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The “Reset Day” Ritual Guide for Girls Who Love a Checklist

by Soleau Club

If you’re the kind of girl who gets high off freshly made beds, alphabetized spices, and checking boxes like it’s a sport—welcome home. A Reset Day isn’t just about cleaning your space, it’s about clearing your energy, resetting your mindset, and realigning with your main character self.

This is your go-to ritual for stepping into the week like the It Girl you are—organized, glowing, and deeply unbothered.

Morning: Set the Tone

☐ Open the windows, let in natural light ☐ Light your favorite candle or incense ☐ Put on a feel-good playlist (no sad girl vibes today) ☐ Drink water before caffeine—your organs will thank you ☐ Journal 1 page: "How do I want to feel this week?"

Mid-Morning: Body & Space Reset

☐ Movement (Pilates, walk, light stretch—nothing intense) ☐ Lymphatic drainage moment: dry brushing or gua sha ☐ Full body shower—scrub, shave, rinse off the week ☐ Fresh sheets, fluffed pillows, reset your bedroom ☐ Start laundry (bonus points if it smells like eucalyptus)

Afternoon: Mind & Mood

☐ Grocery restock with your wellness girl essentials ☐ Prep one or two meals/snacks for the week ☐ Do a 10-minute calendar audit: appointments, workouts, money moves ☐ Set 1 goal for your glow-up—mental, physical, or emotional ☐ Tidy high-touch zones: desk, bathroom, kitchen

Evening: Soft Girl Slow Down

☐ Diffuse calming oils or do a 10-minute meditation ☐ Skincare routine that feels like a mini facial ☐ No phone after 8PM (try a book or podcast instead) ☐ Stretch or foam roll—your future self will notice ☐ Choose your Monday outfit and set the vibe for the week

Reset Days are how we stay elevated without losing our minds. Think of them as a love letter to your future self—and your future self? She’s thriving.

Follow @soleauclub for more main character rituals, hot girl routines, and wellness that actually fits your life.

✧˖° romanticizing discipline: why your study aesthetic matters more than you think

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heyyyy angels, mindy here!

okay, listen. we need to talk about something that people love to roll their eyes at. making studying aesthetic. every time someone posts a pretty study setup, there’s always someone in the comments like, “you don’t need pastel highlighters to get good grades 🙄” or “discipline is about hard work, not vibes.” and okay, sure. but also?

if your study routine feels like punishment, you’re gonna run from it.

the way something feels matters. if you walk into a cozy, candle-lit café with soft music playing, you’ll want to stay there for hours. if you sit down at a messy desk with harsh lighting and a chair that makes your back hurt, you’ll last 15 minutes max. same work, different environment, completely different experience.

so why wouldn’t you make your study sessions feel good?

the truth is, romanticizing discipline makes you want to be consistent. and when you crave the work instead of dreading it, that’s when everything shifts.

so let’s make studying feel like an experience instead of a chore.

✧˖° why aesthetics actually matter

people like to pretend that discipline should be cold, harsh, and mechanical, but your brain doesn’t work like that.

➼ your brain loves sensory rewards. if your study space looks, smells, and feels good, your brain will start associating it with pleasure instead of stress. ➼ habit-building depends on emotion. if studying is something you enjoy (even a little), you’ll do it more often. if it always feels miserable, you’ll avoid it. ➼ your environment shapes your identity. if your space and routine reflect the kind of person you want to be, you start stepping into that version of yourself.

this isn’t about making everything look cute just for the sake of it. it’s about creating a feeling that makes you want to show up.

✧˖° how to romanticize discipline (without making it a distraction)

because let’s be real... if you spend two hours making an aesthetic notion template and zero minutes actually studying, you played yourself. the key is to set up your space and then get to work.

✧˖° 1. make studying a full sensory experience

romanticizing discipline isn’t just about visuals. it’s about creating an atmosphere that makes you want to sit down and focus.

➼ sound: play a study playlist that makes you feel productive (lo-fi, classical, rain sounds. whatever works). keep it consistent so your brain recognizes it as a “focus” trigger. ➼ scent: light a candle, spray a room mist, or use an essential oil diffuser. scent is one of the strongest memory triggers, so pick one that makes you feel calm and focused. ➼ touch: make sure your chair is comfortable, your desk is clean, and your study tools feel good to use.

it’s about tricking your brain into thinking, this is a space where we focus.

✧˖° 2. design a study space that makes you want to sit down

your environment dictates your focus. a cluttered, uninspiring desk will make you feel restless. a cozy, minimal, well-lit space will make you want to stay.

➼ keep only the essentials. a clean, distraction-free setup makes it easier to focus. ➼ add a little inspiration. a vision board, a cute calendar, a motivational quote. just something that makes you feel like that girl when you sit down. ➼ lighting matters. natural light is best, but a warm desk lamp can make nighttime study sessions feel cozy instead of exhausting.

again, the goal is to create a space that makes your brain want to work.

✧˖° 3. make discipline feel like a lifestyle aesthetic

some people make discipline look miserable. but the people who actually stay consistent? they make it look effortless.

➼ romanticize the act of opening your books. make it feel cinematic. the soft scratch of your pen, the glow of your laptop, the warmth of your tea. make it feel like a movie (mean girls, gossip girls... etcc) ➼ dress like the best version of yourself. even if you’re studying at home, wear something that makes you feel put together. ➼ upgrade your study tools. if you like the way your planner, pens, and laptop setup look, you’ll actually want to use them.

this is about shifting your identity. when you see yourself as the kind of person who enjoys discipline, you become her.

✧˖° keeping the balance: romanticizing vs. actually doing the work

okay, but let’s not pretend like aesthetics alone are gonna get you an A. you still have to put in the work. the key is to use aesthetics to enhance your discipline, not replace it.

➼ set a “setup time” limit. you get 5-10 minutes to set up your space. after that? no more tweaking. just start. ➼ use a study timer. 50 minutes of deep work, 10-minute break. repeat. this keeps you from getting stuck in the “pretty but unproductive” trap. ➼ reward yourself after real progress. light a candle before studying, but don’t let yourself scroll Pinterest for an hour instead of doing the work.

discipline first, aesthetic second. not the other way around.

✧˖° final thoughts

romanticizing discipline isn’t about making things look good for the sake of it. it’s about shifting your entire mindset so studying feels good.

when you make your study space feel warm, inviting, and yours, you stop dreading it. and when you stop dreading it, you show up more often. and when you show up more often? you actually get sh*t done.

so go romanticize the process. set up your space. light the candle. play the playlist. and then? open your books and do the work. because that girl you’re envisioning? she’s already you. you just have to step into her.

do not fall into the trap of "aesthetics over work" because there will be NO reason for you to romanticize studying, if you don't actually study.

with love,

mindy

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100 Building Blocks for a Better You

block num 1 : nobody is watching u

block num 2 : forgive yourself

block num 3 : take care of yourself

block num 4 : focus on your own path

block num 5 : persistence shapes your future

block num 6 : dream first

still updates. . . 🕯️

@bloomzone ✒️

The Scalp-to-Toe Guide for Girls Who Want Silky Everything

by Soleau Club / www.soleauclub.com

Let’s cut to it—softness is a power move. Silky skin, shiny hair, glazed lips, even smooth elbows? That’s not just self-care. That’s strategy. Because when your scalp’s flourishing and your ankles are moisturized, life hits different. You feel luxe. You feel aligned. You feel like the human version of soft lighting and whispery R&B.

Here’s your full-body roadmap to feeling silky, slippery, and scandalously touchable—head to toe.

Scalp: The Root of the Glow

A glossy blowout starts before the brush. Your scalp deserves the same energy as your skincare routine.

Weekly detox: Scalp scrub or clarifying shampoo to reset buildup.

Oils, but make it active: Rosemary or peppermint oil to stimulate growth and boost shine.

Scalp massage: Fingers or a massage brush—do it while watching Bravo or overthinking texts.

You’ll feel the vibes and the circulation.

Face: Like a Pearl, But Hotter

Smooth skin is built in layers—don’t skip steps.

Double cleanse, always. First to remove the world, second to nourish.

Chemical exfoliant > physical scrub. We’re team lactic acid, glycolic, or PHA.

Hydration sandwich: Mist → serum → moisturizer → oil (if you’re feeling extra).

Gua sha or ice globes: Because lymphatic drainage is the new face lift.

Finish with SPF like it’s your religion.

Neck + Chest: Stop Neglecting Your Décolleté

Your face doesn’t stop at your chin, babe.

Same skincare rules apply: Exfoliate, hydrate, protect.

Try a “mask extension”: Rub that leftover sheet mask serum down to your heart chakra.

Silk pillowcases: For your hair and your chest lines.

It’s giving “ageless heiress.”

Arms: Soft, Shimmery, Subtle Flex

Your biceps can be strong and smooth.

Dry brush before showering: Always toward the heart, always with intention.

In-shower exfoliant: AHA body wash or a sugar scrub (bonus if it smells edible).

Body serum: Yes, this is a thing. Think niacinamide, hyaluronic acid, or peptides.

Luxe lotion or body butter: Massage it in like your life depends on it. Because it kinda does.

Hands: Your Subconscious Status Symbol

Hands age fast, so treat them like the queens they are.

Cuticle oil on deck at all times.

SPF on the back of hands. Yes, even in the car.

Night treatment: Slather them in shea or Vaseline, then sleep in cotton gloves.

Bonus: Hand massage. Sensual and circulation-boosting. We love a win-win.

Booty + Legs: The Softest Power Play

Soft thighs, moisturized knees, and a peach that feels like satin? Yes please.

Exfoliate 2-3x/week: Use a body peel, mitt, or scrub.

Ingrown treatment: BHA + gentle retinol.

Moisturize while still damp: Lock it in, lock it down.

Glow drops or shimmer oil: Especially for a date, brunch, or any excuse to stun.

Shiny legs = main character energy.

Feet: Because Crust Is Canceled

Soft feet are the final boss of full-body glow.

Foot peel mask (biweekly): Warning: It will shed like a lizard, but you’ll emerge reborn.

Daily TLC: Pumice in the shower + thick cream before bed.

Sleep in socks like you’re doing it for your future lover. Or just yourself.

White polish or a nude chrome pedi? Always.

Being silky isn’t about vanity. It’s about energy. The smoother you feel, the more you float. The more you float, the more you radiate.

So oil up, gloss down, and glow on, babe.

Ready to go hardcore with your clean girl routine? Follow Soleau Club on Tumblr for more daily challenges, catch our YouTube videos every Sunday for new routines, and stay connected with us on TikTok and Instagram (@soleauclub) for all the inspo and accountability you need. For it-girl wellness accessories and free US shipping, shop online at www.soleauclub.com

Each step is a step. Relax and keep going ✨️

✧ if it doesn't align with the dream life, it's a distraction ✧

hey lovelies!! 🦢

omg, so, i was literally journaling last night & this phrase just hit me like… so hard. "if it doesn't align with the dream life, it's a distraction." i had to stop writing and just sit with that for a min.

because honestly? i've been feeling so scattered lately. like my energy is going in a million directions but none of them are taking me where i actually want to go. and i realized that's exactly what happens when we don't have clarity on our it-girl blueprint.

so what even is an it-girl blueprint? it's not just aesthetic or vibes (tho those matter too!!) but it's this deep knowing of who you're meant to become. it's that version of you who wakes up excited, who feels aligned, who's living in her dream apartment with her dream career and her dream people. she exists!! she's waiting for you to become her!!

this post is a bit different from my most recents, i wanted to take a little tinyyy break from my pop culture series', like the pll x glowettee and vampire diaries x glowettee series' and just focus more on self-improvement again. i also wanted to take a break from the overwhelming aesthetics i've been using in my posts, and justtttt write~~ (no small text, no crazy colors, just my thoughts) and i realized that distractions have been very prominent in my life lately... so i wanted to address it in this post, and some possible solutions <3

✧ what's actually distracting you? ✧

okay so grab your journal rn and let's get super real about what's pulling you away from your dream life, feel free to use these prompts:

that situationship that makes you feel anxious every time they text (you know the one)

the hours of scrolling that leave you feeling empty inside

saying yes to plans when your body is literally begging you to rest

the "friend" who always has drama and makes everything about them

that project you started because you thought you "should" but you actually hate

staying in that job/class/situation because you're scared to disappoint someone

comparing your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter 20 (guilty!!)

i've been doing this work myself and it's kinda scary how many things i was pouring energy into that weren't actually taking me anywhere i wanted to go??

✧ getting clear on your actual dream life ✧

before we can align with our dream life, we need to know what it actually looks like! not what instagram or your mom or society thinks it should look like, but what YOU want.

some journal prompts that helped me:

when do i feel most like myself?

what activities make me lose track of time?

who makes me feel seen, safe, and supported?

what would my perfect morning routine look like if i had zero obligations?

what kind of spaces make me feel calm and inspired?

what would i do with my time if money wasn't an issue?

what parts of my current life would i keep even if i could change everything?

i did this exercise last weekend and realized that so many things i was chasing weren't even in my dream life blueprint?? like i was stressing about getting into this super competitive program but when i really thought about it, it wasn't even aligned with what i actually want. wild.

✧ how to actually make decisions that align ✧

okay, so here's my little framework for making choices that actually build your dream life:

the body check: before saying yes to anything, check in with your body. does it feel expansive and light, or contracted and heavy? your body literally knows before your brain does!!

the future self question: what would the version of you who's already living your dream life do? she knows!! trust her!!

the energy audit: does this person/activity/commitment give you energy or drain it? only say yes to energy-givers (this one changed my life omg)

the alignment test: ask yourself "does this move me closer to or further from my dream life?" be brutally honest!!

the joy metric: if it doesn't bring you joy or lead to joy, why are you doing it?? (unless it's like… taxes or something lol)

✧ how to let go of the distractions ✧

this is the hardest part tbh. because we get attached to things even when they're not serving us! here's what's helping me:

remember that saying no to something is saying yes to your dream life

start with the easiest distractions first (for me it was unfollowing accounts that made me feel bad)

create little rituals around letting go (i write things down and then burn the paper)

remind yourself that outgrowing things is part of becoming

be gentle with yourself when you slip back into old patterns (we all do it!!)

i had to let go of a friendship a few months that was taking so much energy, and it was really hard but also?? i suddenly had all this space to focus on things that actually matter to me.

✧ your dream life alignment practice ✧

here's a little daily practice i've been doing:

morning: set an intention to notice what aligns and what distracts

throughout the day: when making choices, ask "dream life or distraction?"

evening: celebrate the aligned choices you made + gently note the distractions

it's not being perfect!! it's becoming more conscious of our choices. because every tiny decision is either building your dream life or… not.

i've been doing this for about three weeks now and i already feel so much clearer and more focused. like i'm finally moving in one direction instead of being pulled in a million different ones.

remember: you deserve your dream life. and it starts with choosing it, over and over, in all the tiny moments.

question from mindy:

what's one distraction you're ready to let go of? and one aligned action you're ready to take? (feel free to send me a message in my inbox, or just reblog answering this question.)

xoxo, mindy 🤍

𖦞’#⃞20͟0͟5 ₊˚ 𝓐natomy of an It 𝓖ir𝑙 🍋‍🟩🏩₊˚☆ ͘ୢ꣒ 🌐

𝓐: What Makes an It Girl?! Can Just Anyone be and It Girl?! What can you Learn from an It girl?! in this segment all of these questions will be answered as we breakdown how an it girl is made Using the Acronym…C.U.N.T

C.harisma .ೃ࿐

when you’re a socialite and center of attention charisma is an essential skill to harbor in your own unique way to really make a mark in a social setting and have people remember your name and who you are because being distinctive is a key gateway to the it girl mentality how you carry yourself is essential

U,niqueness ೄྀ࿐ ˊˎ-

individuality is a way of life you must set yourself apart and hold yourself to a different standard to cultivate a branding for example Beyonce & Rihanna two completely different women that are branded is completely different ways and look nothing alike but was making them it girls how they stand out you should never try to be someone you’re not or you’ll never be satisfied, sho you are is something no one can replicate

˚₊‧꒰ა NERVE ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

you know when someone says the phrase “you’ve got some nerve” its a testament of ones audacity and to reach it girl status you have to have some NERVE to know your the best,no one is your competition and you’ll succeed no matter what

being in the limelight,a role model and having status doesn’t happen over night and no everyone is always born with this mindset but you can adapt it to your self with things like shadow work and words of affirmation when you flip your mindset you’ll flip your life

.˚ * ꒰ঌ TALENT ໒꒱ * ˚.

focus on yourself,your goals and what you’re good at when you establish a goal a consistently improve thats when you can become spectacular at literally anything everyone has a talent or even a knack for something you just have to figure out what it is and when you do you can keep building off of it and as far as a goal goes you have to keep up with it you cant just have s goal but do nothing to achieve id recommend manifestation if you want a quicker result!!

𝓐: i hope yall enjoy and can take something away from this post to improve yourself muahh - 𝓐

How I Deal with Anxiety Without Turning to Comfort Food

by Soleau Club

Sometimes when anxiety hits, the first instinct isn’t exactly “let me go journal and meditate.” It’s more like: Where’s the bread? Or why did I just DoorDash $42 of sushi I didn’t even finish?

If you’ve ever used snacks as a self-soothing tool, you’re not alone. You’re human. But I had to gently ask myself: “Is this actually comfort… or just distraction in disguise?”

And that’s where the glow-up began.

Here’s how I stopped eating my feelings—and started feeling them instead, without spiraling.

Step 1: I Learned to Pause Before the Pantry

You know that moment where your brain goes “I NEED something crunchy/salty/sweet or I will literally combust”? That’s your cue. Not to eat—but to pause.

Now, I ask myself:

Am I actually hungry?

Or am I just stressed, bored, sad, overstimulated, under-touched, or in need of a break?

This 10-second check-in changed everything. It created space between the trigger and my reaction—which, let’s be honest, used to be kettle chips.

Step 2: I Made My Coping Kit Hot-Girl Approved

I realized if I was gonna stop reaching for food, I needed new tools—like, now.

So I made a list of “safe swaps” that actually soothe me when I’m spiraling:

Ice rolling my face (oddly grounding + depuffs my emotions)

Stretching with incense and soft music (try Sade or Erykah Badu)

Calling my “safe person” (you know who yours is)

Coloring, journaling, or painting my nails

Magnesium mocktails or herbal teas—warm liquids work wonders

The key? Make your comfort intentional, not impulsive. And make it cute.

Step 3: I Stopped Demonizing My Cravings

Let’s get one thing clear: there’s nothing wrong with wanting comfort food. The issue is when it becomes our only tool.

I started to lovingly ask:

“If my cravings had a voice, what would they be trying to say?”

Sometimes the message was: “You’re tired.” “You’re overstimulated.” “You need a nap, not nachos.” “You’re holding too much.”

This shifted everything. I could give my body what it really needed, not just a dopamine hit.

Step 4: I Started Regulating My Nervous System Like It Was My Job

Anxiety isn’t a mindset thing. It’s a nervous system thing. And that girl? She needs safety.

So now, my daily rituals are nervous system gold:

Breathwork: Just 3 minutes of box breathing calms my whole system.

Cold showers or cold face dips: Yes, it sounds aggressive. Yes, it works.

Barefoot walks on grass or sand: Grounding. Literally.

Soft movement: Think stretching, yoga, Pilates, or walking with music that makes me feel like the main character.

These aren’t just wellness trends—they’re medicine.

Step 5: I Wrote My Own “Comfort Menu”

One night, I literally sat down and wrote out:

“What can I do instead of stress eating that actually makes me feel safe, soft, and seen?”

Now I keep this list in my Notes app. Here’s what’s on it:

Watch my fave comfort show (hello, Sex and the City reruns)

Do a face mask and play chill French café music

Voice note a friend and be honest

Sit outside in the sun and do absolutely nothing

Your list will be different. That’s the point. It’s yours.

And remember:

Anxiety is not a character flaw. And turning to food for comfort doesn’t make you weak. But once I realized that true comfort feels nourishing, not numbing—I stopped letting snacks hold me hostage.

Now, when the stress hits? I know how to ride the wave without raiding the fridge.

And babe, so can you.

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