Do you ever pretend you're a doctor scrubbing in for the biggest surgery of your career and give yourself a pep talk to make it a success while washing your hands? Or is that just me
I'm glad they're on the same page
Disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant) attachment style is overanalyzing/overcorrecting when you think your partner might be pulling away from you, but then pulling away from them when they draw close to you.
It is both craving AND fearing intimacy so deeply that you grip people tight in your hands lest they leave you, but keep them at an arms length lest they love you.
ENFP: Can be real scary when serious
ENFJ: Apologizes at the most minimal mistake
INFJ: Can get really obsessed
ISFP: Wants to be babied
INFP: Can be real scary when angry
INTP: A closeted crybaby
INTJ: When their partner goes all cutesy, they go all cutesy
INFP culture is having a breakdown and giving yourself a peace sign in the mirror afterwards
Xaden: So you sister was casually poisioning everyone
Brennan: *being extremly proud of her*
Enneagram 1: Crisp white sheets, freshly laundered and neatly laid on the bed. A handwritten letter folded into equal thirds and slipped into a fresh envelope. Handing in a final paper exactly on time, but finishing it the week before. A firm, friendly handshake between people who just met for the first time. A sigh of relief. Nailing a Pinterest recipe on the first try. Gardenias in the spring time. Small lace trim on a sensible dress. A well-aged leather briefcase passed down through generations.
Enneagram 2: The smell of cinnamon buns on a fall morning. Grandmother’s hugs. Grandpa showing you how to fix your bike. Volunteering for charities at Christmas time. Getting a handmade card in the mail. Surprise texts that let you know a friend was thinking about you. Cashmere. Tinkling laughter at a cocktail party. Knowing you’re safe. Arriving to the coffee shop and your friend grabbed your favourite spot and saved it for you. Your first kiss.
Enneagram 3: The feeling right before the gun goes off at the start of the race. A victory lap. A black jacket that goes with everything and looks incredible. A fresh hair cut. Checking the last thing off your to-do list. The heat of stage lights. Games night with old friends. Introducing new friends to one another and everyone hitting it off. Friends who know each other so well they can sit in silence in the same room and consider it a day well spent.
Enneagram 4: Digging through old trunks in the attic. Trying a new drink at the bar because it sounds dramatic. Holding a friend’s hand while they cry. The joy of discovering a picturesque alleyway. Letting your mind wander for hours. Road trips with the perfect playlist for every landscape. Deep understanding. Finding an old, beat up copy of your favourite book and treasuring the life it’s lead. Dried flowers in a vintage vase.
Enneagram 5: The smell of an old bookstore. Getting lost on thought trails for hours. A favourite t-shirt that’s worn in all the right places. A monocle passed down through generations. The joy of alone time. Dust drifting lazily through the evening window light. The joy of finally understanding something. Solo hikes in the mountains. A year-long adventure in a foreign country, immersing yourself in the culture. Telling the story for generations.
Enneagram 6: The feeling of sharing your story with a new friend and having them totally understand. Reunion trips in Hawaii. Gathering for orange slices after the soccer game when you’re a kid, and gathering for game night when you all grow up. Quiet nostalgia. A box of embarrassing but endearing photos and treasures from college. The feeling that everything is taken care of. A hug between old friends. Worn in boots that are stylish and functional and fit perfectly. Inside jokes you keep for years.
Enneagram 7: Fireworks in the summer. Working three jobs to save up for a backpacking trip. Drunken karaoke that’s very off key, but everyone sings along and cheers at the end. A mischievous wink. Bragging about knee scrapes after falling off a skateboard while going way too fast. Wearing plaid and polka dots at the same time, because someone said it shouldn’t be done. Ordering menu items that seem terrible, just to try them out. A prank competition between friends.
Enneagram 8: Loud, joyful laughter between friends at a coffee shop. Reading an entire book series in one weekend, wishing you were living the protagonist’s adventurous life. Red lipstick and black turtleneck sweaters. The feeling after a great workout. The smell of strong, fresh coffee. A playful punch from a friend. Opening up to someone and feeling understood. Playing with a rambunctious puppy and cuddling it after you’re both tired out. Taking a secret to the grave.
Enneagram 9: Sunday morning pancakes. A huge, cozy scarf in the fall. Relaxing with a group of friends who know you well. A day where nothing is scheduled. Helping a friend feel better. Sunflowers in the summer. Ordering your favourite dish at your favourite restaurant. Flickering candles in the evening. A knowing smile. The pride of having achieved your goal. The feeling after a warm bath. Warm pumpkin pie and slowly melting whipped cream.
entp, enfp, intp, infp: considers possibilities of what to do instead of said task. starts typing but gets distracted when trying to choose a song to listen to. probably scrolls through tiktok. thinks that said task is too overwhelming. can't schedule an appointment on the phone by themself.
intj, infj, enfj, entj : plans out everything, but doesn't actually do it. wayyy too perfectionistic. has a bunch of pinterest boards (or playlists) related to said thing. not inspired. not enough pressure. "scheduled procrastination."
estp, esfp, istp, isfp: thinks the task is stupid and boring, and there are more fun/interesting things to do. also thinks that they have enough time to get it done but actually only has 2 hours. doesn't narrow down priorities. probably forget it existed in the first place
isfj, istj, estj, esfj: associates task with bad past experiences and avoids it. thinks it's not important + a waste of time compared to other things. keeps getting stuck on minor criticisms or flaws. doesn't put said thing on their to-do list (not in sight, not in mind!)
INTP: I put the moron in oxymoron INFP: I put the pain in paintings ISTP: I put the angst in gangster ISFP: I put the rave in graveyard INFJ: I put the sun in misunderstood INTJ: I put the bias in phobias ISTJ: I put the law in flaw ISFJ: I put the harm in harmony ENTP: I put the troll in controller ENFP: I put the fun in dysfunctional ENTJ: I put the sass in assassin ENFJ: I put the fun in fundamental ESTP: I put the ass in classic ESFP: I put the disco in discord ESTJ: I put the hate in whatever ESFJ: I put the table in respectable
ESTJ: “Life is never what you planned. Life is moments you can’t understand. And that is life” (Falsettos)
INFP: “You pretend to create and observe when you really detach from feeling alive” (Rent)
ISFP: “Make just a ripple. Come on, be brave. This time a ripple, next time a wave” (Anyone Can Whistle)
ESTP: "You may know what you need, but to get what you want, better see that you keep what you have” (Into the Woods)
ISTP: “Prefix ‘ordinary’ with ‘extra’” (Finding Neverland)
ENFP: “Don’t fall apart at the seams. It’s called letting go your illusions, and don’t confuse them with dreams” (Merrily We Roll Along)
ISTJ: “You can like the life you’re living. You can live the life you like” (Chicago)
ENTJ: “So scared of what your enemies will do to you—you’re the only enemy you ever seem to lose to” (Hamilton)
ESFP: “Nice is different than good” (Into the Woods)
ENTP: “Well, I’ll sing you the story of a sorrowful lad. He had everything he wanted, didn’t want what he had” (Pippin)
ESFJ: “Nobody but me is going to change my story” (Matilda)
ISFJ: “Stop worrying where you’re going. Move on. If you can know where you’re going, you’ve gone” (Sunday in the Park with George)
INTJ: “You’ve got so many reasons for not being with someone, but…you haven’t got one good reason for being alone” (Company)
INFJ: “The choice may have been mistaken. The choosing was not. You have to move on” (Sunday in the Park with George)
ENFJ: “Hey, buddy, don’t be afraid it won’t be perfect. The only thing to be afraid of, really, is that it won’t be” (Company)
INTP: “Give me pain, if that’s what’s real. It’s the price we pay to feel” (Next to Normal)