Basic Fandom Etiquette Rules If Some Of Y'all Forgot

being done with midterms and going on spring break means i finally have time to focus on what truly matters in life.

fanfiction.

You reblog so many defensive posts when you like all the mainstream characterizations and ships in the fandom lol nobody's attacking you just because they talk about not liking something or they critique how the fandom represents a feminine man or how American-centered Americans are even in their writing and headcanons.

i’ll soon be posting my ultra american fic where remus lives in new york and grew up in wisconsin and reblogging extra feminine sirius posts just for u xxx

HIIIIIII I saw your nonsexual wolfstarbucks headcanons and i was wondering if you had anymore???? It's okay if not but if you do i would LOVE them.

The only ones I can find are extremlely like sexualised which is fine but sometimes I just need a little bit of fluff cos yeah.

Have the best day <33333

omg HELLO this is such an exciting ask, ty for sending it!! i alwaysss have more wolfstarbucks thoughts so here’s some more i can think of rn!

in a situation where prongsfoot are dating and both want remus i think it’s very much just flirting with him really unsubtly, getting increasingly obvious as he continues to be oblivious. and normally remus would be really uncomfortable with his best friend who is dating his other best friend flirting with him! i’ve seen fics where they jointly decide they want remus and start flirting with him separately and personally i can’t see it. rem would be sooo uncomfortable and feel so guilty. but in my mind S & J decide to do it together. like they’re not flirting with him if they’re not both there. they’re cuddled up on the sofa with a movie when remus gets home from a late shift (or prefect rounds), and they invite him to cuddle (they even put him in the middle). he gets a new really well-fitting shirt and james tells him how good he looks while sirius is leaning on J’s shoulder, smiling and nodding. sirius offers him a massage when his joints/muscles are aching and remus is a bit hesitant but james is right there and seems fine with it?? they end up both helping tbh. sirius’s hands get tired bc literally remus’s entire body hurts so he’s like “james? you mind?” and james finishes up. anyways yeah both of them just flirting and taking care of him and being really affectionate but clearly doing it together so rem isn’t uncomfortable so much as obliviously confused. (he decides they’re just worried about him being lonely bc he’s been single for a long time and now S & J are dating so they’re trying to make sure he feels loved)

in a situation where none of them are dating before though, i think it either starts out as remus and his two boyfriends who are not dating each other (and then fall for each other) OR all three of them deciding to date each other at once, getting together neatly as a throuple. and either way in these scenarios i think remus would have a hard time adjusting to having two boyfriends. im picturing like, him being super anxious about going on a date or being physically affectionate with one of them while the other isn’t there. he kisses S or J once and the other walks in and he’s like,,acting like he got caught cheating basically and they’re like “babe. remus. please, calm down. did you forget we all agreed to this????” (he didn’t forget, he’s just nervous. he wants everything to be equal and them to know he loves them both the same and all that. they’re like “please calm down baby we know that, we don’t have to count dates and kisses though.”)

remus has like 3 stuffed animals that live on his bed at all times and gives them each a goodnight kiss every night and the first night they all spend together he’s embarrassed so he’s not gonna do it but he does end up doing it just out of habit/reflex and then he turns bright red and is sooo embarrassed but his bfs obviously find it extremely cute (and they obviously also demand goodnight kisses every night they’re together but that’s irrelevant to the stuffies)

they honestly genuinely like really cliche romantic dates, like going out for a nice dinner and/or a movie, but they hate that they’re never perceived as being in a romantic relationship since there’s three of them. when people make assumptions remus gets kinda flustered and doesn’t rly say anything, just complete silence, james sort of awkwardly fumbles out some sort of polite agreement without really directly agreeing, and sirius corrects them loudly and proudly, which embarrasses remus but he also loves it

they’ve made a lot of clumsy attempts at slow dancing around the dorm/apartment/wherever we’re imagining they live LMAO usually with remus squished in the middle, one of the others in front and the other behind him, it’s kind of just like a double hug really—remus hugs whoever’s in front of him and the other person just plasters themself to his back too. anyways it looks a bit silly but they’ve actually gotten the hang of all the feet and limbs and can do it without falling over now!

i saw a post somewhere and i cannot remember who or what platform but it was R & J braiding Sirius’s hair together, one on each side, and silently competing to make them neater and y e s i concur

when remus is upset and retreats into himself sirius just wants to baby him and let him do it and just give him cuddles and chocolate like “it’s okay baby you don’t have to talk about it” so james has to be the sensible one and gently coax remus into opening up a bit.

when sirius is upset and starts lashing out james just wants to snap back at him, and remus has to shut up his desire to hide away and be the sensible one to show sirius a bit of love and be patient.

when james is upset and tries to make jokes out of it to cover it up remus wants to smack him a bit (even though he himself is even WORSE at talking about feelings) so sirius is the one who has to indulge his jokes for a bit before pressing him a little to be honest and sincere

if it’s rainy none of those babies are leaving their house absolutely not they will spend the entire day in a cuddle pile on the bed with blankets and pillows and hot chocolate and tv. any excuse to just stay in and cuddle their boyfriends

james leaves little encouraging notes everywhere for both of them—in remus’s notebooks, in sirius’s bike helmet, on their nightstands, etc. and so they start doing it back to him too. all three of them have sappy collections of notes from the others saved up

adding onto sirius always being the middle spoon, if R & J are sitting somewhere together and S walks in he is 100% shoving his ass right in between them. one time he came home and they were kissing on the couch and he ran right over and squished himself in between them and when they looked down at him like “wtf” he just looked up with a smile

they have matching necklaces. james has a moon and a star, sirius has a moon and a sun, remus has a star and a sun.

they all refuse to get married until they can legally have a three way marriage. they’re not going to leave one of them out like that wtf (even if remus insists he’d be okay if they got married. even if he wasn’t lying about it, which he is).

okay i think that’s all i have for now, i hope you enjoy :))

Disability in fiction

This was a tough post to write. 

I saw a post about disability rep, and I kept thinking about it, and wanted to share my own takes on the topic. 

I thought about it for days, trying to figure out how to word it. Then after drafting it, I stuck it in a file for a couple of weeks, trying to decide if I could even post it. This is not a topic that can be boiled down to a simple yes/no kind of answer.

Let’s start with two examples.

1 - I have a short story I started writing (it wants to grow up to be longer, so it’s waiting for time) where my original concept was to write about an older woman who is short and has major chronic pain, and I wanted to dig into fantasy reasons why this pain exists, but at the same time, have her be able to kick ass despite being exhausted and dealing with excruciatingly painful issues.

2 - I once drafted a portal fantasy storyline wherein a young man was transported into a fantasy world, and when he was given a horse to ride, he approached it very warily. He was encouraged to mount, did so, and sat there and exclaimed in shock, “My brain isn’t exploding with snot!” because his allergies hadn’t come with him into the body he had in the fantasy world.

Both stories were designed to be fun, a bit light, maybe even cozy.

So.

In one case, the disabled character remains disabled and kicks ass anyway. And in the other case, the character is magically “healed” and no longer has debilitating allergies that had wrecked his way of life.

This is the difficult part to express: I think both storylines are valid.

Bear with me while I dig into this.

First and foremost: I completely agree that we need more representation in all forms of fiction, especially when it comes to disabled people being able to live their lives. Characters with missing limbs, or non-neurotypical brains, or anxiety & depression, or hearing issues, or sight problems, or chronic pain, or… or… you get the idea. We need all of it, and we need it to not need to be magically healed in order for a story to be considered happy and cozy. Disabled people can be happy, too.

I’m all in for this, and I wouldn’t write the stories I do if I weren’t.

However, there are also moments where I am so exhausted by my body and by everything I deal with inside of it where I do wish for that magical ability to forget that my pain exists. Or for the ability to actually process information in a straight line, or make decisions without writing a hundred lists and accomplishing nothing from them. Or to be able to lie down in a field of grass without regretting it for days while I drip snot and fight sinus-pain-induced migraines.

Sometimes I want to imagine that my life is different.

And that is one of the joys of writing. I can choose to write a story where people like me or the people I know are the heroes/heroines exactly as they are, different abilities and all. Or I can choose to write a story where the problems magically resolve.

Both can be cozy, sweet, and adorable. I can give the character with chronic pain the ability to kick ass, take names, and have a sweet reunion with her ex-girlfriend. I can show all the ways that my disabilities may define how I handle my life differently than someone else, but do not define what I can and cannot do.

But I can also daydream about a life where it’s different, the same way I can daydream about having wings, or being able to teleport. For me, imagining a day with no pain is the same as a day where I can walk through walls. It is absolutely a fantasy, and about as likely to happen.

Here’s the thing: It’s okay to be angry to see what looks like disability being erased. It’s okay to wonder why the author did that, why they magically healed someone instead of letting them be who they were. But at the same time, maybe ask why, and what point of view it’s coming from. Or look a little deeper into the story and how the resolution occurs, and the effect it does have on the character (I suspect that were I to suddenly have a day of no pain, I’d be intensely reckless, given what an idiot I am while IN pain, y’know? And WOW would I regret that later…).

And for authors, think about what you’re writing. WHY is this particular event (keeping disability, erasing it, whichever or both) happening, because the reader will take note of it. They may see things that weren’t intended, but are there as unintentional biases.

Make conscious decisions for why things happen.

Someday I want to get back to both of those examples from the start of this post; I still like both concepts. But I’ll be writing them for very different reasons, and both will be healing my soul in different ways. Different kinds of daydreams. And again, I think that’s valid, too.

hiii can i request remus in a skirt for the good enough exercise? the fandom ALWAYS needs more remus in a skirt!!

yeeesss yes agreed!! thank you for the prompt 🤎

the tiktok marauders fandom is actual hell on earth bro. were you guys actually planning on watching it until snape was cast as a black man? were you all not pissed about this remake the second that it came out? sorry but this is clearly JKR’s last attempt to cling onto any bit of relevancy that she has and you all are just… buying into it! i literally do not care if you pirate this show, you should not be giving it any sort of attention whatsoever! if your final straw with this reboot is snape getting cast as a black man because it makes your fav fictional characters look racist, you really need a reality check. this reboot was full of problems from the beginning and everyone chose to ignore it because “yay new harry potter content!” genuinely so unbelievable

My domestic wolfstar headcanon: They 100% threaten each other … with affection. Constantly.

Remus working too late into the night? Sirius: “If you don’t come to bed, I will spoon you so hard you’ll suffocate on love.

Sirius leaves his boxers everywhere? Remus: “Do it again and I’m cross-stitching ‘Property of Remus Lupin’ into all your underwear.”

Remus trying to be annoyed during a fight? Sirius: “Keep scowling at me and I’m going to kiss your forehead so gently it’ll emotionally destabilize you.”

Bonus (ft. Harry)

Sirius being a menace during dinner: Remus: …Get off the kitchen counter, Pads. Sirius: Make me. Remus: I will kiss you stupid in front of everyone, don’t test me. Sirius, already leaning in: Okay. Threaten me harder. Harry, sobbing into his plate: I just wanted pasta.

Sirius hogging the blanket during movie night.. Remus: You have five seconds to share or I’m tucking you into my sweater and smothering you with kisses until you cry. Harry: For the love of Merlin, please stop traumatizing me.

nooooo way dude you hate when men are too feminine? in the fandom for books written by Notorious Transmisogynist? that’s so brave of you to say wow who else is speaking up about the horrible crime of men wearing skirts these days

literally doesn’t matter what your point is when you said it! using disability as a reason to prove someone’s unattractive is in fact ableist, and your entire post is about how he’s a loser so yeah it is related. you’re right, people are weird about young people being physically disabled sometimes, including you right now with this post…this post isn’t calling out ableism, it’s including disability in a list of reasons most people don’t find remus attractive and/or reasons he’s a loser

maybe you could try reflecting for two seconds instead of getting defensive when someone calls you out ✌🏽

Sirius: “No I’m normal everyone thinks Remus is the hottest person alive”

Remus: excuses himself from a party after 10 minutes bc he wants to go knit. Wearing the most heinous jumper even your grandfather would shy away from. Blacks out after one (1) beer. Dies if someone makes eye contact with him. Sits awkwardly in the corner trying not to cry when he has to stay in a party for too long (fails every time). Bones pop 87 times every time he stands up. Cannot sit on the floor or he will need to be picked up bc his back is so bad. Asks Sirius + James + Peter to kiss his booboos bc his mummy used to do it and it made it feel better. Always has at least 3 books on him but needs Sirius to carry them bc he’s too weak. Hates smoking bc he’s worried about cancer. Very awkward. Loser.

BTW i see these posts all the time like "ohhh i dont know what to comment on fics.." and every response is "keysmashes! or hearts!! anything works :3" and thats GREAT!! thats helpful!!

but: consider. if u genuinely like analyzing writing.. do u know ur just allowed to go through and quote your favorite parts and ramble abt what they mean to u and the author will LOSE IT WITH HYPE?

genuinely. i felt SO WEIRD the first time i did it.. but like. holy shit authors love it. its crack for authors. the first time i did it, it was on a fic that hadnt updated in half a year, give or take, and the author made 3 updates that month BECAUSE OF MY COMMENT.

LIKE. as an author every comment is INCREDIBLE!!! but also, dont feel like your comment has to be short or otherwise ur invasive or smth!! authors ADORE long comments more than ANYTHING.