I haven’t liked Eddie for a long time, I will admit that, but this has taken things to a whole new level of hatred for that character. The friendship and supposed brotherly relationship between Buck and Eddie has always been somewhat one-sided but this episode has escalated how toxic Eddie is towards Buck and I am well and truly done with his character.
He yet again has been invalidating Bucks feelings, but given that he is grieving someone who was like a dad to him and he was one of the last 2 people to see him alive, telling him he is making it all about him is particularly cruel. And considering Eddie’s complaint that Buck didn’t take a moment out of his shock and immense grief to ask about how it’s affecting him, how dare he claim that Buck always things about himself, talk about projection. Of course he is allowed to be grieving in whatever way works for him, how dare Eddie try to use Bucks grief and the way he’s been grieving as a weapon against him. Then to also have backed Buck into a corner with a very aggressive stance and go to hit him… fuck that. With friends like Eddie who the hell needs enemies. And as if that isn’t bad enough instead of apologising for his actions he gets in Chris and Pepa to basically sweep it under the carpet, that is so fucking emotionally manipulative.
I guess I shouldn’t have been so surprised that Eddie has now gotten to the point he is willing to get physically violent towards Buck after how toxic he has been in the past. He has never had any development as a character and at this point, I think it’s clear he won’t ever have any character development so they might as well bin the character after this season ends and we can have someone new to watch each week, also an added bonus if the new person can actually act. Constantly having what are supposed to be emotional scenes be kind of shit because Ryan Guzman always just looks constipated instead of whatever emotion he is supposed to be doing got boring many seasons ago.
But aside from how bad Eddie has gotten, the thing that really bothers me is Ryan/Eddie Stans still defending this kind of behaviour, and some even portraying this toxic, manipulative and outright abusive behaviour as some kind of romantic thing. Please fuck off with that. There is nothing romantic about their relationship to start with, Eddie is canonically straight and that means he will never be in a relationship with any man let alone Buck. And even if that character had been either gay or bi, Buck would deserve so much better than that. But still buddies are determined to defend everything that Eddie does, but if you replace Buck with any of Eddies previous girlfriends would they still support it or do they really just support all abusive behaviour in general regardless of who the victim is.
Let’s go through some of Eddies previous toxic behaviour in no particular order (and I may have missed some);
Sleeping with his wife, but keeping her away from being allowed to see their son unless she just follows along with what he wants (which most of the time was just sex)
Joining an underground fight club and nearly killing a guy
Beats up some random bloke in a car par over a parking spot
Instead of going to see a therapist about his struggles he smashes up a room despite his son being in the house and how that would scare him (and then getting Buck to patch up the mess he made)
At the store during the lawsuit, Eddie again minimises and invalidates Bucks valid and appropriate feelings about being held back from work. And he does it in a way so deliberately humiliating for Buck. (One of his reasons being not having buck be able to see Chris, which let’s face it that’s all Buck has ever been to him, free and convenient childcare. And ironically, it’s him using Bucks struggles to make things about himself)
Throwing Bobbies past with the fire that killed his first family as well as so many other people against him as a weapon instead of accepting that bobby was just wanting to wait to make sure he was ready to come back to work.
Fucked a woman who was basically a clone of his dead wife without even stopping to think how that could traumatise Chris.
Treating his girlfriends as free and easy childcare solutions rather than respecting them beyond how they can be useful to him (particularly Ana)
Buddies like to pretend that Tommy is some evil abusive person and that Eddie would be a better partner for him, even though he is a straight man and he and buck will never be together in that way. But unlike Eddie, Tommy has never treated Buck like this. Instead let’s look at how Tommy treats Buck
Let’s Buck take the lead so as not to pressure him, especially in the very beginning of their relationship.
Takes care of him even if that means sleeping on an uncomfortable sofa all night just in case Buck needed something when he was injured.
He always shows up for buck, even if he’s on call or just finished a long shift.
The morning after they hooked up again, he took the time to go and get Buck some groceries and make him breakfast as a loving gesture, and at this point I am convinced that acts of service are Tommy’s love language.
If Tommy treated Buck the way Eddie has always treated him, they would suddenly see it for what it really is, but because it’s Eddie that is Toxic, Manipulative and abusive they gloss over it. In reality Tommy is everything they wish Eddie is but isn’t and that’s why there is so much forced hatred of Tommy.
Ideally this should be the point where Buck should realise that Eddie is never going to change and become a better person or a good friend. He needs to cut Eddie loose, Friends don’t treat people the way Eddie treats people and he absolutely deserves better friends, and it’s honestly long over due for Buck to stand up for himself and say enough is enough regarding the way Eddie treats him and other people around him.
Like I said earlier in the post, with “friends” like Eddie who the hell needs enemies.
The Mirror Has No Choice
Reality doesn’t argue. It doesn’t bargain. It doesn’t hold up a clipboard and say, “Convince me.”
Reality reflects. That’s all it has ever done. That’s all it will ever do. And the second you assume something to be true—fully, completely, without hesitation—it is. Because that’s how this works.
Not later. Not after you’ve done ten methods and lit a candle in the name of the universe. Not after you “get better” at it. Now.
Because assumption is not a request. It’s a command. And the moment you give up the idea that reality needs convincing, you drop into the truth:
You were always in control.
self concept 101
okay students, class is in session and the assignment we’re focusing on is worth 100% of your grade in the assignment of your life. no pressure, right? except… it kinda is. because everything you experience, your relationships, your money, your looks, your success, it’s all filtered through the lens of your self-concept.
self-concept is the story you tell about yourself when no one’s listening. it’s the identity you live in, consciously or unconsciously. it’s the silent assumptions that run on autopilot like, “i’m never chosen,” “nothing ever works out for me,” “i’m not enough,” “people always leave,” or even “i’m that girl,” “i’m magnetic,” “everything works in my favour.”
those aren’t just thoughts. they’re blueprints. they create the framework your reality has to follow. because your outer world is just your inner world, externalised.
so if you walk through life with the self-concept of someone who always gets second best, your reality will match that. not because you deserve it, but because you believe it. and if you shift to a self-concept of someone who is deeply loved, always thriving, lucky, powerful, guess what? your world has no choice but to realign.
got it omg, here’s the cleaned-up version just how you like it:
here’s your homework, due immediately, with no extensions, sorry babes, life waits for no one…it’s all just now.
1. observe your internal dialogue
spend one whole day listening to your thoughts like they’re playing on a speaker, what do you actually think about yourself, not what you want to believe, but what you’ve been unconsciously affirming, catch the sneaky ones too, “i’m always so awkward,” “i’ll never look like that,” “ugh, of course this would happen to me,” these aren’t harmless little quips, these are energetic declarations
write them down, seriously, make a list of the self-concept you’ve been unknowingly living by
2. rewrite your identity
now take that list and write the exact opposite, this is your new self-concept, “i’m always chosen,” “i’m magnetic and people adore me,” “i’m a master at my craft,” “my beauty is undeniable”
this isn’t toxic positivity, it’s identity design, choose the story you want to live by and start being the main character who lives by that script, you don’t wait for proof to act like her, you assume the role and reality fills in the blanks
3. persist in your new self
this is the part most people flake on, but not you, because real change comes from repetition, from living the new story until it hardwires into your nervous system, so no, you don’t just write your affirmations once and call it a day, you say them out loud, in the mirror, in the shower, under your breath
you imagine yourself as her when you’re walking down the street, you refuse to entertain old stories that try to creep in, this is devotion, this is embodiment
and lastly, you don’t need validation, this homework is not about impressing others, it’s not about being seen, it’s about seeing yourself clearly, fully, and powerfully, once that clicks, your entire world will mirror it back
hand in your new self daily, you’re the teacher and the student here, and you’re getting an A+ obviously
class dismissed…but, the assignment is ongoing so you better get to working! 👩🏫
How to persist when 3D isn't showing and your brain is screaming???
Okay, ik how hard it feels when nothing is showing up....like, you’re out here affirming, visualizing, being that version of yourself and doing all the things, and life’s just looking at you like "nah, not yet." And it’s frustrating as hell. But listen, this is exactly when you have to double down.
See, manifestation isn’t about what’s in front of you..it’s about what’s going on inside you. Your 3D reality? Old news. Everything you’re seeing right now is just a delayed reflection of past thoughts and beliefs.
That’s why it feels like nothing’s changing. But the second you start thinking differently, reality has no choice but to shift. It’s literally law.
"But what if it’s been months and I still see nothing?"
That’s the thing..persisting doesn’t mean waiting. It means you’re so locked into your end state that you refuse to accept anything else.
The key? Stop checking. Stop looking around for proof. Stop thinking “but when?” and just be the version of you who already has it.
If you had it right now, would you be stressing? Nah. You’d be chilling. So chill.
When you start thinking "ugh, this isn’t working?" Flip that thought instantly. Be delusional if you have to.
If your mind starts saying "this is impossible," correct it like, wtf brain? This had already happened are you dumb or what????
If your brain says then why tf I can't see it, tell it cause you don't have eyes that's why you can't see it, I have eyes and I am literally seeing it cause this has already happened dumbass. :|
You have to be stubborn. Treat anything that contradicts it like background noise...irrelevant, meaningless, not your problem.
It’s not about fighting reality, it’s only about deciding that you have it.
find God and ask forgiveness for your sins.
i found god and her name is mother nature. she gives me air to live and take cares of me with her herbs. she doesn’t ask to be worshipped because she doesn’t have an ego, and that’s why she will have my respect no matter what. she won’t send me to a dark place for eternity because i am not like she wants. if there’s no nature there’s no life. she comforts me when im sad and she protects me. and she’s not a creation of men who’s greed was consuming their soul. so.
Becoming a shifter and seeing all the signs in hindsight is like Rapunzel returning from Corona and seeing she's subconsciously painted the kingdom's sun hundreds of times over in the negative space on her walls her entire life
I know we got this thing... You call me "Pops," and I give you a hard time for being a dumbass kid, we went to a Springsteen concert together. But this is not a family.
(this is my meme, it belongs to me, I made it)
good things will happen 🧿
things that are meant to be will fall into place 🧿
Affirm -> don't affirm against it -> profit
Repetition is really all I have to say. Affirm repeat profit.
Je voyage dans les étoiles. ✨Don't doubt yourself, you're literally made of star dust ✨
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