Self-Affirmation

Self-Affirmation

We all want that external assurance that being girly is okay and we also long for the affirmation that it’s fitting for us.  I have to admit that being girly is not always natural.  Sometimes I feel like I have to force it.  Yes, I want it and have a passion for it.  I am also male with male responsibilities, and male-like expectations.  Because of my location and elements, being boyish is most natural, even in my frilliest of panties.  So, cultivating a girly “personna” doesn’t always come easy.  It goes against the pattern.  Any bit of acceptance and encouragement goes a long way to motivate me to be more like CandyHart.

As much as we would wish for someone to give us such affirmation, we should also know that this falls upon our own bra-strapped shoulders.  We have to be our own “femininspiration.”  Like getting up to our own alarm clock…on time…not on the third snooze…we have to take the initiative and push ourselves to be girly, act girly, talk girly, and as it is safe for us, to dress girly.

Even with my understanding, tolerating, sometimes playful wife, I don’t get the femininspiration that I wish I could get.  So, I can’t expect it or count on it to come from her.  That’s not her responsibility anyway.  She’s my confidant, my partner, my friend, my intimate counselor.  But, she isn’t my coach of girliness.  That’s up to me.  And, it’s up to you.  You have to be your own femininspiration.  You have to assure yourself of your own girly potential.  You have to affirm to your own heart your girly place.  You have to do this.  Any encouragement helps, but it’s your panties–it’s your choice and being.

You can do it, friends!

CandieHart