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Be Happy and Inspire Others

I’ve been wondering if some of my musings on Tumblr have been less than cheerful–more like pity parties or rants.  I hope not.  I really try and want to be a source of positivity for male girliness.  I would like for someone to read my thoughts and think “this guy is happy.”  Or call me a girl if you wish, but I’d still like to be thought of as “happy”. 

I realize that I will never be the grand example of crossdressing or a model for sissyhood or the poster child for trans people.  Simply put, I’m just a girly boy–no extremes, no extravagance, no exciting exposures or anything like that.  I’m just a girly boy who wants to inspire others to find some value in a life of being a feminine guy.  So, I want others to see my joy in it.  I want you to see that I’m happy.  And just perhaps, inspire you to think more positively of your own life in all of your girliness.

I know that I can’t always be cheerful.  I know that my happiness doesn’t have to require a chirpy spirit as if I’m a cheerleader on the sidelines with a plastered lipsticked smile, waving my pom poms in a cute little pleated skirt (I’d do it if I had the uniform).  Seriously though, there are some frustrations, sadness, and dull moments with me and my effeminate ways.  Yet, I can still be happy and I hope I can always express that spirit with positivity, love, and encouragement.

Hold me accountable, girly friends.  I want to inspire you.  If I seem downtrodden, angry, sullen–a real cotton-headed ninny muggins–call me out.  I want to be your true cheerleader and simply be happy to inspire every one of you in all of your girly pursuits and adventures.

Cheers to you!

CandieHart

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Self-Affirmation

We all want that external assurance that being girly is okay and we also long for the affirmation that it’s fitting for us.  I have to admit that being girly is not always natural.  Sometimes I feel like I have to force it.  Yes, I want it and have a passion for it.  I am also male with male responsibilities, and male-like expectations.  Because of my location and elements, being boyish is most natural, even in my frilliest of panties.  So, cultivating a girly “personna” doesn’t always come easy.  It goes against the pattern.  Any bit of acceptance and encouragement goes a long way to motivate me to be more like CandyHart.

As much as we would wish for someone to give us such affirmation, we should also know that this falls upon our own bra-strapped shoulders.  We have to be our own “femininspiration.”  Like getting up to our own alarm clock…on time…not on the third snooze…we have to take the initiative and push ourselves to be girly, act girly, talk girly, and as it is safe for us, to dress girly.

Even with my understanding, tolerating, sometimes playful wife, I don’t get the femininspiration that I wish I could get.  So, I can’t expect it or count on it to come from her.  That’s not her responsibility anyway.  She’s my confidant, my partner, my friend, my intimate counselor.  But, she isn’t my coach of girliness.  That’s up to me.  And, it’s up to you.  You have to be your own femininspiration.  You have to assure yourself of your own girly potential.  You have to affirm to your own heart your girly place.  You have to do this.  Any encouragement helps, but it’s your panties–it’s your choice and being.

You can do it, friends!

CandieHart