Each Step Is A Step. Relax And Keep Going ✨️

The 6 Month Project

the concept of 'glowing up,' is a popular one. a simple idea that you can change yourself, and be more attractive. and now i can't pretend that the idea of 3 month, 2 months and 1 week glow ups haven't motivated me. of course, there's some truth in drinking 2 litres of water and sleeping 8 hours, that brings a change to your life. but i want to focus on something bigger, more than just simply appearance. i want to turn my life around and be me again. so this is my plan for the 6 month project.

step 1) establish goals

whilst i'm sure that success is possible without absolute direction, i'm not willing to risk my chances. therefore the first good step to any project, is to establish the goals or what i want by the end of these 6 months.

to make everything absolutely organized i split all my goals into 7 areas:

physical health (this refers to diet, sleep, exercise)

image (skincare, haircare, style, makeup, etc.)

finances/current career

future career (networking, becoming a linkedin warrior, etc.)

hobbies

intelligence (any sort of learning, or hobbies that push me further)

mental health (coping mechanisms, general wellbeing, managing stress)

step 2) research

this step, i'd argue is the most time consuming. for every goal, i did a bit of research to fully understand how i could achieve it. for example, for the 'physical health' goals, i researched how to sleep better and how to eat a more balanced diet. or for 'image,' i researched skincare and different styles to figure out which one fits me. although, this can be done in extreme detail, i've tried to not use this step as a tool to procrastinate actually getting started

step 3) make a timeline

to make sure that i stayed on track with all my goals, and due to the sheer amount of steps/goals i made a timeline. as to not overwhelm myself, i decided on picking up around 4/5 habits everyday, cutting out 3 negative things and doing one off changes (mostly to appearance) once a week.

step 4) start

with nothing else left to plan or prepare, simply start.

How I Deal with Anxiety Without Turning to Comfort Food

by Soleau Club

Sometimes when anxiety hits, the first instinct isn’t exactly “let me go journal and meditate.” It’s more like: Where’s the bread? Or why did I just DoorDash $42 of sushi I didn’t even finish?

If you’ve ever used snacks as a self-soothing tool, you’re not alone. You’re human. But I had to gently ask myself: “Is this actually comfort… or just distraction in disguise?”

And that’s where the glow-up began.

Here’s how I stopped eating my feelings—and started feeling them instead, without spiraling.

Step 1: I Learned to Pause Before the Pantry

You know that moment where your brain goes “I NEED something crunchy/salty/sweet or I will literally combust”? That’s your cue. Not to eat—but to pause.

Now, I ask myself:

Am I actually hungry?

Or am I just stressed, bored, sad, overstimulated, under-touched, or in need of a break?

This 10-second check-in changed everything. It created space between the trigger and my reaction—which, let’s be honest, used to be kettle chips.

Step 2: I Made My Coping Kit Hot-Girl Approved

I realized if I was gonna stop reaching for food, I needed new tools—like, now.

So I made a list of “safe swaps” that actually soothe me when I’m spiraling:

Ice rolling my face (oddly grounding + depuffs my emotions)

Stretching with incense and soft music (try Sade or Erykah Badu)

Calling my “safe person” (you know who yours is)

Coloring, journaling, or painting my nails

Magnesium mocktails or herbal teas—warm liquids work wonders

The key? Make your comfort intentional, not impulsive. And make it cute.

Step 3: I Stopped Demonizing My Cravings

Let’s get one thing clear: there’s nothing wrong with wanting comfort food. The issue is when it becomes our only tool.

I started to lovingly ask:

“If my cravings had a voice, what would they be trying to say?”

Sometimes the message was: “You’re tired.” “You’re overstimulated.” “You need a nap, not nachos.” “You’re holding too much.”

This shifted everything. I could give my body what it really needed, not just a dopamine hit.

Step 4: I Started Regulating My Nervous System Like It Was My Job

Anxiety isn’t a mindset thing. It’s a nervous system thing. And that girl? She needs safety.

So now, my daily rituals are nervous system gold:

Breathwork: Just 3 minutes of box breathing calms my whole system.

Cold showers or cold face dips: Yes, it sounds aggressive. Yes, it works.

Barefoot walks on grass or sand: Grounding. Literally.

Soft movement: Think stretching, yoga, Pilates, or walking with music that makes me feel like the main character.

These aren’t just wellness trends—they’re medicine.

Step 5: I Wrote My Own “Comfort Menu”

One night, I literally sat down and wrote out:

“What can I do instead of stress eating that actually makes me feel safe, soft, and seen?”

Now I keep this list in my Notes app. Here’s what’s on it:

Watch my fave comfort show (hello, Sex and the City reruns)

Do a face mask and play chill French café music

Voice note a friend and be honest

Sit outside in the sun and do absolutely nothing

Your list will be different. That’s the point. It’s yours.

And remember:

Anxiety is not a character flaw. And turning to food for comfort doesn’t make you weak. But once I realized that true comfort feels nourishing, not numbing—I stopped letting snacks hold me hostage.

Now, when the stress hits? I know how to ride the wave without raiding the fridge.

And babe, so can you.

Follow @soleauclub for more soft wellness, slow beauty, and chill-girl fitness that fits your real life. Less grind. More glow.

guide to a evening routine 𝜗𝜚⋆₊˚ 🐈‍⬛🎀✨

your night sets the tone for tomorrow, which is why having a peaceful and intentional evening routine is so so important. its your special time to unwind, reset, and wind down. of course you can do these steps in whatever order feels right for you, your routine should soothe and support your needs. a good evening routine helps improve your sleep, lowers stress and creates a space comfortable for mindfulness, self love and peace. sweet dreams and enjoy! 🎀

UNWINDING:

unwinding at night is all about slowing down and letting your body know it’s time to relax. i love dimming the lights, playing soft music or subliminals, lighting a candle and just breathing. you can journal, reflect on your day, or just lay in bed and check in with yourself. your energy deserves softness after a long day.

SKINCARE:

your skincare routine should feel like a ritual—not a chore. it’s a moment just for you. cleansing the day away, moisturizing, and pampering yourself makes you feel clean, dolly, and cared for. even just washing your face and applying your favorite serum can boost your mood.

STRETCHING + YOGA:

doing 5-10 minutes of gentle yoga or stretching at night can completely shift your energy. it helps calm your nervous system, release tension, and reconnect with your body. plus, it feels so good to move with intention.

READING:

reading before bed instead of scrolling is such a dreamy habit. it calms your mind and helps you fall asleep easier. you can read anything you like—romance, fantasy, a cozy self-help—but even a few pages helps. it feels so much better to end the day with words than a screen.

WARM BATH OR SHOWER:

a warm bath or shower is one of the best things you can do for your body and your mind before bed. it literally rinses the stress off you. add bubbles, oils, salts—whatever makes it feel soft and special. when you step out clean and cozy, it’s like becoming a new version of you, ready for rest.

GRATITUDE:

before sleep, take a few moments to say thank you. list three things you’re grateful for, even tiny ones. this shifts your mindset into peace + abundance. it’s such a simple thing, but it makes a huge difference. gratitude reminds you how amazing life already is.

xxx, belle

Maintenance Routine?

This is pretty much what it looks like when I’m at uni.

How I Fight My Messy Girl Nature🧼🧹🧺

All my life I’ve had to learn to be organized. While I’m not dirty I tend to just set things down and create piles all over my room. I typically have a good idea where everything is until the mess becomes overwhelming and I begin losing things. So I’ve had to really put in work to keep my space neat to prevent my environment from causing me anxiety. Here is all my tips I use on the daily.

Daily 5 things.

Everyday I try and put away five things that were misplaced.

I even put it in my habit tracker so I always remember.

While this doesn’t make my room spotless when I keep up with it consistently my room is way cleaner.

It also helps build the habit of cleaning as you go. Once I started doing this habit my tendency to leave clothes on the floor and shoes everywhere decreased significantly.

2 Weekly 15 minute clean

I choose to do them on Fridays and Sundays as a way of wrapping up a week and then starting fresh.

I set a timer and then clean as fast as possible.

While 15 doesn’t sound like a lot it leaves my room pretty clean and usually I build up enough momentum to finish the clean even after the timer goes off.

Fighting the piles

How I fight my tendency to making piles is with baskets and easy organization .

I never will put my makeup away properly in the morning in a really organized container so instead I have a bin for makeup and a bin for brushes. I am perfectly fine digging through (I don’t have that many products) and it looks cleaner than me just leaving it all over my vanity.

I also have a bin for my papers/mail that I just make sure to go through every now and again.

Shoes.

Shoes are probably my worst habit because I tend to just kick them off and go.

So I gave myself a wrack but I also give myself 3 pairs of shoes that can be off the wrack.

Those are my daily tennis shoes, my house slippers, and my shower shoes. I use these everyday and putting them on the wrack will never happen consistently so I don’t fit it and instead I just gave myself an area to kick the off.

Not the cleanest but at least it’s in one area. And three pairs of shoes on the floor is a lot less than 10.

Laundry

Laundry is also very hard for me because it just takes so long and anything that takes up a lot of my time annoys me.

So whenever I do laundry I make myself a to-do list and try and complete it before laundry gets done.

Sometimes it’s homework, sometimes it’s cleaning.

If I am on a break or just a little more burnt out then usual I’ll take the time and play the sims because that also takes a long time lol.

I also have made it a rule that anytime laundry gets done it has to be folded immediately. Part of this involved getting rid of the laundry chair(iykyk) so there was no where for the laundry to go but in the closet.

Anyway that’s all I have for now. These have really helped me and my tornado tendencies be a lot more tidy especially while at college in a much smaller room that I share.

Xoxo 💋

✧˖° romanticizing discipline: why your study aesthetic matters more than you think

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heyyyy angels, mindy here!

okay, listen. we need to talk about something that people love to roll their eyes at. making studying aesthetic. every time someone posts a pretty study setup, there’s always someone in the comments like, “you don’t need pastel highlighters to get good grades 🙄” or “discipline is about hard work, not vibes.” and okay, sure. but also?

if your study routine feels like punishment, you’re gonna run from it.

the way something feels matters. if you walk into a cozy, candle-lit café with soft music playing, you’ll want to stay there for hours. if you sit down at a messy desk with harsh lighting and a chair that makes your back hurt, you’ll last 15 minutes max. same work, different environment, completely different experience.

so why wouldn’t you make your study sessions feel good?

the truth is, romanticizing discipline makes you want to be consistent. and when you crave the work instead of dreading it, that’s when everything shifts.

so let’s make studying feel like an experience instead of a chore.

✧˖° why aesthetics actually matter

people like to pretend that discipline should be cold, harsh, and mechanical, but your brain doesn’t work like that.

➼ your brain loves sensory rewards. if your study space looks, smells, and feels good, your brain will start associating it with pleasure instead of stress. ➼ habit-building depends on emotion. if studying is something you enjoy (even a little), you’ll do it more often. if it always feels miserable, you’ll avoid it. ➼ your environment shapes your identity. if your space and routine reflect the kind of person you want to be, you start stepping into that version of yourself.

this isn’t about making everything look cute just for the sake of it. it’s about creating a feeling that makes you want to show up.

✧˖° how to romanticize discipline (without making it a distraction)

because let’s be real... if you spend two hours making an aesthetic notion template and zero minutes actually studying, you played yourself. the key is to set up your space and then get to work.

✧˖° 1. make studying a full sensory experience

romanticizing discipline isn’t just about visuals. it’s about creating an atmosphere that makes you want to sit down and focus.

➼ sound: play a study playlist that makes you feel productive (lo-fi, classical, rain sounds. whatever works). keep it consistent so your brain recognizes it as a “focus” trigger. ➼ scent: light a candle, spray a room mist, or use an essential oil diffuser. scent is one of the strongest memory triggers, so pick one that makes you feel calm and focused. ➼ touch: make sure your chair is comfortable, your desk is clean, and your study tools feel good to use.

it’s about tricking your brain into thinking, this is a space where we focus.

✧˖° 2. design a study space that makes you want to sit down

your environment dictates your focus. a cluttered, uninspiring desk will make you feel restless. a cozy, minimal, well-lit space will make you want to stay.

➼ keep only the essentials. a clean, distraction-free setup makes it easier to focus. ➼ add a little inspiration. a vision board, a cute calendar, a motivational quote. just something that makes you feel like that girl when you sit down. ➼ lighting matters. natural light is best, but a warm desk lamp can make nighttime study sessions feel cozy instead of exhausting.

again, the goal is to create a space that makes your brain want to work.

✧˖° 3. make discipline feel like a lifestyle aesthetic

some people make discipline look miserable. but the people who actually stay consistent? they make it look effortless.

➼ romanticize the act of opening your books. make it feel cinematic. the soft scratch of your pen, the glow of your laptop, the warmth of your tea. make it feel like a movie (mean girls, gossip girls... etcc) ➼ dress like the best version of yourself. even if you’re studying at home, wear something that makes you feel put together. ➼ upgrade your study tools. if you like the way your planner, pens, and laptop setup look, you’ll actually want to use them.

this is about shifting your identity. when you see yourself as the kind of person who enjoys discipline, you become her.

✧˖° keeping the balance: romanticizing vs. actually doing the work

okay, but let’s not pretend like aesthetics alone are gonna get you an A. you still have to put in the work. the key is to use aesthetics to enhance your discipline, not replace it.

➼ set a “setup time” limit. you get 5-10 minutes to set up your space. after that? no more tweaking. just start. ➼ use a study timer. 50 minutes of deep work, 10-minute break. repeat. this keeps you from getting stuck in the “pretty but unproductive” trap. ➼ reward yourself after real progress. light a candle before studying, but don’t let yourself scroll Pinterest for an hour instead of doing the work.

discipline first, aesthetic second. not the other way around.

✧˖° final thoughts

romanticizing discipline isn’t about making things look good for the sake of it. it’s about shifting your entire mindset so studying feels good.

when you make your study space feel warm, inviting, and yours, you stop dreading it. and when you stop dreading it, you show up more often. and when you show up more often? you actually get sh*t done.

so go romanticize the process. set up your space. light the candle. play the playlist. and then? open your books and do the work. because that girl you’re envisioning? she’s already you. you just have to step into her.

do not fall into the trap of "aesthetics over work" because there will be NO reason for you to romanticize studying, if you don't actually study.

with love,

mindy

Self worth vs Empathy for yourself.

Both self worth and empathy for yourself are important to your mental and physical health. But what is the difference between the two?

Self Worth - Defined

Self worth is understanding your importance as a person. Understanding that you can accept and give love, and knowing your values.

Self Empathy - Defined

Empathy for yourself is slightly different and can be absent when self worth is present. Having empathy for yourself is setting boundaries with you. This includes making promises to yourself and following through with them (ex. I will exercise for an hour… and then actually doing it) and listening to your body and brain when they are communicating (an example of this would be hunger/thirst signals).

How do these feelings work together?

Self worth is a great foundation!! Knowing what you deserve and how you should be treated is meeting your basic needs. Practicing empathy for others is easy, but practicing empathy for yourself will help you build routine and increase productivity. If it’s a statement you wouldn’t say to a friend, don’t say it to yourself, and turn the positive beliefs about your worth into positive actions that reflect how you feel. <3

Tips On How To Get Your Life Together

make a list of your top priorities: Figure out what actually matters to you right now. This isn’t about what you should care about, but what truly takes up your energy—school, your health, building confidence, relationships, etc. Keep the list short (3–5 things max) so you can focus. ‎

create a morning and night routine: Routines give your brain structure. You don’t need a 10-step ritual—just something consistent. Morning = stretch, drink water, check your planner. Night = wash your face, no phone 30 mins before bed, quick journal. That alone is enough. ‎

check in with yourself and journal frequently: Journaling doesn’t mean writing novels. Just note how you feel, what’s bothering you, what went well, or what’s on your mind. Use prompts if you’re stuck. The point is to stay connected to yourself instead of spiraling in your head. ‎

start saving money: Even a small amount every week matters. Start tracking what you spend. Make a savings goal (emergency fund, a trip, new laptop). Try a rule like “save 10% of what I get” or “no impulse purchases until Sunday.” ‎

learn something new every day: It doesn’t have to be academic. Listen to a podcast, read one article, Google something random. Write down one interesting thing you learned to help you remember it—and to remind yourself that you’re growing. ‎

spend time with the people you love: Text them. Call them. Make plans, even if you’re busy. Shared time matters. It’s easy to get caught up in fixing yourself and forget that love and connection are part of being okay. ‎

keep track of your sleep, hydration, nutrition: Start observing how your body feels. Are you getting 7–8 hours of sleep? Drinking enough water (2L/day)? Eating regularly? You don’t have to go full fitness-tracker, but noticing patterns can help you feel way more in control. ‎

list down your stress triggers: What causes you anxiety, procrastination, or overwhelm? Write them down. Knowing your triggers helps you build systems around them. If social events drain you, plan alone time after. If deadlines stress you, start earlier. ‎

clean your room: Your environment reflects your mental state. Tidy up the space where you spend the most time. It doesn’t need to be perfect—just put things back in place, wipe down surfaces, and open a window. It shifts your mindset. ‎

practice gratitude and/or meditate: You don’t have to be spiritual. Just note what’s good. Try writing 3 small things you’re grateful for, or sitting quietly for 5 minutes. It helps your mind slow down and notice what’s okay, even on rough days. ‎

set boundaries: Say no when you need to. Don’t reply right away if you’re drained. Make rules for yourself about how much you give to others. Boundaries protect your energy—they’re not selfish, they’re necessary. ‎

declutter your phone, laptop, etc: Digital mess counts. Delete apps you don’t use, clear out your camera roll and downloads, organize folders. It helps reduce mental clutter and makes everything feel more intentional. ‎

plan 1 self care act every day: Something small, just for you. A walk, skincare, journaling, no-screen time, reading. Doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive—just consistent and kind to yourself.

xoxo, sally

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