Can Someone Please Tell Me Everything Is Going To Be Fine

fun fact: any policy on drugs that isn’t harm reduction is going to cause addicts to suffer and die

(Dec. 20)

“but is it still abuse if the abuser doesn’t seem to realize he’s doing it?”

YES IT IS. Abuse is defined by the pain and trauma victims go thru, your suffering and fear don’t go down one bit because “abuser may not be aware of what they’re doing”, actually, it goes up! Being tortured by someone who doesn’t care enough to even freaking realize they’re damaging you is much more dehumanizing and emotionally taxing than at least knowing the abuser’s intention clearly and that they’re achieving exactly what they want to achieve. Being lost about abuser’s intentions adds on to the trauma!

It doesn’t matter if they meant to do it or not (in most cases they absolutely meant it or didn’t actually give a shit if they’re hurting you or not as long as they get what they want). Staying safe from this person is important. Stopping the abuse and preventing any future abuse is important. Healing is important. Label the abuser with whatever you need that helps you to heal. Forget abuser’s side of the story and focus on yours. What they agree or disagree, what they’re aware or aren’t aware isn’t nearly as important as stopping that person from harming you, and preventing them from hurting you ever again.

Tbh that sounds so nice

if you’re not wandering around in a sprawling library aimlessly running your hand on dated bookspines before settling down with a hardcover classic on a window seat while the afternoon rain pours down from outside then that’s the point

Some sources about the British gay slang of Polari:

“How gay men used to speak - A short film in Polari”

“A brief history of Polari: the curious after-life of the dead language for gay men”

“Polari: The code language gay men used to survive”

“Polari, a vibrant language born out of prejudice”

The Polari Bible

Glossary of Polari terms with additional readings (books, magazines, films)

Take a couple guesses 😉

reblog if you see your kink:

♡hair pulling

♡having financial stability

♡choking

♡recycling

♡bondage

♡saving the bees

♡role playing

♡having a healthy sleep schedule

this is a hardly controversial take, but let’s clear something up. if your advocacy for autistic people goes something like “well you see, not all of us have intellectual/physical disabilities, not all of us have low-/no-empathy, not all of us have violent meltdowns, not all of have impulse control issues, not all of us hurt ourselves,” or however you want to continue it, and your sentence does not end with “but those who do still deserve the same fucking rights as we do,” you are not interested in autistic advocacy. every single one of us deserves safety, to be surrounded by people who love them and care for them, to have all their needs met, to have their dignity preserved, to be afforded privacy. that is not open for negotiation. no matter what we do, we do not become less human because of it.

Happy Pride!

Consent is so important in everything, please, pleeeease ask for consent, I’m begging you. Don’t just assume that whatever it is is ok, if in doubt, A S K