Some Affirmations I Repeat To Myself Daily 🪽🧚‍♀️

Reflections on building a better me

Exercise is not optional. Mental satisfaction from completing yet another workout cannot be overstated. Physical satisfaction from feeling good and enjoying your body in clothes, the mirror, and photos cannot be overstated. Stop messing around, stop info hoarding, go exercise. And tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day. And the next day.

Looking your best depending on circumstances (ie, casual, dressy, bedtime, etc) is not optional. External confidence from taking care of your appearance top to bottom and loving what you see in the mirror is highly valuable.

You feel better when you eat better. You’re proud of yourself when you eat better.

Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies. Do you feel embarrassed when someone asks what you do all day and you can’t come up with an honest answer that doesn’t make you sound like a loser with no life? You need hobbies. Some that are outdoors, some that are indoors. Some that are taxing, some that are relaxing. You will enjoy life more, become a more well-rounded individual, and have positive ways to spend your time rather than racking up more hours on your phone. Get some hobbies. Plural.

Procrastination and laziness should disgust you. You shouldn’t be able to relate. You should strive to be above that. You like yourself better when you complete your tasks and get things done in a timely manner. You’re proud of yourself when you’re on a roll and have a productive streak. You’re impressed by productive people and no one likes a lazy bum.

Decide what you want from life and pursue it ruthlessly. Don’t take advice from people who don’t have the life you want, unless they were once on your desired path and fell off. Even then, you listen to them when they say what NOT to do (learning from their mistakes) but clearly they don’t know what TO do bc they didn’t make it to the finish line. Take “do this” advice from people who crossed the finish line and have what you want. You’ll find that the amount of input that is actually valuable to you has suddenly dwindled. Good. Less chatter in your ears.

Get yourself in order before you go around critiquing everyone else. Get YOUR face in order. Get YOUR body right. Get YOUR money up. Get YOUR style in order. Get YOUR relationship together.

Stop coming to everyone for validation like a toddler. Validate yourself. Do you like it? Okay then. Are you over it? Okay then. Stop being so weak. Stand tall, lead yourself. Stop being such a follower.

Be a good person. Help your family, lend a hand to strangers, give back, say sorry, do things for loved ones just because, show affection, work things out, watch your mouth, speak respectfully, remember that the world owes you nothing. Stop being an insufferable freak.

You can’t change anyone but yourself. Get yourself in order and be a good role model. That’s all you can do. Give people advice when they want it and then go about your business. Get yourself in order. Get yourself in order.

Outrage content is the lowest form of entertainment. Engage in things that make you happy or educate you. Doom scrolling only leads to doom. Don’t like this person? Don’t click on their articles or videos. Unfollow and block. Don’t like these people? Leave their spaces. You don’t have to be outraged every day.

Always keep your word to yourself. Make a plan, stick to the plan, always deliver. If you can’t be reliable for yourself then who can you be reliable for?

𝑅𝑈𝐿𝐸𝑆 & 𝐺𝑂𝐴𝐿𝑆

⋆.𐙚˚ daily essentials ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔

💭 drink 2l of healthy fluids minimum (water, juice, tea,...)

🌸 eat 5 meals (9AM, 12AM, 3PM, 6PM, 9PM)

💭 get 8+ hours of sleep

🌸 have at least 20 minutes of low impact movement

💭 listen to subliminals

⋆.𐙚˚ hygiene & wellness ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔

─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! daily :

🧼 shower or bathe

🦢 brush my teeth twice (i struggle to remember)

🧼 put on lotion

🦢 do my skincare

🧼 brush my hair, massage my scalp, use dry shampoo if necessary

🦢 oil my nails

─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! weekly :

🧼 take a relaxing hot bath

🦢 shave

🧼 hair and face mask

🦢 wash, condition and treat hair

🧼 face guasha

🦢 exfoliate body and face, body oil

🧼 cut, treat and file my nails

─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! monthly :

🦢 exfoliate scalp

🧼 get a pedicure

⋆.𐙚˚ mind & mental health ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔

─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! daily :

🥛 read for 20 minutes

🍨 practice on duolingo

🥛 use all my self-education apps

🍨 affirm and pray

🥛 journal/do a check-in

🍨 meditate for 3 minutes

─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! weekly :

🥛 spend time socializing in a relaxed manner

🍨 practice a hobby

─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! monthly :

🥛 go to therapy

🍨 try something new (food, experience, hobby, etc.)

⋆.𐙚˚ academia ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔

🩰 get a study buddy

🐇 attend all lectures and seminars

🩰 take detailed notes

🐇 rewrite my notes all cute after lecture

🩰 do all the assigned reading

🐇 watch videos/documentaries on stuff i don't understand

🩰 make revision cards

🐇 do all homework the day it is assigned

🩰 study systematically, a little every day

🐇 keep organized and up to date on everything

🩰 do all assignments on time

🐇 make it fun for myself

Studying when EXAUSTED

This is for those times when you really desperately want to be productive and get things done but you can't focus and you just want to sleep but you didn't do anything today so you feel shitty.

if you can, please just go to sleep (I do get that sometimes you feel so shitty about how little work you got done that you can't sleep, but if you can, please do it and approach tomorrow with a fresh start)

plan out what tomorrow is going to look like. I will break it down by task, for example: 6:00 wake up, 6:05 work out 6:15 shower, 6:30 make tea, 6:40 start work, 7:30 break etc. This will 1) help you feel better about not getting anything done 2) can help you be more productive tomorrow.

if you have things to do that are easy/low brain power, do them. These are things like printing out work, scanning stuff, tidying your kitchen. getting these little things out of the way can make a HUGE difference later

if you can, just read over your material. Don't even try to understand, just read it. Tomorrow when you come back to try and actually learn it, you will already be a little familiar and it can speed things up for you

eat something, drink something, and see if it makes you feel better- many times when i'm "unable" to go on, I eat a meal and drink a glass or two of water and magically I feel great again

try doing a workout- sometimes it just makes the exhaustion worse, but if you need to stay up later (shoutout to my fellow 6:30 pm bedtime pals) it can stretch time a little bit, and sometimes wakes up your brain. It's also good for you and can make your sleep go better

DONT DRINK COFFEE. or tea. no caffeine. you are already tired, it's not going to fix anything, its just going to make you jittery and sad. it's also going to upset your sleep schedule and make the tired worse for tomorrow.

lastly- just go to bed. pushing through true exhaustion is not going to help you or anyone else. anything you try and learn is going to float right out of your head, and it can lead to burnout which will make everything worse. Please just sleep

Mastering the It Girl Life on Campus/ at school : Confidence, Class, and Style

On-Campus Essentials: Sophisticated and Ready to Conquer

Structured mini tote – Think sleek and polished. Choose something that says "I'm on my game" while fitting your essentials: a slim laptop, your chic planner, and a pair of sunnies.

Signature scent – A travel-sized luxury perfume, like Byredo or Le Labo. It leaves a lasting impression without overpowering.

Hydro flask in a neutral tone – Hydration, but make it aesthetic. Bonus points if it matches your outfit.

Protein bar or matcha to-go – Snacks are essential, but we’re keeping it elevated. Opt for a protein bar with clean ingredients or a homemade matcha latte in a reusable tumbler.

AirPods Max or sleek earbuds – Perfect for tuning out the noise between classes with a curated podcast or chill playlist, keeping your energy cool and collected.

In Class: Own the Room with Confidence and Intelligence

Effortless note-taking setup – Digital is where it’s at. Use a tablet with a stylus for sleek, organized notes that sync across all your devices. Bonus: it looks high-tech and minimalistic.

Command attention – Sit where you can engage, but it’s not about the front row anymore—it’s about being present and prepared. Contribute thoughtfully when needed, and stay poised.

All-in-one app for organization – Ditch the old-school planner. Use an app like Notion or Google Calendar to sync your schedule, assignments, and deadlines. Effortlessly keep everything streamlined and on point.

Refined confidence – Instead of always speaking up, choose your moments wisely. Command attention through well-thought-out points that showcase your intellect, not just participation.

Breaks Between Classes: Elevate Your Downtime

Mini face mist – A refreshing face mist with a subtle scent keeps your skin hydrated and glowing, giving you a post-class refresh. Think Tatcha or a rose water mist.

Quick mirror check – Always have a compact mirror to do a quick hair and lip check. It's about looking polished and put together without effort.

Reset with movement – Walk around campus to stay energized, but with intention. Pop in your favorite playlist, take in the surroundings, and use this time to clear your mind before the next task.

Digital declutter – Use breaks to clear out any unnecessary tabs, update your notes, or respond to quick emails. Keeping your digital life tidy is the new version of looking organized.

Becoming more productive

Be a bit delulu... Believe in yourself; every goal you set yourself is archivable!! ;)

Challenging/tedious tasks first!! Get them out of the way!! ew!!

Visualise your goals!! What do you want to archive? How will you feel when you reach your goal? Write everything down, and make a cute vision card on Pinterest. Always helps me stay motivated <33

Make the most of your time. Got some free extra minutes? Start working on something from your to-do list!! :)

Organise your space. Being in a comfortable and inviting environment is so so important to be able to focus properly. Some scented candles, a cute bookshelf, some pictures…

Plan ahead, make a simple to-do list (no more than 7 points)

Fix your sleep schedule… I'm still working on this myself… once I figure out how I'll definitely make a little guide lol…

Take breaks, especially when studying. Exercise is perfect for relaxing your mind; if you don't love working out - like me... lol - going on a walk is a great option too!! <33

Be aware of procrastination… are you procrastinating right now..?

Reward yourself!! Spend some time taking care of yourself, invest time in your hobbies, eat your favourite meal, or get yourself a nice coffee… small things that make you feel good :)

As always, Please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! <3

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

irresistibly sweet

“you literally smell edible, what scent is that?”

🍦💗 think warm sugar cookies, vanilla frosting, sweet cotton candy, and creamy cinnamon buns — the kind of scents that turn heads and have people wondering what just walked by (ps. its you!)

I went through my entire collection to find the best products that’ll have you smelling like a literal treat — whether you want fresh-baked vibes or full-on candy-coated goodness, these picks will leave a sweet trail wherever you go ❤︎ ˚₊‧

disclaimer: these are all recommendations based on the products I own. I have tried all of these products myself and can strongly recommend them

fragrances

1. Sweet Tooth - Sabrina Carpenter ( ❤︎ )

as a gourmand girlie, Sweet Tooth hits all the right spots for me. the scent is a burst of sweetness of marshmallow, sugar & ginger. the hint of ginger isn’t my favorite thing in the world, but it still dries down to smell super yummy

2. Fresh Cream Warm Cashmere - Philosophy ( ❤︎ )

this one is basically the older sister of sweet tooth. they smell nearly identical! this fragrance has all the sweetness of sweet tooth without the ginger note. this fragrance also lasts much longer on the skin and forever on clothes! def one of my favorites

3. Viva La Juicy Sucré - Juicy Couture ( ❤︎ )

I made a post going through the notes of this fragrance, and it’s so yummy! it smells super sweet with a hint of citrus. think candy and marshmallows mixed with citrus fruits

4. Tease Sugar Fleur - Victoria’s Secret ( ❤︎ )

my go to scent for the summer! but, it doesn’t smell anything like the name. this fragrance smells like a green candy apple with a super soft, floral feminine undertone. sweet, but in a fruity way

5. Warm Cookie (body mist) - VS Pink ( ❤︎ )

this one was a seasonal scent that came out in fall 2024, but will all be one of my favs from pink! with notes of gingerbread, vanilla icing, and gumdrops, the mist smells like a fruity sugar cookie. that might not sound appealing and it’s not the scent some people were expecting, but I really love it!

lotions & body butters

1. Sweet Cream (body milk) - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

sweet cream is mentioned many times in this post because its just sooo good! it literally smells like whipped cream and a vanilla ice cream cone. compared to all the other sweet cream products I’ve tried (body wash, body oil, etc) the body milk has a stronger sugary smell to it (which I love!)

2. Cinnamon Buns (body milk) - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

smells exactly like cinammon rolls, but not as sweet as the matching body scrub in my opinion. the cinnamon is very strong in the body milk, and you might like that! I would recommend this pairing this with a vanilla lotion

3. Glazed Donut (body milk) - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

words can’t explain my love for this scent. in the summer I love pairing this with the eos vanilla cashmere lotion. it smells exactly like a fresh box of donuts from krispy kreme mixed with fruit pebbles. it’s a very sweet scent and will forever be one of my favs!

4. Fresh Cream Warm Cashmere (lotion) - Philosophy ( ❤︎ )

smells just like warm baked cookies! this is a more mature gourmand vanilla as it smells like a less artificial version of bath and body works’ warm vanilla sugar. I usually pair it with the matching perfume and the sweet creem body oil from prty grl beauty. I smell just like a bakery!

5. Sugar Cookie (lotion) - Native ( ❤︎ )

the best way to describe this scent would be animal crackers + sugar cubes. it’s extremely sweet! this can be a good or bad thing, depending on what you like. if i’m going for a cupcake and sugar scent, i’ll grab this and lather it all over

shower products

1. Fresh Cream (body wash) - Philosophy ( ❤︎ )

“its perfect for those who like sweet, powdery, and soft scents”! this body wash is super lactonic compared to the warm cashmere version. it’s a very light scent which can make it underwhelming for some people, but perfect for layering with other products

2. Sugar Cookie (body wash) - Native ( ❤︎ )

smells identical to the lotion and hair products. I have almost all the products in this line and I can recommend all of them. with sugar, butter, and vanilla notes, you’ll step out of the shower smells delectable AF

3. Sugar Cookie (shampoo & conditioner) - Native ( ❤︎ )

these two are literally the key to having sweet smelling hair. I absolutely love using this combo on my hair! I would def recommend these products if you don’t know which yummy scented shampoo & conditioner to go with

4. Sweet Cream (body wash & scrub) - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

omg…where do I even begin?! these two products smell sooo good and so sweet! literally a vanilla ice cream cone. as much as I love the smell of these, they’re extremely light in scent. i would recommend using a body wash from another brand before using this one

5. Cinnamon Buns (body scrub) - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

smells exactly like cinnabon and freshly made cinnamon buns. if you like the smell of those, you’ll love this scrub. i pair it with the cinnamon buns body wash from philosophy as they go sooo well together!

body oils

1. Glazed Donut - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

very similar scent to the matching body milk. I love the consistency with all the scents from this brand! if you love the smell of freshly made glazed donuts, you’ll love this. I like to layer this with other scents, but using this with the matching body milk will have you smelling so so sweet

2. Sweet Cream - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

my all time favorite body oil!! it smells sooo sweet and yummy (my bf loves this one!) if you want to smell exactly like a vanilla cupcake, pair this with vanilla & dreamy from vs pink or eos vanilla cashmere. I will wear this scent till I die

3. Brown Sugar Baby - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

sweet and strong. it smells exactly like brown sugar syrup with a hint of caramel and in my opinion the perfect body oil pairing with any vanilla lotion! I love pairing it with eos vanilla cashmere. this body oil will have you smelling delicious and edible!

honorable mentions

more product recs to consider ˚₊‧

1. Vanilla Cashmere (lotion) - eos ( ❤︎ )

one of the best layering lotions for gourmand perfumes and body oils! it goes so well with other baskery-esque scents. this lotion is a staple in any gourmand-lovers collection because of how great it is for layering

2. Sticky Dates (body spray) - Lush ( ❤︎ )

this is an extremely strong scent that I would only recommend using with another scent. this smells nearly identical to maple syrup and caramel. it’s sickeningly sweet (which you might like) but smells too much like maple syrup for me to wear on its own

3. Cake Pop (perfume oil) - prty grl beauty ( ❤︎ )

I really like this one! it smells like a sweet vanilla cake + icing, but not exactly like a birthday cake pop from starbucks. an extremely soft and subtle scent that I love using for my bakery smelling routines!

things to manifest: back to school edition

we're back with another things to manifest post!! i know a lot of people are going back to school pretty soon, so here are a few things you might want to manifest for that <3

★ cute stationery (muji pens, campus noteboks, jansport bag)

★ getting into your desired classes (AP, honors, etc)

★ desired roster for your classes (fav teacher, bffs)

★ being able to go to your desired school

★ you could design new kids that come to your school (example: her name is leah, she has long blonde hair, she dresses in the coquette style, she loves loa, etc)

★ you're everyone's hallway crush

★ if you have a school uniform, you could manifest that it gets changed so you can wear whatever you want to school

★ or, if you want a school uniform, manifest a cute one

★ fun class/grade road trips to museums or something

★ manifest that you live in walking distance of your school so that you don't have to go on a bus

★ you get amazing grades (duh)

★ football games if that's something you're into

★ color guard/cheerleading

★ you get to choose where you sit in your classes

★ CLEANER BATHROOMS!!! (THIS IS A MUST FOR ME THE BATHROMS AT MY SCHOOL ARE SO GROSS)

A sudden urge to get better

I decided to keep track of my slices of life on here, maybe get some exposure of being seen and post a little peak of my journey of getting hotter. An accountability reminder to myself.

Ghost🎧

THE 4D DIARY

What is it?

It’s a journal to rolplay as if your manifestations have already been fulfilled, and write about them like a diary.

Manifestation is supposed to be instant HOWEVER,

many of us have a very difficult situation with our self concept. The objective of the book it’s to help us with the self concept and normalice the desires that we are manifesting in our life.

How does it work?

It’s a small notebook book, (at least once a week) write on it as if your manifestation was already there:

- Describe yourself, not only physically but mentally. Describe your ideal body, thoughts, clothes…

- Describe specific scenarios. Receiving your A+ grades, working at that exciting job, talking with those cool new people…

- Describe how it FEELS to be around your SP. Describe their smell, the way they look at you, the way they treat you…

What’s the purpose?

- HELPING YOU VISUALISE: Imagine yourself as if you were already there will help you change your mindset and habituate yourself of FEELING this way.

- HELP WITH SELF CONCEPT: Every time you doubt about yourself, read the diary, this will remind you that you are ALREADY LIVING YOUR 4D

- HELP TO STOP GLORYING OUR DESIRES: We usually unconsciously glorify our desires making them look as if they where imposible, the objective it’s mainly training our brain to go through this experiences so we stop glorifying them and they actually start showing up in our 3D reality

Recommendations

- Write after a visualisation meditation

- Be “realistic” (What I mean by this is that you should describe your experiences with your own words and personality, you can be truly free with your use of words, don’t try to sound elegant or out of your personality, this has to look like a page of your ACTUAL diary)

- DONT PUT AFFIRMATIONS HERE: This journal it’s not with the main objective of manifest BUT to help you get into the MIND STATE as if you have ALREADY manifested what you want. By adding a list of affirmations you will loose that special personal touch, it won’t look like a diary to talk about your experiences but more like a manifestation journal, for me personally it makes it feel more forced and less personal.

THATS ALL!!

Im the OG CREATOR of this idea so if you actually do it, post it in the hashtag #4Ddiary and tag me in your post!!

bye bye byyyye <3