“I Treat Myself Like I Would My Daughter. I Brush Her Hair, Wash Her Laundry, Tuck Her In Goodnight.

i’d do anything for me. i love me.

so you dated the wrong person and learned a hard lesson. you chose the wrong major and had to start over again. you cherished a friend who backstabbed you. it sucks, but it’s also going to work out. that’s life; you learn, hurt, love, cry, laugh, and keep going. you experience setbacks and you grow and it’s all okay.

I love how grades don't define us, but getting a bad grade still makes me feel so much like a failure

Healthier body.

Healthier skin.

Healthier hair.

Healthier mindset.

Healthier relationships.

Healthier friendships.

Healthier routines.

Healthier habits.

Healthier life.

You will meet people who will teach you love in its safest and purest form.

How to figure out the lesson in situations:

1. Identity the pattern. Think about the situations and people who have made you feel this way or brought you a specific outcome.

Are these relationships leaving you feeling the same way (undervalued, overwhelmed, or hurt)?

What character traits are you seeing (unavailability, neediness, or dishonesty)? Are you choosing people because of specific character traits (they don’t have to feel inherently negative to you)?

2. Think about your reactions to all of those things. Do you tolerate bad behavior hoping it will change? Do you avoid confrontation or fail to set boundaries? Do you feel like a victim or powerless?

3. Figure out what you are avoiding. Typically the lessons come from the things we resist. Are you avoiding self respect by settling for less? Are you ignoring red flags for fear of being alone?

4. Think about how your choices or beliefs contribute to these outcomes.

For example:

Do you over-give to earn approval?

Do you ignore your intuition to avoid conflict?

5. Ask yourself:

What can this situation teach me about self worth, boundaries, or communication?

How can I grow emotionally, mentally, or spiritually?

6. Practice the lesson actively:

If the lesson is about self worth, say no to people who devalue you.

If it’s about boundaries, start expressing your needs clearly.

You’ll know you’ve learned the lesson when similar situations arise and you respond differently, breaking the cycle.

*There is always a lesson to be learned (aside from the fact that the other person is probably a horrible human being) 😚 Don’t be stubborn about it and think you’re a perfect person. It doesn’t make you less perfect, or dumb, or deserving of how people treated you. The point is for you to grow, evolve and make sure it never happens again.

I had a professor in college who used to start solving every problem with the same dialogue.

Proff: What’s the first step to solving any problem? Class: Don’t panic. Proff: And why is that? Class: Because we know more than we think we do.

I think about that a lot tbh. It didn’t occur to me until much later that he meant for us to apply that dialogue outside of the classroom to any problem. Because we always know more than we think we do. We are all an amalgam of random information that ends up being relevant with surprising frequency.

Always take good care of yourself so you can take great care for others

Someone said “ I don’t walk away to teach people a lesson I walk away when I’ve learned mine” and I felt that.

The moment I realised that worrying is also a form of manifestation, I stopped.