Latest Posts by jem-jams - Page 2

Expecting every trans woman to become a full fledged voice actor to have their gender respected is bad actually

We've got a heavy lil collab!

Wanted to practice backgrounds/shading and after BubbleVerse and I realised BTTF is both a top 3 movie for both of us it seemed like such a fun idea. I'm also super proud of how the bg came out!

Working a customer-facing job as a trans person in the current climate should earn you hazard pay and I'm not kidding

I hid for so long, eager to be found.

The first time I saw myself in the mirror.

Avelyn and Elizabeth.

When trans women are mocked and made into jokes in the media, I get very upset, and I am often told “Kay, you can’t go through life getting offended every time someone makes a joke.” And I sputter and object but they don’t hear me. So I want to be clear for once, about why the jokes make me angry.

I learned to hate myself for being transgender before I knew I was transgender. I laughed at the jokes in stand up comedy routines, and prime time sitcoms, and animated comedy shows, and in the movies, and in books, and in games, laughing at trans women for existing, about “men in dresses”, about people who “got their dicks chopped off”, and I learned to think that was worthy of ridicule.

And then a day came when I felt a pang of envy at what my female classmates were wearing and I repressed it, and felt guilty, and a day where I felt incomplete because I had no breasts and I repressed it and I felt disgusting And a day when I realized the only images of romance that made me feel anything showed two women together and I repressed it and I felt like a monster And a day when I realized I felt sick when I looked at myself in the mirror after every shower before work and couldn’t bear to look at my own face, and I hated myself. And then there came a day when I hated myself so much, and I thought I could never understand why, and so I just wanted it all to end. And it was just a miracle that I swerved my car back into my lane in time.

And all of it started with a joke that I heard on TV, and then kept hearing from all the voices from the ether, over and over and over, worming an idea into my mind before I was old enough to realize I was absorbing it, the idea that a man in a dress is funny, and that changing your body parts makes you a freak, and that women who have penises instead of vaginas are liars and hurt men. And they’re still making these jokes. And somewhere out there right now, just like all those years ago, there is a little girl in a t-shirt and cargo shorts with buzzed off hair watching the TV, hearing that joke and absorbing it without knowing it, who will someday have to pry herself apart to tear it out of her head, just like I did.

That is, if she doesn’t kill herself first.

When a trans woman says “do not call me dude or bro,” that is not an invitation to explain to her why you are going to call her that. Simply do not use the words. If you are told “do not misgender me,” it does not matter how much you explain how you aren’t misgendering her when you use a term that’s misgendering her. It does not matter if you don’t think you’re misgendering her by using a masculine term in a gender neutral way.

All you are telling her is that you do not care about her as a person and will misgender her as long as you feel like you are justified in doing so, which is the exact same logic used by transphobes in misgendering trans people. You cannot tell someone what their gender is. You cannot see their true gender, better than them, and decide what words you want to use.

When you say you are using bro or dude in a gender neutral way, you are not calming her down. You are telling her that she is to blame for the dysphoria caused by your misgendering.

All you need to do is not use the words she tells you not to use. Oftentimes it’s two words. All you need to do is not call one person two specific words. It’s tiring seeing people willing to die on this hill, defending their right to misgender trans women because they can’t let go of two words for a little bit.

I get that the technical definition of antisocial is different from the colloquial usage, but I stg I am 100% the colloquial definition of antisocial. I just low key hate people.

elf yuri except one of them is high fantasy and the other is one of santa's

Dealing With It

Don't take the final panels as some sweeping statement about how I think of or address my past self. I'll still call young me a guy sometimes, especially when it's funny. But when I think about how I dealt with my feelings, how long I kept everything I felt about my body and identity pushed down out of fear or denial, I try to be kind and think of the one doing that as a scared and confused girl who had so many things working against her, from inside and outside of herself.

I've tried to tackle this particular comic idea a few times now, from different angles and such. Even drew a couple that ended up being cut, rewritten, rearranged, or redrawn into this one, but I kept feeling like I didn't have it right. I think this is pretty close.

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soundscape of young green martian playing with pvc pipes

I'm reminded of this:

so real

posting these Maya fits again for no other reason than I updated her hair (and my signature lmao). anyways which fit is your fave? 👀

Morning Sermon

I remade the models for the spooky gfs a few months back

happy new years from the gay shark wives!

like I already understood sensory issues in the overstimulation sense (too many noises, migraines making everything too loud/too bright, etc.) but I recently (re)discovered a tactile sensory issue of mine: watches. what an absolute sensory nightmare

I think everyone should be in 2024 now so Happy new year, and hope the year treats you well 🍾 🎉

favorite art of 2023!! 🥳

this year was emotionally and spiritually draining so I wasn't quite as ambitious or productive as I'd hoped,, next year will be better!! 💜

Bullnose

one (1) ragdoll kitty... now at least 47% more festive!