Essential Feminist Texts Booklist

people are incapable of looking at kink through a critical lens. kinksters will spew apologia without taking a moment to consider:

*why* is ‘feminisation’ considered humiliating to men?

*why* is getting off on your partner *struggling and being in pain* acceptable? ‘fake’ or not?

*why* is it so predominantly femininity that is being degraded? why are women the ones who are typically victims in kink? (and yes, i am aware women perpetuate bdsm abuse too. but predominantly men are the ‘doms’ in cnc, bdsm, etc. ddlg is much more prominent than whatever the reverse is.)

*why* is raceplay considered acceptable? why is ‘pretending’ to hold racist ideals and getting off on them considered acceptable?

actually, why is fetishisation of ANY group acceptable if you get off to it? trans people. lesbians. POC. r@pe victims.

most importantly, *why are victims of abuse in BDSM spaces so frequently ostracised for criticising the source of their trauma/the scene’s inability to protect them?* (i have personal experience with this one, having been banned from CPTSD and sexual assault support subreddits for critiquing kink that i was forced to partake in)

i could go on for days. a community that is ‘safe, sane and consensual’ should be able to discuss these issues of abuse within the community, instead of ostracising and blaming victims.

I am the universe, I am the creator of my own reality, I love and appreciate myself. Beautiful things are making its way to me. I live a beautiful abundant life. & so it is

Whenever you doubt Byler, remember that Will was planned to be in love with Mike from the start. Remember that Finn and Noah had to take a chemistry test. Remember that Mike has never had moments like that with anyone but Will. Remember every heart to heart Will and Mike have had. Remember the Variety interview. Remember Brett Gelman. Remember Eleven wasn't supposed to come back after season 1. Remember how most of the cast ships Byler. Remember how Byler has way more chemistry than Marijuana. Remember that the Duffers have taken inspiration from many shows with best friends to lovers tropes. Remember that Shawn Levi is for Byler. Remember Finn and Noah are for Byler. Remember the scripts. Remember the Eyewitness parallel. Remember the Byler docs. Remember nobody believing us about Will being gay and calling us delusional when we were right. Remember that Mike and El have nothing in common, and never have normal conversations. Remember the Duffers saying they don't believe in love at first sight. Remember Mosquito breakups being shown as comedic. Remember Byler fights being shown as a serious breakup. Remember Season 2. Remember the final placements in Season 4. Remember the show cares about detail. Remember Megamind is paralled to doomed relationships. Remember that, Byler, Jancy, Jopper, and Lumax are endgame couples, and have been all paralleled to each other at least once. Remember how the four endgames are always standing together. Remember the Duffers calling Mildew puppy love. Remember the cast's reaction to the monologue. Remember the stupid ass monologue in general. Remember Causeineedu. Remember NaturallyBrielle. Remember Millie improvising in almost all Mormon scenes. Remember the duffers mentioning one of their favorite shows growing up was a show where a man fell in love with his best friend who had a gf, and it turned out he shared those feelings. Remember that Mozzarella is paralled to Byler, but Byler is always the better version (You make me feel better for being different/You think I am a monster [] I say it/You didn't have to) and many more. Remember that Byler is absolutely going to be endgame, and they wouldn't build it up for 4 seasons for it to be unreciprocated. The duffers make mistakes, everyone does, but they know what they're doing (they made a hit show) and if you're still doubtful, it isn't just them writing it. Also, we have the music, the sets, the outfits, and camera angles on our side as well. Let MinnieMouse deny it all they want, but Byler is endgame along with Jopper, Jancy and Lumax. We have already won. It's been confirmed many times before, we just have to wait to prove it. And in those to years more proof will come, and we've gotten a lot of it already and it's only been 2 weeks. I know that sounded really stupid, but I see a few people giving up hope that the Duffers can pull this off (including myself at times) and I think despite all the proof we have we all need to hear this, especially with the Malaria shippers flooding everyone's inboxes lmfao. Anyways have and anazing day/night Byler nation. I am done with my rant.

“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”

’𝑊𝑒’𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑓𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑑 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑝𝑠’ 𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑟𝑒𝑑 𝑓𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑠 𝑎𝑓𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠：

𖣔 it was the easiest thing for me to manifest my desired friend group

𖣔 it makes me so happy to have my ideal friend group

𖣔 all my friends have my desired names

𖣔 i have my desired amount of friends in my friend group

𖣔 it’s crazy how my friends humor completely matches up to mine

𖣔 my friend group looks exactly how i desire them to look

𖣔 i have manifested a friend group that is full of my desired genders

𖣔 my friend group is so accepting

𖣔 i love how all my friends personalities are exactly how i desire them to be

𖣔everyone is my friend group in my desired age

𖣔 everyone in my friend group has my desired ethnicity and nationality

𖣔 i manifested a friend group with that has all my desired traits and characteristics

𖣔 i met my friend group in my desired way

𖣔 everyone in my friend group is incredibly loyal and trustworthy

𖣔 my desired friend group is exactly how imagined it to be

𖣔 my friend group literally cannot function without me

𖣔 my friend group is immune from excluding me

𖣔 i am immune from having my friend group be mad at me

𖣔 all my friends are incredibly supportive and sweet

𖣔 my friend group literally loves everything about me

𖣔 my friend group always sticks up for me, they are all very protective of me

𖣔 me and my friend group literally do everything together

𖣔 my friend group is free from toxicity

𖣔 my friend group have and always be there for me through thick and thin

𖣔 my friends are always there to defend me no matter what

𖣔 me and my friend group never run out of things to talk about

𖣔 me and my friend group always have fun places to hang out

𖣔 i love how im living my teenage dream life with my friend group

𖣔 i’m happy thanksgiving me and my friends all go to the school

𖣔 i am always living mg desired scenarios with my friends

Desired person affs

ఌ my dp loves being my best friend

ఌ i can’t believe my dp asked for number

ఌ my dp is constantly texting me, they can’t help themselves

ఌ my dp is always asking me to hang out

ఌ my dp feels like we have been friends for yearsss

ఌ i love how well me and my dp get along

ఌ me and my dp’s humor matches up perfectly

ఌ my dp cannot stop laughing at my jokes, they think im so funny

ఌ my dp’s family loves me

ఌ i love being apart of my dp’s friend group

ఌ my dp always has my back no matter what

ఌ it’s crazy how me and my dp have similar interests

ఌ my dp is the definition of loyal and trustworthy

if you're on a path of self-growth and self-improvement I would like to advise you to keep private about it. I'm not saying to keep it a locked secret but don't go around talking about it. I learned it the hard way that speaking freely about our plans to improve ourselves results in bringing out the worst in so many people. people who you have no reason to distrust suddenly will actually wish you ill, because your progress will intimidate them, make them feel inferior, make them face their own insecurities and desires. and the kind of energy that these people produce is the kind of energy that can be a hindrance for you without you even noticing. suddenly you'll be exposing your dreams to an emotional vampire who will, even unconsciously, try and sabotage you. you don't need to share your plans and projects: just show up with the results and it will be enough said 🌸

Law of assumption is literally so crazy! We are extremely powerful. We can change how many days/weeks there are in a month, how many months there are in a year, how many hours there are in a day, the name of the earth and how many planets there are in this galaxy. We can even create a planet with our own name! We can literally create humans that live on existing planets that are not earth. The possibilities are endless! And what's crazy is that we can achieve all this in a year or instantly depending on what our assumptions are! Our assumptions is constantly creating reality, we are in control of everything! We keep persisting in the assumption there's 24 hours in a day therefore there is but we can persist in 25 hours and that will manifest because your desire is inevitable. You keep persisting that there are 12 fixed months in a year but you can also decide to persist that there are 15 months in a year and that will manifest. Isn't it crazy!? We (most of us) probably don't question or doubt this assumption of ours and we keep persisting in it.

Moral of whatever this is: You are limitless and your assumptions are constantly creating reality! Stop questioning or doubting about your desire and keep on persisting! It will manifest because your desires are inevitable!

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Villain things I want to see more of

Actually funny. Not making jokes at other people's expense, not the butt of the joke, just villains that have absurd senses of humour and top-notch intentional comedic timing,

CHARISMA!!! Please, can we have more charming villains, villains that can sway a crowd, villains that get away with things because their too polite, too well-spoken, too funny to possibly to evil.

Respected. Villains whose villainous deeds have led them to success and made them widely respected members of society. To be clear, this isn't respected person who is secretly evil. No. I mean, the bad things they've done are the reason they're respected.

Let them win. Let them win because their plan succeeded. Not because the protagonists fucked up, not by pure luck. Let them earn their victories.

Supporters! Lots of them. The more powerful your villain is, the more supporters they are going to need. If the evil king is unpopular with everyone he's not going to stay king for long. He needs allies, lots of them, especially if he's a tyrant.

Knows how to play the game. Manipulative villains who say whatever they have to to get their way, chose their allies and enemies carefully, bribe and blackmail, play the victim, the hero, or even the innocent when it suits them. Make it hard for your protagonists to convince anyone they are a villain at all.

Cold Steel. Give me villains that don't get angry easy, that laugh things off, that kill because it's efficient and for no other reason.

Clever and creative. Strategists who always have a trick up their sleeve and problem solvers with personal flare.

Show other characters reacting with fear. Nothing rams home how terrifying a villain is quite like watching other powerful characters fall to their knees--fast--when they walk in the room.

Irredeemable despite their tragic backstories. For the love of god people, tragic backstories do not justify a villain's actions. You can have empathy for what they've endured while still expecting them to take responsibility for what they've become.

Unconventionally attractive. Take this however you want. I, for one, would like to see more tortured bad boys who aren't white and shredded. But also, villains whose attractiveness lies in how they talk, their body language and facial expressions, and their outfits. Why do y'all think smirking is such a popular word??

Love. Let them love their spouses, their children, their friends. Not in an abusive way either. Let them have healthy relationships with their still living wives, daughters, sons, comrades in arms etc.

Kind. Give me villains who tip well, who put their own garbage away even though the servants could do it, who remember their henchmen's names, who are good with kids, who donate to charity and not just for the tax incentives

Masculine beauty affirmations:

☾ i am strikingly handsome

☾ i am the epitome of incredibly attractive male beauty

☾ i have deep, raspy, an attractive voice

☾ i love how masculine my voice sounds

☾ my voice is nice and smooth

☾ people could listen to my voice all day, it so riveting and compelling

☾ my seductive voice makes everyone weak

☾ i have deep set and alluring eyes

☾ my eyes are incrediblely hypnotic

☾ everyone is drawn to my captivating eyes

☾ my eyes make my side profile flawless and seductive

☾ i have sharp, intense and appealing eyes

☾ i have defined and strong facial features

☾ my eyebrows are thick and groomed

☾ my jawline is sharp and incredibly defined

☾i have high prominent cheekbones

☾ my smile is seductive and devious

☾ i have the most eye catching smile ever

☾ my smile gives everyone butterflies

☾ i have set of perfect white, pearly teeth

☾ i have the most charming and magnetic personality

☾ i have most contagious energy ever, everyone loves to be around me

☾ i have most attractive laugh ever, it makes everyone swoon.

☾ my hair is thick, smooth, and soft

☾ i have the fluffiest hair ever

☾ i have my desired hair length

☾ my hair is one of the many attractive qualities

☾ i am fully confident in my appearance

☾ i have all my desired facial features

☾ i have such attractive and masculine facial features

☾ everyone can’t help but fall in love with my masculine energy and tempting looks

☾ my confident aura is felt and attractive to everyone

☾ i am literally the most unrealisticly handsome person ever

☾ i have a natural ability for flirting

☾ my facial structure belongs to the gods, I’m like a sexy greek god

Honestly guys i had way too much fun with this lmao. let me know if you want more because god i want to ughh. might do sum ‘pretty boy’ affirmations too 😏.

sorry fellow bylers!! I’ve seen the light!! I’m making m!leven edits now! 🥺👉👈