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Latest Posts by itsmeshar28 - Page 7
I understand that nobody understands me, but I can't be someone I'm not.
— Audrey Tautou
what to do when everything’s a mess
Wash your hair. Don’t worry about all those articles online about the best haircare products of 2019 and whatnot, get in, wash it like you usually do, get out. Leave it to air dry, it’s less work for you.
Brush your teeth. Even if you brushed them this morning and are probably going to brush it tonight, do it anyway. Especially if it’s exam time, all that tea or coffee you’re most likely downing (props to you if you only study with water) probably makes them feel kind of gross.
I know most of these lists tell you to run a bath, but let’s face it, for those of you who even have a bath in the first place, the thought of filling that tub and sitting there in complete silence for a couple hours seems like a trek. And ironically exhausting. So instead, just brush your hair, take a nap (set a nice soothing alarm) and once you’ve gotten out of bed, wash your face or at least splash cold water on your face.
CLEAN clean clean clean CLEAN. Easier said than done, but at least start by clearing one messy component of your area; it could be your floor, your desk or your bed. You don’t need to clean and re-organise your entire room marie condo-style for you to actually have a reason to take the time to clean in the first place. A little goes a long way, and you don’t ALWAYS need to do the hard yards ya know.
I would say read a book, but sometimes your brain is melting or buzzing so it can’t really focus on anything lengthy. So instead, find someone reciting a poem online, and just listen to it. I recommend Jeremy Irons and his voicing of tons of T.S Eliot poetry, or Allen Ginsberg reciting his own poetry (Howl is a classic).
If you’re one of those people who drowns their sorrows by listening to music, don’t listen to music!! Don’t reinforce your pain!! So to that I say, listen to a podcast. If the classic podcast genre of true crime is a little too stressful and you’ve already cried twice today, listen to interviews with actors, screenwriters and directors. It can be really refreshing to listen to people you already enjoy the content of talk about their work. I recommend Awards Chatter and Happy Sad Confused.
Stop staring at screens! Just physically sit outside for a bit, you don’t need to go for a jog or do a general workout, just…sit. People-watch, try and memorise the exact scene in front of you, from the mis-en-scene to all the colours and sounds and the way the sunlight feels on your eyelashes. Write it down if you want to, you could even denote a single notebook to your little outdoor descriptions. Or just write on a napkin. To each their own.
Have you eaten today? And I mean something hearty, something that isn’t primarily made out of air and salt. Something that falls under the umbrella of snack does not count; meal is more like it. If not, eat. Preparing food might feel exhausting, but so’s going a relatively long amount of time without something nutritionally substantial.
If you’re feeling emotionally heavily, get out a notebook or even just a scrap of paper, a pen and cry until your eyes are as blurry as can be. With tears down your cheeks, scribble out how you’re feeling. Don’t bother with how neat or messy it is, whether the sentences even stay on the lines, it’s not about being aesthetic. In fact, it’s about being as messy as possible. Let all of it out, and let is act as a physical manifestation of what’s going on in your head. Don’t fight it or deny it, relieve yourself by both constructing and understanding yourself.
“All my life, my heart has yearned for a thing I cannot name.”
— André Breton, Mad Love (via thoughtkick)
"As with all matters of the heart, you will know when you find it. And like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle."
- Steve Jobs
Never ever talk to someone out of loneliness. You will eventually regret it.
I wish we would have met some other time or would have not met at all!
Idk but in the past two years, as a person I have never felt more confident, stronger, happier, more peaceful! Although I haven't faired that well in academics which I used to earlier and I was a big mess - underconfident, fragile, gullible, depressed, self-doubting and what not!? Strangely, or not so strangely, people around me NOW think that there is something wrong with me.. However the reality is completely opposite!
Great irony right?
Energy Management
A human-based organization method
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Other posts that may be of interest:
Getting stuff done: How to deal with a lack of motivation
Flexible time-blocking: A more breathable way to get things done
The ABCDE Method
i'm tired of giving others the privilege of being the light in my life. i am the moon and this is my sky and i will shine. i will shine all bright and beautiful, all by myself.
ekta somera
But I don't want comfort. I want God, I want poetry, I want real danger, I want freedom, I want goodness. I want sin.
— Aldous Huxley, Brave New World
I am someone who thinks and feels much – more than is reasonable. And that is all.
— Virginia Woolf, from Moments Of Being: Unpublished Writings
Stupid dreams. Even the good ones are bad, because they remind you how poorly reality measures up.
— Neal Shusterman, Unwind
"...every one who wishes to gain true knowledge must climb the HILL DIFFICULTY alone, and since there is no royal road to the summit, I must zigzag it in my own way. I slip back many times, I fall, I stand still, I run against the edge of hidden obstacles, I lose my temper and find it again and keep it better , I trudge on, I gain a little, I feel encouraged, I get more eager and climb higher and begin to see the widening horizon. Every struggle is a victory. One more effort and I reach the luminous cloud, the blue depths of the sky, the uplands of my desire."
- Hellen Keller,THE STORY OF MY LIFE
I feel like writing all the time! It helps lot..pouring out your feelings literally help a lot.carrying this baggage is extremely difficult, where you feel like a bone is stuck in your throat, neither you can gulp it down your throat, nor vomit it out to someone.But penning them down helps a lot. Also, it makes you realize a lot that was completely useless. So ya.. it really really helps!
As soon as I lose touch with you, I find myself completely lost. I feel my happiness being snatched away. I start looking for temporary pleasures which never give me that level of satisfaction...U are my tonic!
U know, there would be a day when they would finally understand you, your ideas, your thoughts..everything. Till then, let them blabber. Don't ever care what other say. They are not you, they haven't lived your life. They have a different purpose, different strengths and weaknesses. And, you my friend are again beautifully different, possesing some beautiful qualities and talents. So, accept yourself, grow, nurture your talents...
LOVE YOURSELF!
Especially when it's about your stuff!
“I like it when somebody gets excited about something. It’s nice.”
— J.D. Salinger (via meineluft)
Read More, Read Better
Many of us are looking for more ways to enjoy our time at home in these stressful circumstances. Some of us have turned to books. But how can we make sure we get the most out of them?
Keep reading
Sometimes, not being part of a group feels really bad..sometimes not being asked or checked upon feels really bad! But overtime, you realize that solitude is actually the best state to live in.Your peace never gets disrupted, you start having more out of the box ideas, you start becoming more open-minded, you get to explore your uniqueness. At the end of the day, it's peaceful!
“Don’t forget - no one else sees the world the way you do, so no one else can tell the stories that you have to tell.”
— Charles de Lint, The Blue Girl (via meineluft)
It's really suffocating, it's not very postive and good...but it's somewhere peaceful. When you know you could have done better, but u also know u couldn't have actually done better..U know u gave your best. And u know what is best for you. But still this world time and again makes you realize that you efforts were not just enough! That 'in comparision' to others ,u performed less. Yes, it's somewhere true too. In order to survive in this world, u need to work like anything! But again, U KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOU KNOW YOU GAVE YOUR BEST! ISN'T THAT ENOUGH?
Have been looked upon like that! It feels really really special. You start valuing yourself more, you start loving yourself more than ever before, you start cherishing yourself, you start forgiving yourself.☺️☺️
So its WORTH WAITING! It's the best feeling in the world....Its more than HEAVEN. And especially when you are assured of its permanency! When it asks nothing in return, when it's purely unconditional, it's actually a blessing and rarely found.. I am lucky to have found it this early in my life. When u have that kind of thing, u just become complete and satisfied, u stop asking for more...It's bliss! It's divine!
“Someday someone is going to look at you with a light in their eyes you’ve never seen, they’ll look at you like you’re everything they’ve been looking for their entire lives. wait for it”
— Unknown
I do my best thinking at night when everyone else is sleeping. No interruptions. No noise. I like the feeling of being awake when no one else is.
— Jennifer Niven, All the Bright Places
"Fight for the things that you care about. But do it in a way that will lead others to join you."
-Ruth Bader Ginsburg (1933-2020)
Thank you for fighting so hard and for so long. Your legacy will live on and you will be remembered for the amazing work you've done to better our nation.
May her memory be a blessing