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Period care package ♡

Periods are something I always struggled with. I'm only now coming to terms with the fact that that time of the month should not be so physically and mentally exhausting. Having said that, these are some things, tips and tricks that help me get by!

Stay hydrated! I know we hear this one all the time, and as somebody who forgets to drink water, I know how annoying it can be. But! On months when I keep up with it I feel like my cramps are more manageable. Water retention often happens during menstruation, but on the other hand hormone fluctuations can lead to dehydration. Maintaining your liquid intake can help battle these two issues.

Look for natural remedies! I feel like even if some natural remedies act as placebo - if they ultimately help you and relieve your symptoms, why not keep turning to them? While there is not much scientific evidence, a lot of women online state that raspberry leaf tea helps with period cramps. I need to get back on drinking these! When I do, I start around a week before I menstruate and continue up until the end of my period. It's also available in pill form, but I personally prefer tea. Another one would be evening primrose oil.

Try wearing leggings! I don't mean something so skin tight that you struggle to put it on. Personally, I prefer your usual cotton leggings over joggers and loose pants, as I feel more comfortable. And just like you might find yourself in fetal position because being all "constricted" (? I don't know a better word) makes the pain more manageable, "the slight pressure might even help with the cramps".

Give TENS machine a try! If you find yourself struggling because of cramps, but don't want to keep taking painkillers (although myself I will take them whenever I cannot handle the pain), look into TENS machine. "A TENS machine is a small, battery-operated device that has leads connected to sticky pads called electrodes." I put the two pads on my lower belly, around where the pain feels the worse. If the cramps are really bad I just leave it on, and if the pain is less severe I would keep it on and off in 30-minute intervals. On Amazon they start from around 30 pounds or 39 dollars, but I would really suggest you set aside some money to get yourself one if you feel like your cramps are persistent.

Be gentle with yourself ♡ Do whatever makes you feel better, as long as it's safe of course! A warm bath, a hot water bottle. Quiet and cozy night in with a favourite show or a book. Remember that we all need some time off sometimes and that these "slower" days can help us push through and recharge for what's ahead!

Don't be afraid to seek help! Remember, period pain SHOULD NOT be excrutiating. It's not normal if it leaves you nauseous, unable to get out of bed and negatively impacts your life in any way. Just because it happens every month, and because a lot of women are struggling, doesn't mean that we should just get on with it. Don't let yourself be told it's normal or for anyone to minimise how you're feeling. If you think what you're experiencing might be abnormal, try seeking more information, be it online for the start for example. Endometriosis UK, a website for UK's charity regarding said condition, is a good place to start looking for more information.

Sources & references:

Why Do I Feel Light-Headed During My Period?

Water retention: Relieve this premenstrual symptom

The Best 8 Teas for Menstrual Cramps

Evening Primrose (Oenothera biennis) Oil in Management of Female Ailments

What to wear during your periods

TENS (transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation)

Ending endometriosis starts by saying it

HOW TO STOP SELF SABOTAGING + DOUBTING

MAKE YOUR GOALS/HABITS AN IDENTITY. Your lifestyle makes up who you are, quite literally. If you want to wake up early, then start identifying yourself as an early bird. If you want to get good grades, then start identifying yourself as a studious student. And so on. 

This helps with feeling more accountable and committed to our goals and habits. However, don’t use this as a reason to overexert yourself. 

THERE IS SOMETHING UNDERNEATH CERTAIN BEHAVIOURS. All of your bad habits stem from your subconscious. This is why mentally healthy people tend to think more about their physical health. 

The best way to recognise patterns beneath your bad habits is just to talk to yourself. In any way or any form. Identify it, see what might’ve caused this subconscious thought and then work towards a way to replace the feeling that these bad habits give with a good one. 

DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME. The more you fixate on the long-term results, the more longer, strenuous and exhausting your journey is going to be, especially because you’re going to want to give up as soon as results don’t appear. Focus on the short-term results. 

You exercised? Now you feel good inside. You studied hard and understood everything? Great job for being so productive. You did that one really scary thing? What a great start!

THE PART OF YOU THAT DOES BAD HABITS IS NOT BAD. It is the complete opposite of bad. It loves you and wants to keep you safe, so it refrains you from doing anything ‘scary’ (which is typically new things in our lives) and makes you fall back on ‘safe’ habits which are a coping mechanism. 

So, instead of berating that part of you that participates in bad habits even if you know it’s bad, understand it. As these coping mechanisms usually stem from our childhoods, we turn to these habits when we feel stressed, anxious or depressed. 

✨🤎~ 𝓜𝓪𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓵𝓲𝓼𝓽 ~🤎✨

𝐀𝐬𝐤 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬 || 𝐀𝐬𝐤 𝐁𝐨𝐱: Open || Masterlist 2 || Status: Writing posts.

Type of asks that I could answer: Planets in the houses (one per ask). My opinion about something. "Placements that indicate". How to spot certain things through the chart. "What aspects in synastry could indicate..."

Asks I won't answer: What do you think of my chart? Anything related to persona charts. Anything related to asteroids or Midpoints. Interpreting more than one aspect by ask.

Aspects in the chart

Aspects to the Ascendant || Aspects to the MC || Conjunctions || Oppositions || Sextiles || Squares || Trines and talents

𝐒𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞:

Beauty and attractiveness || Being adorable || Fame || Friendships-Friendship style || Intelligence || Love style || Possible Careers || Powerful communicators || Sex Appeal || Sex style and desires || Sexiness ||

What placements indicate...

Anxiety || Attracting jealousy || Being intimidating || Being memorable || Curiosity || Difficulty with friendships || Good sense of humor || Good intuition || Having secret admirers || Healing vibes || Influencers || Melancholical-tragical vibes || Not connecting with others easily

Other posts:

Chiron in the chart || Detailed post about Juno || Love languages & Astrology || Tense aspects in synastry || Underrated beauty indicators || Vesta in the chart

𝐀𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: I | II | III | IV | V | VI | VII | VIII | IX | X | XI

𝐃𝐞𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: I | II | III | IV | V | VI | VII | VIII | IX

𝐒𝐲𝐧𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐲 𝐎𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: I | II | III | IV | V | VI | VII

𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐟𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐬: Sun || Moon || Mercury || Venus || Mars || Jupiter || Saturn

𝐀𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐲𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐬

Gemini Rising || Cancer Rising || Leo Rising || Virgo Rising || Libra Rising || Scorpio Rising || Capricorn Rising || Aquarius Rising

Planets in the houses masterlist A guide to composite charts

perfectionism prevents progress.

the more you try to do things the perfect way, the more you are a actually getting in your way. not allowing yourself to make mistakes, to learn from them and to keep going plays a significant role in manifesting.

letting go.

let go of doing it perfectly. let go of feeling guilty, ashamed, scared, empty, afraid, insecure, unstable, unfulfilled, restless, confused, overwhelmed, dissatisfied and unhappy. let go of following rules. let go of trying to reason and evaluate your every move. let go of doing all sorts of methods the planned way. let go of your fear to fail. let go of your conditions in order to manifest.

following rules.

who says you need to follow the rules? who says that you need to affirm 3 times a day around this exact time for exactly this amount of minutes while visualising the same scenario over and over again? you create these rules with which you operate with. and often times, you pretty much imprison yourself.

conditioning desires.

you condition your desires and lock yourself up, not allowing yourself to embrace your infinite capabilities. do you understand how unnecessary that is? how your actions are on the verge of blasphemy? you as a celestial, unstoppable, incredible and limitless being interfering with YOURSELF? make it make sense.

stopping it.

stop it. decide that you no longer want to continue living and feeling this way and free yourself. give yourself what you want. do it NOW. not tomorrow, not anytime later — now. and don't question it. just BE it. HAVE it. allow yourself to experience that freedom, that liberty and impudence.

freeing yourself.

you don't have to feel the way you do now. you can just stop feeling that way, declare something else to be your present reality and feel differently — better. realise that you have permission to change your feeling. there is no need to feeling scared in your own mind.

no one can punish yourself if YOU don't punish yourself. and your life is not meant to be a punishment.

with love, ella.

Latest trend this October…

Embracing your natural beauty ˚₊‧꒰ა ☆ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

• Minimal makeup that compliments your face. I go to school wearing Burt’s Bees tinted chapstick (literally my saviour 🤞) and that’s it. NOBODY CARES. LOVE YOUR FACE.

• Self care. Showering/bathing regularly. Exfoliating. Lip scrub. Moisturizing entire body. Beautiful natural products and scents. Gua sha (I will never stop talking about gua sha 😽🧘‍♀️). Hair oil. Simple skincare. Eyelash/eyebrow serum.

• Embrace the body hair, girl. This isn’t for everyone, but I say this because when I was WAYYY younger I would stress so much about shaving and needing to be hairless (and for what?). Now I only wax my underarms and below the knee, anything else I just trim.

• Healthy balanced diet. I’m talking eating nutritious, seasonal, whole foods that make you feel good (this does not mean restrict and only eat lettuce). NEVER SKIP OUT ON PROTEIN AND NUTRIENTS. + fibre if you’re not tying to get constipated.

• Affirmations and confidence. I am not lying when I tell you confidence and affirmations have changed my life. I’m still working on my confidence but it feels so good to compliment and love myself. I seriously be talking to the mirror like a crazy person 😭😭.

‘I love you so much. You did amazing today. You’re so smart. You’re so interesting. I love my body. I love my face. I’m so beautiful.’

Be confident and put yourself first.

Accept and celebrate your unique features <3

hey can u give tips on improving ur attention span?

INCREASING YOUR ATTENTION SPAN

DAILY MEDITATION. Meditation is known for increasing focus and concentration. Try to increase the minutes you meditate each day, limiting the number of times your mind wanders/

DRINK BLACK TEA. Black tea contains L-theanine which affects the part of your mind which helps with focusing. 

LIMIT DISTRACTIONS, especially those around you. Phones, TV, background noise, or bustling scenery are not the best features for a productive session. A calm, quiet, minimalist area is ideal. 

TAKING SHORT BREAKS BETWEEN. Your brain needs time to recharge and refocus on the task at hand. Some ideas are taking a short walk, meditating, reading. 

START DOCUMENTING THE TIMES WHEN YOUR MIND WANDERS. This helps you to be more aware of anything that may need to change. E.g my mind wanders more in the afternoon than at night, so I’ll do most of my work in the afternoon. 

REGULAR EXERCISE. When there’s more blood in the brain, our concentration increases, so be sure to find ways to get your body moving and blood pumping. 

CREATE A MINIMALIST WORKSPACE. Remove distracting decor, add reminders of anything productive and make it comfortable enough that you focus for long periods. 

tortured artist

work hard , stay consistent and focus on yourself 💌 everything may not fall in place immediately , but it will , soon enough

“When you eat, you’re just feeding your failures. Look at your body—it’s the result of every time you gave in. If you were stronger, you wouldn’t need food at all. Thin people are disciplined; that’s why they deserve more than you.”

Things that I simply LOVE 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

lacy bras and pretty lingerie

oatmeal and HOT coffee on rainy days

layering perfumes

putting notes and annotations in books

coming up with code names for the guys that we are talking to

writing letters to my friends even though we talk daily

making playlists for every occasion but its all just Lana

starting chats with "GIRL" to signal urgency

big earrings and too many bracelets

hosting brunch and dinner at my place

shitposting on main

trying a new makeup and actually liking the result

wearing sweats and a bra as my at-home fit

seeing results when dieting and working out

boy gossip after long days of studying lmao

posting ig stories and yapping

making tumblr gifs of myself

decorating for holidays way too early

going to the store and smelling every scented candle until I find the perfect one

same for the tea section. I love tea.

being asked where my clothes are from

when I smile at old people and they smile back

the feeling of your brain being slow and numb after a good study session

staying up to talk to my girls

doing my skincare after a day of not wearing makeup

floortime

having a cold and therefore not feeling guilty for being lazy (unfortunately, I am a workaholic)

tiktok tarot readings that feed into my delusions

these are just things that I PERSONALLY love, and if you get it, were besties. <3

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