It Doesn’t Get Easier. There Is No Off Switch You Can Use To Shut Off Your Emotions, No Kill Switch

“The people who are meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you, no matter how far they wander.”

— Robert Tew

“There’s always that one person that will always have your heart.”

— Usher

“I never had the opportunity to Thank you. To thank you, for teaching me the true meaning behind unconditional love. To love passionatley and whole-heartedly. For teaching me to see love in the smallest things. To see the love in soft smiles and gentle touches. In sleepy conversations, over morning coffees and laughing untill your stomach hurts, during late-night dinners. And seeing the smallest changes in yourself; like waking up and never wanting to stay in bed (unless he’s in it.) and looking at each day as an opportunity to love more. Learning to love the smallest parts of someone; like the way he says your name or how your heart dances to the rhythm of his laugh. Putting that love over anger - even when you can feel your blood boiling under your skin. Understanding that ‘love’ doesn’t mean no problems, rather problems that always come with talked-out solutions. Giving your time, to the thing that means the most and always showing that you are forever grateful; for the home you’ve found in two eyes and a soft heartbeat. Making sacrifices that that no longer feel like loses; for the one that matters most. For teaching me to love without expectations, but most importantly - without resentment. Understanding, that the one you love most….doesn’t always love you too. And how you cannot let your heart be filled with anger because of the things he can’t change. That your heartbeats in ways you cannot explain; for the people you did not choose to love. How if you truley love someone, it doesn’t always matter if they love you back. Because his happiness means the most and if happiness is her, then you were happy enough for him. And for teaching me to learn to love again, even after all your love has been drained away. To know how it’s supposed to feel, when you see everything you’ve ever wanted - become the only thing you’ll ever need.”

— Hard learned lessons - excerpt from the book I’ll never write

How to Motivate Yourself

1. Visualize yourself succeeding. Imagine what you will be doing, how you will look, how others will be reacting or relating to you, how you will feel …

2. Break your main goal down into lots of smaller, more manageable pieces. Then, just do “the next thing”. Don’t get bogged down by everything you still have to do!

3. Remind yourself that every tiny bit of effort counts. It all adds up and makes a difference in the end.

4. Make a start – even if you’re just committing yourself to doing 10 minutes of something you don’t want to do. Often the hardest part is overcoming the initial feeling of dread or inertia.

5. Put on some of your favourite upbeat music. That can help to get your moving, and also change your mood.

6. Get a friend – who also wants to improve their motivation – to join in the commitment to see this project through. It’s easier when others are hanging in there with you – and you also keep each other more accountable.

“‘do you want to know the worst part about walking away?’ she asks him. 'it’s hoping that they’ll run after you. that they’ll stop you and tell you not to leave. that they’ll beg you to stay. that they’ll tell you they need you,’ she says. 'but they never do. you never did.’”

— unwrittenphrases

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imagine reading a book, early in the afternoon, with your partner lying on your stomach as they cuddle you, and being able to take pauses in between to comb their hair

moving far away to a sunny place.