i think ppl refuse to believe mike isnt straight and didnt believe will was either in the past bc SO MANY ppl only see queer ppl as characters, as over the top icons designed to sell/pander to other gay people. they're not people to them; no depth to their thoughts, feelings, intentions etc etc. irl not just in media, but that not-recognizing-gays-as-real-people in real life they are now also applying to media that strays from the 'norm'- to mike
literally "what ur gay! i could never have guessed," and "but u dont look gayđ"
Law of assumption:
Before I start giving you guys my tips, I wanted to let you all know that I follow the law of assumption. Meaning a lot of my advice is going to be surrounding this law, which basically states that your thoughts and assumptions about yourself and your reality, manifest.
Leading us into TIP #1:
Accepting your truth as the creator of your reality.
It may feel like things are permanent and impossible to change right now, but thatâs only because youâve deemed them to be that way. Itâs very easy to fall into the âvictim mentality.â This way you can spend the rest of your time on this earth blaming the world for the way your life is, instead of taking both, responsibility and control over your reality.
Whether you believe it or not, YOU ARE THE ONE WITH THE POWER, except youâve been giving it all away to your outer world by caving in and falling victim to whatever your shitty circumstances may be at the moment. And that is where youâve gone wrong.
Your circumstances do not define you, you define your circumstances.
If thereâs something that you want to change, you CAN change it; right now even. The only reason youâre having difficulty with this, is because youâre limiting yourself. So stop doing that and realize that there are no limits.
Everything you see in the outer world today was once only a thought. Anything you can imagine or create in your inner world, CAN and WILL reflect into your outer world if you deem it important enough.
The reason I say that is because whether you want something or not isnât always relevant; if you dwell on it enough, and put a lot of your energy and focus onto that subject, it will manifest. This is why if you have an assumption like, for example, âall guys/girls are the same,â you will begin seeing a pattern in the type of man (or woman) you attract. Even if you find someone you think is perfect, if you still have that same underlying assumption patiently waiting to manifest when you least expect it, it sure as fuck will. Youâll then see that same perfect person slowly but surely turn out to be just like everyone else, because thatâs what you decided they were gonna do.
However, donât freak; you can change this by changing your assumptions, which Iâll dive deeper into a little later.
Moving onto TIP #2:
Getting out of your slump.
Taking breaks to reevaluate yourself and your life, and to work on yourïżŒ mental health is perfectly okay, until you use that as an excuse to completely give up. Sometimes shit can be hard, losing motivation is normal; which is exactly why you cannot rely on it to be the only time you choose to put in effort.
I know just how hard juggling both your depleting mental health and your mess of a life can be, which is why Iâm not asking you to disregard your needs or to act like nothing is wrong. Iâm asking for you to do the exact opposite, Iâm asking you to take care of yourself.
Again, I know that it can be extremely hard, but at some point you are going to have to get out of bed and show your mind and body the love that it deserves. No step is too little, baby steps matter too; whatâs important is that you try. Whether your accomplishment of the day is brushing your teeth, or reaching out to a close friend youâve unintentionally isolated from, self care is self care & Iâm proud of you.
Things you can do to feel better and be more active in your life:
Develop a routineâ this builds self discipline and can help you feel more organized.
Make daily âTo-Doâ listsâ this especially helps those who feel as if theyâre being unproductive or wasting their days away because at least now youâre getting the things on your list done. And even if the things on your list are things you may view as small, they still count. They donât have to be chores or something boring either, in fact, I recommend you putting things down that you like. Something productive and fun like drawing, maybe reading a book or finishing that show you ghosted last month.
Declutter your spaceâ I believe that messy physical environments are most likely a result of a messy mental and emotional environment. Doing things like cleaning your room or not letting the trash pile up, shows that you arenât going to give in to the laziness and that you are willing to make a change.
Declutter your space pt. 2â meditating and journaling can help you release the things casting shadows over the space inside your heart and mind, therefore giving you a safer, more calm and peaceful mental environment.
Find new interests/Break bad habitsâ get a hobby, indulge in things that bring you enjoyment and raise your vibrations. distance and detach yourself from people who keep you feeling low, and stressed out & change the music you listen to to songs that have a more positive message to them.
There are obviously way more things you can do, but I chose to list only the ones I feel are the most important so that this wasnât too too long.
The last thing on the list is complimenting yourselfâ the way you talk to and about yourself is literally everythingâŠwhich Iâll explain next, but no seriously, talk kindly to yourself. stop indulging in self deprecating jokes, and donât surround yourself with people that do. building confidence and falling in love with who you are is definitely one of the best things you can do for yourself, and simply giving yourself a compliment each day is a nice start to making that happen.
Which brings us to TIP #3:
Developing a healthy relationship with yourself.
Realizing your worth: quit settling. be picky, have high standards bitch thatâs okay!!! you shouldnât have to lower your bar for a bum EVER, when there are people out there that WILL meet your requirements & give you the treatment that you deserve.
Setting boundaries: set boundaries with yourself and others, make it clear what you will and will not be tolerating. stop condoning behavior that the version of yourself you dream about wouldnât.
Creating a good self concept: self concept is your belief system surrounding, you guessed it, yourself. think about who you want to be, what you want to attract, and start thinking from the perspective of that person because you are that person tf?!
What you think about yourself WILL manifest, in ways that you might not even notice youâre the one causing. Even saying something like âI have bad luckâ is going to make bad things happen to you, at what you feel to be random times, but itâs not random; you manifested it.
Having a good self concept is essential. Itâs not an option. I know a lot of people in this community say it is, but Iâm telling you right now, itâs not. You shouldnât want to hate yourself goofball. Stop making shit harder than it has to be and develop a healthy relationship with yourself right tf now.
TIP #4:
Affirming accordingly / keeping your thoughts in check.
This is VERY important okay? You MUST keep your mf thoughts in check because your reality is a direct reflection of your subconscious mind, and it will always be that way. You canât affirm for a day or two and then fall back into that self hating rabbit hole and expect to see changes weirdo.
Stop over complicating affirmations. Youâre constantly affirming just like youâre constantly manifesting, the only difference now is that youâre aware of it. For example: you ask your mom for McDonaldâs, she says no, you accept that as true and go âdamn, guess Iâm not getting McDonaldâs today.â And then boom, no McDonaldâs for you. But if you were to have persisted in the assumption that you were getting McDonaldâs that day, and she did say yes, then guess who tf is getting McDonaldâs?! Yeah exactly. Iâve done this multiple times so Iâm speaking from experience.
Some people like to loop their affs robotically, if that works for youâŠdo that. If rampaging and ranting to yourself in your head, or outloud in the mirror works for you, then do that. If saying your affirmations as complaints works for you, THEN DO THAT!!!!!! you make the rules babe I really donât gaf how you do it, just affirm for your shit and persist in that new mindset. For me, I recommend saying blanket affs mostly, affs that cover everything like:
Manifestation is so easy for me.
Everything always goes my way.
I have everything I want and more.
My life is perfect etc etcâŠ
& then whenever you think of a specific desire you have, like clear skin for example, affirming for your clear skin:
âI love having clear skinâ âmy skin is flawlessâ and so on.
Remember that you canât just do this for a week or two, and then when you get your desire you drop all of the work you were doing to fix your mindset and then slip again. NO. This is your new story, your new reality; you MUST persist in that shit always, just like you already do with the old story that doesnât serve you.
So if youâre manifesting clear skin and you see a pimple the next day, you donât go âman this ainât even working. fuck this, Iâm never getting clear skinâ because thatâs literally the opposite of what youâve been affirming, and itâs a belief you already had impressed into your subconscious so further affirming for it just overwrites that affirming for clear skin you did the day before.
You are god. Anything you could possibly imagine can be yours if you really wanted it to be. Absolutely nothing is off limits. Period.
TIP #5, the fifth and final tip:
Carry yourself with confidence and know itâs done.
This means you do not react when something doesnât go your way, thatâs impossible. Just adapt the new mindset that everything always works out in your favor, because then the 3D has no choice but to conform to that fact.
You want to go to that party tonight but your parents said no? So? You are going to that party. Donât sneak out or put yourself in a possibly dangerous situation, just know that you are going despite what they said. Mentally make them tell you yes, affirm that they did and go get ready bae.
You want that promotion but your boss is an asshole? No heâs not, heâs nice and he respects you. Youâre literally his favorite employee, which is why you are getting that promotion.
Get it?
Donât stress out about outer circumstances cause all that shit is temporary, itâs literally just a reflection of your old story. Write a new one, be confident in your power, and know that shit is done; everything you want is already yours.
to anyone who got me for secret santa, this is my list
a girlfriend
if thats not possible, Ruby Cruz
if that is also not possible, Hazel Callahan
if neither of those options are possible, Kit Tanthalos
Fantasy Guide to Building A Culture
Culture is defined by a collection of morals, ethics, traditions, customs and behaviours shared by a group of people.
Within every culture, there is a hierarchy. Hierarchies are an important part of any culture, usually do ingrained that one within the culture wouldn't even question it. Hierarchy can be established either by age, gender or wealth and could even determine roles within their society. Sometimes hierarchy can may be oppressive and rigid whilst other times, ranks can intermingle without trouble. You should consider how these different ranks interact with one another and whether there are any special gestures or acts of deference one must pay to those higher than them. For example, the Khasi people of Meghalaya (Northern India), are strictly matriarchal. Women run the households, inheritance runs through the female line, and the men of the culture typically defer to their mothers and wives. Here are a few questions to consider:
How is a leader determined within the culture as a whole and the family unit?
Is the culture matriarchal? Patriarchal? Or does gender even matter?
How would one recognise the different ranks?
How would one act around somebody higher ranking? How would somebody he expected to act around somebody lower ranking?
Can one move socially? If not, why? If so, how?
Traditions are a staple in any culture. These can be gestures or living life a certain way or to the way a certain person should look. Traditions are a personal detail to culture, they are what make it important. Tradition can dictate how one should keep their home, run their family, take care of their appearance, act in public and even determine relationship. Tradition can also be a double edged sword. Traditions can also be restrictive and allow a culture to push away a former member if they do not adhere to them, eg Traditional expectations of chastity led to thousands of Irish women being imprisoned at the Magdelene Laundries. Customs could be anything from how one treats another, to how they greet someone.
How important is tradition?
What are some rituals your culture undertakes?
What are some traditional values in your world? Does it effect daily life?
Are there any traditions that determine one's status?
Values and Opinions are the bread and butter of any culture. This is the way your culture sees the world and how they approach different life hurdles. These may differ with other cultures and be considered odd to outsiders, what one culture may value another may not and what opinion another holds, one may not. There will be historical and traditional reasons to why these values and opinions are held. Cultures usually have a paragon to which they hold their members to, a list of characteristics that they expect one to if not adhere to then aspire to. The Yoruba people value honesty, hard work, courage and integrity. Here are some questions to consider?
How important are these ethics and core values? Could somebody be ostracised for not living up to them?
What are some morals that clash with other cultures?
What does your culture precieved to be right? Or wrong?
What are some opinions that are considered to be taboo in your culture? Why?
For many cultures, the way somebody dresses can be important. History and ethics can effect how one is meant to be dressed such as an expectation of chastity, can impose strict modesty. While other cultures, put more importance on details, the different sorts of clothes worn and when or what colour one might wear. The Palestinian people (Ù Ù Ű§ÙÙÙ۱ Ű„ÙÙ Ű§ÙŰšŰ۱ Ű ÙŰŻ ÙÙÙÙÙÙ ŰŁŰ۱ۧ۱ۧ) denoted different family ties, marriage status and wealth by the embroidery and detailing on their thoub.
Are there traditional clothes for your world? Are they something somebody wears on a daily basis or just on occasion?
Are there any rules around what people can wear?
What would be considered formal dress? Casual dress?
What would happen if somebody wore the wrong clothes to an event?
Language can also be ingrained as part of a Culture. It can be a specific way one speaks or a an entirely different language. For example, in the Southern States of America, one can engage in a sort of double talk, saying something that sounds sweet whilst delivering something pointed. Bless their heart. I have a post on creating your own language here.
Many cultures are known for different styles of dance, their artwork and crafts. Art is a great part of culture, a way for people to express themselves and their culture in art form. Dance can be an integral part of culture, such as céilà dance in Ireland or the Polka in the Czech Republic. Handicrafts could also be important in culture, such as knitting in Scottish culture and Hebron glass in Palestine. Music is also close to culture, from traditional kinds of singing such as the White Voice in Ukraine and the playing of certain instruments such as the mvet.
The way a culture prepares or intakes or treats certain foods are important to a culture. In some cultures, there is a diet yo adhere to, certain foods are completely banned. With Jewish culture, pork is prohibited along with fish such as sturgeon, along with shellfish and certain fowl. Meat must also be prepared in a certain way and animal byproducts such as dairy, must never be created or even eaten around this meat. This is known as kosher. The way one consumes food is also important to culture. In some cultures, only certain people may eat together. Some cultures place important on how food is eaten. In Nigerian culture, the oldest guests are served first usually the men before the women. In Japanese culture, one must say 'itadakimasu' (I recieve) before eating. Culture may also include fasting, periods of time one doesn't intake food for a specific reason.
What are some traditional dishes in your world?
What would be a basic diet for the common man?
What's considered a delicacy?
Is there a societal difference in diet? What are the factors that effect diet between classes?
Is there any influence from other cuisines? If not, why not? If so, to what extent?
What would a typical breakfast contain?
What meals are served during the day?
What's considered a comfort food or drink?
Are there any restrictions on who can eat what or when?
Are there any banned foods?
What stance does your world take on alcohol? Is it legal? Can anybody consume it?
Are there any dining customs? Are traditions?
Is there a difference in formal meals or casual meals? If so, what's involved?
Are there any gestures or actions unacceptable at the dinner table?
How are guests treated at meals? If they are given deference, how so?
i easily get everything i want in life.
i always get what i want and better.
i manifest my desires quickly and easily.
i am a master manifestor.
i get everything i desire instantly.
everything always works in my favor.
The world revolves around me.
i can be,do and have anything i want.
i am the main character.
i am the only creator of my reality.
i am in full control of everything and everyone in my reality.
everything and everyone conforms my every desire instantly.
i have everything i desire and more.
All my desires are mine and here right now.
i never chase after what's already mine.
my desires shows up in my 3d extremely fast.
manifesting is always easy & instant for me.
my 3d instantly reflects my desires.
my 3d always conforms my every desires.
i am always in the state of wish fulfilled.
my self concept is perfect and strong.
For me, everything is possible and easy.
i am god, my manifestations are inevitable.
nothing can ruin my manifestations.
my imagination is the only real reality.
i easily dwell in my imagination.
i know my 3d is only the reflection of my 4d.
i am free from fears,doubts and worries.
i only have positive thoughts.
my physical reality only reflects my desires.
my life is rigged in my favor.
only good things and miracles happen to me.
i deserve only the best in everything.
i have healthy self esteem.
i believe in myself and trust myself.
i am absolutely limitless and powerful.
i am perfect and flawless.
everything about my life is perfect.
i am extremely confident and fearless.
i love myself unconditionally.
i am highly favoured,loved and respected.
i always win and succeed at everything i do.
i am smart,intelligent and talented.
i am extremely wealthy and rich.
my negative and intrusive thoughts never manifest.
negativity and failure does not exist for me.
my mental and physical health is always top tier.
i am the most prettiest and beautiful girl ever.
This is an interesting Twitter thread:
I was wondering, what if the letter theory is true? And what if El is the one who finds and reads that letter, addressed to Will, ending with "Love, Mike"?
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Butts
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Chins
Curvy Build
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Eyebrows
Eyes
Faces
Facial Hair
Feet
Fingernails
Fingers
Hair
Hands
Head
Hips
Jaws
Knees
Legs
Lips
Muscular Build
Neck
Noses
Shoulders
Slender Build
Sickly Build
Skin
Stocky Build
Stomach
Teeth
Toenails
Toes
Underweight Build
Affectionate
Ambitious
Bossy
Brave
Calm
Cautious
Charismatic
Clever
Conceited
Courageous
Creative
Critical
Curious
Determined
Diplomatic
Dishonest
Disorganized
Eccentric
Excitable
Friendly
Funny
Generous
Glamorous
Guarded
Honest
Impulsive
Independent
Intelligent
Just
Kind
Loyal
Manipulative
Mature
Modest
Mysterious
NaĂŻve
Optimistic
Prejudiced
Persistent
Proper
Responsible
Sensitive
Sentimental
Serious
Shy
Reckless
Stingy
Stubborn
Talented
Thoughtful
Thrifty
Visionary
Wise
Witty
Worry Wart
Wounded
A Knack for Languages
A Knack for Making Money
A Way with Animals
Archery
Astral Projection
Astrological Divination
Baking
Basic First Aid
Blending In
Carpentry
Charm
ESP (Clairvoyance)
Empathy
Enhanced Hearing
Enhanced Sense of Smell
Enhanced Taste Buds
Farming
Fishing
Foraging
Gaining the Trust of Others
Gaming
Gardening
Good Listening Skills
Haggling
Herbalism
Hospitality
Hot-Wiring a Car
High Pain Tolerance
Knife Throwing
Knowledge of Explosives
Lip-Reading
Lying
Making People Laugh
Mechanically Inclined
Mentalism
Mimicking
Multitasking
Musicality
Organization
Parkour
Photographic Memory
Predicting the Weather
Promotion
Psychokinesis
Reading People
Regeneration
Repurposing
Sculpting
Self-Defense
Sewing
Sharpshooting
Sleight-of-Hand
Strategic Thinking
Strong Breath Control
Super Strength
Survival Skills
Swift-footedness
Talking With The Dead
Throwing Oneâs Voice
Whittling
Wilderness Navigation
Wrestling
Elemental Abilities
Voices
Voice Types
Speech Patterns
Speech Impediment
List of Character Flaws
List of Archetypes
Hairstyles
Describing Body Types & How They Move Around
Secrets To Give Your Character
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There is nothing in between.
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This is why I chose writing as my coping mechanism.
The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
A Vindication of The Rights of Women by Mary Wollstonecraft
Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by Bell Hooks
Feminism is For Everybody: Passionate Politics by Bell Hooks
The Dialectic of Sex: The Case for Feminist Revolution by  Shulamith FirestoneÂ
Sexual Politics by Kate Millett
Full Frontal Feminism by Jessica Valenti
Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
The Creation of Patriarchy by Gerda LernerÂ
Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape by Jessica Valenti
Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado PerezÂ
Bad Feminist by Roxanne Gay
The Color Purple by Alice Walker
Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall
Men Explain Things To Me by Rebecca Solnit
The Female Gaze: Essential Movies Made by Women by Alicia Malone
Girlhood by Melissa Febos
The Story of Art Without Men by Katy Hessel
Is This Normal?: Judgment-Free Straight Talk about Your Body by  Dr. Jolene Brighten
Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D
The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism by Dr. Jennifer Gunter
The Pain Gap: How Sexism and Racism in Healthcare Kill Women by Anushay HossainÂ
Unwell Women: Misdiagnosis and Myth in a Man-Made World by Elinor CleghornÂ
The Turnaway Study: The Cost of Denying Women Access to Abortion by Diana Greene Foster, Ph.D
Regretting Motherhood: A Study by Orna Donath