you guys are talking about exo ending justing bieber’s career until now??? like Kyungsoo ended his career long ago when he covered “Boyfriend”?? 

kpop doesn't deserve him. The lack of promotion is scandalous seriously. He got a genuine hit with basically no budget, and it kept growing after the promotion cycle. Personally I think the audience is partially to blame. Companies think the worst of attention spans because it's been proven people are fighting with goldfish to see who's memory lasts longer. People are barely winning. Personally rover wasn't my cup of tea, but aside from that I see no reason why it wasn't taken further. The obsession fans have with a full group comeback is nonsense. If he would of been given more time to work on his own album and not have to do a total rush job in order to make time for an album that quite frankly couldn't make numbers or bring in any new fans is ridiculous. The artistic direction Jongin goes in works for the times we are in. In an era where even the president of big hit admits kpop is declining fans still are stubborn and swear it's not true. J's a model, an influencer and could potentially be an international socialite. As laughable as that sounds to most fans who pay no attention to the outside world and only care for korean standards, it's true. He has an will always have great potential. Whether people want to accept that or not, he does. But squandering it for meager things like exo fancams going viral and having your faves together to me is a mistake. I believe he made it clear a while back he wants to do his own thing. I believe s.m will let exo go over their dead bodies. They will never give the group name and music away. Especially after so many artists are trying to leave. There is so much more to the story than people know.

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I knew it was super structured but I didn't think they probably literally had papers of exactly how much money the fan spent with people taking notes and giving tips like ...........................I need an HBO expose documentary on all of this. Kpop the corruption of love. I feel like at least in japan people know what it is it's pretty transparent but in korea there's a layer of feigned authenticity that's really dangerous.