“Darling, You Deserve It All. You Deserve Love And Peace And Magic And Joy Dancing In Your Eyes. You

picture this

you’re in your late-20’s, early-30’s; you’re married and have two young kids. together, you live in a large house in the countryside. the house could use renovating, but it doesn’t need it.

wildflowers grow all over your large property. bees buzz by, but never sting. they make honey for your family to sell and enjoy.

in your backyard is a garden. you and your spouse wear overalls and bandanas while you harvest the fruits and vegetables you’ve worked so hard on; you sell whatever you don’t eat.

next to the garden is a pasture: you raise cows, bunnies, sheep, and chickens. you’ve taught your children to collect eggs every morning, while you and your spouse milk the cows.

although you have technology, wifi, and service, your family doesn’t rely on it for entertainment and communication. you play board games, read books, and write letters.

your house is your own. you fall asleep in the arms of the person you love, happily content with life.

2018 is the year of recovering from the past 5 years in every possible way

flyinggg like this 😎🇲🇲

how to be more present🌙

take more moments throughout the day to just focus on your breathing.

notice the things other people would normally just glance over.

let go of expectations. holding onto expectations means that you’re holding onto an “idealized” or “perfect” reality, which means that you’re not in the present. often we are left disappointed when these expectations are not met.

be grateful for the things you have, and stop wishing for your life to be different.

don’t sweat the small stuff. don’t dwell on the small unfortunate yet irrelevant moments that we’ll most likely forget about!!

notice the negative thoughts floating in your mind and replace them with loving ones.

take one step at a time. you might not be where you want to be at the moment, but you will get there. and it might not feel like it, but you’re making progress.

forget about the past and the future. many things such as shame or anxiety keep us pulled away from the current moment.

take more time out of your day to do the things you love!!

get away from the digital world more often.

do self care! make sure to take care of your health, physical and mental before anything else.

30 Day Glow Up

Week 1 - Assess/Declutter

Clean out your closet(s)/dresser. Donate/toss items you no longer wear, can’t fit, or don’t make you feel happy.

Clean your room/apartment/house. Sweep, mop dust, do what you gotta do.

Go through files on your phone/tablet/computer. Delete documents you no longer need. Get rid of junk files. Delete songs you no longer listen to (Back them up first incase you want to redownload them in the future.)

Get rid of dated makeup, old pens, recycle/shred documents you no longer need.

Make a list of habits to break/start. After all, your habits are the key part of what defines ‘glowing up’.

Update your resume.

Go over your finances. Maybe you need to adjust your weekly/monthly budget. Maybe you don’t.

Schedule any necessary appointments. 

Take a look at your calendar and fill it with things such as a movie night, zero-day, deep clean day, date night (with yourself or someone else).

Make a mass to-do list and prioritise it (what do you need to complete first?).

Week 2/3 - Work To break old habits/ Implement new ones, Set goals

Remember that list of habits to break/build? Slowly work on them. 

Write out your goals for the future (short/long-term). Write your goals for your career, education, family, fun/adventure, friends etc.

Make a vision board to represent those goals!

Habits you might want to work on

Going to bed late - go to bed 15 mins to 30 mins earlier every few nights

Want to start being more active- go for a walk daily or stretch 5-10 mins after you wake up 

Drink more water - invest in a water bottle and eep it at arms reach

Eating healthier - replace a food you typically eat daily that you maybe shouldn’t with a fruit or vegetable, look for healthier alternatives to things you eat daily.

Too much screen time - set aside say an hour a day to read a book, draw, write etc

Start journaling - every day try to write something in your journal even if it’s just “I had a really great nap.”

Week ¾/5(?) - Mental/Physical

If you have the funds buy a few new items for your wardrobe

Find a style icon/look for style inspo using the clothes you already have

Develop a skin care routine and plan to stick to it

Do a hair mask/get a haircut/colour/extenstions etc

Start doing face mask and exfoliating a few times a week

Challenge yourself to say something positive to someone daily

Wear what makes you feel confident

Give yourself a mani/pedi or go out and get your nails/toes done

Treat yourself to new makeup, an outfit, a meal etc

Keep up your daily hygiene (sometimes easier said than done, especially if you have a mental illness) - find ways to make the basics easier (planning on doing a post about that in the near future)

Make a feel-good playlist

Journal a few times a week

Make a happy jar - everytime something that makes you feel good happens, write it down and put it in the jar. Then when you feel down or after a certain amount of time read them!

Get a tattoo or piercing (if you can and want to lol)

Go get your makeup done/pick up a few tips at Sephora/Ulta etc if you’re into makeup

Learn a new skill (cooking, baking, learning a language, crocheting, drawing)

Keep working on the habits you hope to build.

This is how much 2018 has aged us all.