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One Day at a Time addressing how it should never be up to the child to fix a broken relationship with a parent.
Health is not a virtue and illness is not a character flaw or a moral failing. People who are healthy aren’t healthy because they did everything right. People who are sick aren’t sick because they did something wrong. Illness, both mental and physical, can hit literally anyone at any time. Good people aren’t exempt from suffering, so let’s kill the idea that if someone’s sick, it must be because they’re doing something wrong. That’s not how it works. The world isn’t fair like that.
Growing up my parents taught me that if you’re too sick to [insert responsibility here] then you’re too sick to [insert something that makes you happy here].
It took me a really long time to unlearn this. When I would get sick or have a “bad day” I would deprive myself of anything that made me happy. Watching movies, eating something I enjoyed, going for a walk, playing video games or just browsing online looking at funny cat videos. I wouldn’t let myself do these things because I was always told that if I’m too sick to go to work, or do homework, or go to school then I must be too sick to play Mortal Kombat or watch Unsolved Mysteries lol.
Whenever I wouldn’t feel good, which I later learned as an adult was due to sleep deprivation caused by my ADHD and depression (and of course the depression itself would cause me to feel like shit), my parents would tell me “if you’re not throwing up, then you’re not sick.” And when I would stay home from school (or even work in my later teen years) my parents would make sure that I didn’t have any “fun.” No TV, no movies, no games, no going outside, no arts and crafts, no books, no nothing. Just lay in bed and feel miserable.
I’m happy to say that I no longer do this to myself. Now when I’m having a bad day or I’m sick (cold, flu or whatever) I allow myself to do the things (within reason lol) that I actually love doing. If I’m not too sick to step outside for a few minutes then I’ll go for a walk. I’ll watch my favorite movies and if it’s a bad day or a cold (something that doesn’t hinder my appetite too much) I’ll eat my favorite foods. I don’t guilt trip myself anymore for having a “sick day.”
Just because you’re sick (whether physically, emotionally or mentally) doesn’t mean that you can’t do things you enjoy. You’re not any less sick because you watch TV. You’re not any less sick because you’re playing video games.
Actually you SHOULD be doing these things when you’re not feeling good because they make you feel better. The better you feel, the faster your heal.
‘Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it’
mood
“We make up horrors, to help us cope with the real ones”
“Don’t touch my soul with your dirty hands”
“Thousands have lived without love, not one without water.”
“You took it all away, hope you’re happy”
An incel gamer who calls himself a nice guy, decapitated a 17 year old girl “who wouldn’t give him a chance” after she went on a date with another guy.
‘around’
🎶 I'm howling at the moon,
sleeping in the middle of a summer afternoon. 🎶
Best friend~
Nostalgic hours
‘Trigun’
‘sinking’
‘get-better’
‘ghost’
‘secret-light’
‘promise’