I Haven’t Seen Many Posts On Here Talking About This, So I Guess I’ll Give It A Go.
I haven’t seen many posts on here talking about this, so I guess I’ll give it a go.
I think that a problem that a lot of people have nowadays when discovering their identity is “aesthetics”. I don’t mean like, “oh wow, that’s so aesthetically pleasing!” It is 100% to enjoy something because of how it looks. The problem, though, is when you enjoy an aesthetic (or several) to the point where if a part of your identity doesn’t correspond to one, you have to “fix” it. It’s harder to be yourself when you’re constantly worrying about which behaviour would fit into little boxes, and which wouldn’t.
That being said, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying an aesthetic, or simply liking something based on its appearance. The problem is when you lose motivation to do things you love because they aren’t “cutesy cottagecore femmecore coquette”. For example, I used to be utterly obsessed with the “That Girl” aesthetic. I woke up everyday at 6:30, worked out for 10 minutes, ate healthy foods whenever I could, took up journaling, started researching whatever I felt like, and cleaned up after myself and others. There’s nothing wrong with that. The problem began, though, when I found traits that weren’t something that “That Girl” would do. I’d listen to loud rock music, I’d sleep in on weekends, sometimes I’d skip workouts, etc. And because these habits didn’t fit into my little boxes that I made, I felt awful. I fell into a pit of self-hate, and started beating myself up over it. I found new interests, and lost even more motivation to fit into that aesthetic. But here’s the thing:
Nothing in life is going to be perfect.
The idea of having to correspond to an aesthetic is ridiculous at this point. Want to be “emo”, but also enjoy dressing in colourful clothes and don’t want to spend $500 on a pair of shoes? Okay!
Want to be “That Girl” who has a 10 step skincare routine and is super fit, but lack the dedication and funds? That’s okay, too!
Nothing is ever going to fit in a single little box. Sometimes they’ll fit into cabinets. Somethings they’ll mix with other things. Sometimes, you can just enjoy something. There shouldn’t be a pressure to have a perfectly curated image, just because it corresponds to a certain category of being. You’re not just an aesthetic, you’re you.
There’s a good video by Shinspeare on YouTube, called “Social Media’s Obsession with Aesthetics and Curated Identities” that is really lovely, and talks about the subject as well!
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everyone has seen you grow in some way.
Like,,, ill be out with a friend group and it’s like damn. We choose to stay with each bother, even if we have our problems. Ill sit with my family and think you have all seen me at my worst and best points, and still stick with me. I message my favourite moot almost everyday and its like. You know me more than anyone, we have a love that is strong despite physical boundaries. You heard my bests and worsts and family stories. I’ll look at my dog and think wow, you’ve witnessed so much and protected me, even if I haven’t done the same. And i want to thank everyone, everything for that. The ones who have left me have good memories still, and i hope my childhood friends remember me as the smell of grass and mud and the way the sunlight hits the snow
- the rocks in the dirt path on my walks home
- the massive jar of rocks on my desk that I collected throughout the years
- the hum of fluorescent lights
- the trees in my yard
- the field in my backyard that my neighbours park their trailers in
- the pond in the woods that’s been unused, since we’ve all grown up
- the earthy, chalk-like smell of classrooms
- the 20 unfinished journals I own, with pages filled with drawings of people I’ve seen and places I’ve been, and words forgotten over the years
- the One pair of heels that have never shrunk over the span of 2 years
- the way my friends finish my sentences
- stuttering over things I’m excited about
- getting a perfect A on my favourite assignments
- brining a thermos of coffee to school every morning and chugging it before science
- the way the science lab overlooks the street and gives a perfect view of the sunlight
- biking and feeling the wind go through my shirt, cooling me off
- sending my friends memes after not talking for 2 days, and almost instantly getting a response
- designing a perfect house for my loved ones
- the way soft blankets feel on cold skin
ROMANTICIZE 👏 YOUR 👏 LIFE👏
Start appreciating more little things in your life! It’s the flaming 20′s for gods sake, start enjoying more things outside of your computer screen! Here’s a thread of things! (Updates whenever)
"May thy riot gear chip and shatter"
Seen inside the occupied Portland State University library, where student protesters are preparing for a police raid
The 7 Day #IChooseMe Challenge
The next seven days, choose YOU.
Choose yourself.
Prioritise yourself.
Take care of yourself.
If you’ve been feeling lost lately, or life has been off track - this challenge is great to bring you back on track.
It helps you have some structure in your life, while allowing you to have fun and plenty of spare time.
I am not a therapist or a doctor. Take this advice as you would from a friend.
With this challenge, you’ll feel a little more fulfilled, happier, and you’ll have a set routine.
You only have to accomplish 6 small goals a day for 7 days to finish this challenge.
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The Night Before Day 1
- Get in bed by 11:30 pm, even if you’re not tired.
- Try to finish all your work.
- Set your phone away from you.
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Day 1
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 10 minute stretch. Do this before you eat.
- Read 2 news articles.
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for today.
- Eat at least 1 fruit of your choice.
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Day 2
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 6 minute, deep breathing meditation. Sit cross legged as you face south east, close your eyes and focus on breathing deeply.
- choose a healthy option for lunch. Salads, soups, healthy wraps, a light rice bowl - eat something with lots of nutrients.
- Compliment someone at work/ school today!
- Clean your room.
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Day 3
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day by telling yourself any 3 affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak out loud. This could be something like …”Today is going to be a good day. I’m capable of accomplishing and handling everything sent my way. I am a positive, healthy person and I genuinely love the person I am, or I am becoming.”
- Drink 2 litres of water today. Add a piece of lemon or mint if that helps!
- Read 5 pages of any book of your choice. If you don’t like reading, then listen to this podcast (start at 1 minute to skip the intro)
- write down a list of qualities you think you need to work on. It could be things like being on time, working on your anger, etc.
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Day 4
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a lymphatic drainage massage! This is a 10 minute video.
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for today.
- Do a 20 minute workout.
- Change your bedsheets and covers. If you have some lavender mist lying around, spray it under your pillow for a good night’s rest.
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Day 5
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 6 minute, deep breathing meditation. Sit cross legged as you face south east, close your eyes and focus on breathing deeply.
- Eat a fruit of your choice.
- Read 2 news articles.
- Drink 2 litres of water today. Add a piece of lemon or mint if that helps!
____________________________________________
Day 6
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 10 minute stretch. Do this before you eat.
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for.
- Tell yourself any 3 affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak out loud. This could be something like …”today is going to be a good day. I’m capable of accomplishing and handling everything sent my way. I am a positive, healthy person and I genuinely love the person I am, or I am becoming.”
- Call up your mum, family member, friends and have a chat with them. Find out how they’re doing.
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Day 7
- Sleep in till 9 am today if you like! But if you have work or school, get up at 7 am / 2.5 hours before you have to go.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Put on a face mask of your choice.
- Eat a healthy, filling breakfast. If you can’t eat in the mornings, then have a glass or two of water.
- If you can step outside, go for a 30 minute walk. If you’re unable to, then do some stretching at home.
- Write down how you felt this whole week. Did you feel better? Was there some structure in your life?
(I’d also like to add, these are me romanticizing **my** life. So, these’ll be in first person)
-repeating my favourite French songs while baking to feel like a magnificent pastry chef
- fresh baked muffins
- the class going silent to listen to someone’s joke
- school field trips
- waking up early than others (and promptly falling back asleep)
- when my cats go up in my face during my sleep to purr at me
- and then run away because they’re shy
- watching my panic studying pay off
- hearing little kids be funny
- my period one teacher being the sweetest ever (she gives us spelling tests that are for 8th graders.)
- my period one class clown’s quotes (”what’s the Grade 12 spelling test gonna be? Alakazam?”)
- getting a good score/doing well on something and people wonder who did it
- finding old fandoms i used to be in
- daydreaming about accomplishments
- accomplishing the accomplishments i daydreamed about accomplishing
- finding a Good Song and playing it on repeat for the next 2-3 days
- retail work stories
ROMANTICIZE 👏 YOUR 👏 LIFE👏
Start appreciating more little things in your life! It’s the flaming 20′s for gods sake, start enjoying more things outside of your computer screen! Here’s a thread of things! (Updates whenever)
writing doctor who tensimm fanfiction on a busted laptop just as god intended. connecting with my ancestors rn (2000's tumblr fangirls)
ROMANTICIZE 👏 YOUR 👏 LIFE👏
Start appreciating more little things in your life! It’s the flaming 20′s for gods sake, start enjoying more things outside of your computer screen! Here’s a thread of things! (Updates whenever)
Reset Sunday guide :
disconnect : Starting by turning off your notifications, this is YOUR time you need to focus on you and only you. You could also delete social media at least for the day, works even better. Don’t answer any message unless it is something urgent, people need to respect your time.
Set the mood : Get comfortable and set a calm and relaxing mood by lighting some candles, putting on a comfortable outfit which makes you feel pretty, turning on some music, anything that puts you in the right mood for taking care of yourself.
Self care: Now you can start taking care of yourself. Start the longest skin care ever (don’t forget the neck), hydrate your whole body (damage from winter cold is no joke), take vitamins, put on a hair mask, paint your nails, massage your face while the mask is on, don’t forget to drink a lot of water.
Clean your space : While your masks and creams are on, you can start tidying up your place. Your mind is clearer when your working space is clean. Don’t forget to spray some perfume in your room for the final touch.
Prepare things for tomorrow : if you have work or classes tomorrow you can pick out your clothes the night before and organize your bag, that way you won’t be in a rush when you’re leaving the next day.
Relax : Now that everything is settled it is time to relax. Go watch Netflix under a warm blanket while drinking hot chocolate, listen to a podcast while doing yoga, go for a walk… Find something that makes you feel calm and relaxed and enjoy that moment !
you there. high quality production youtube channel with a team of people. why are your captions autogenerated.
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