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The 2021 Gender Census is now open!
[ Link to survey ]
The eighth annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 10th March 2021.
After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.
If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, retweet this tweet, boost this Mastodon post, check out this post on Reddit, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks like Facebook. Every share is extremely helpful - it’s what helped us get 24,000 responses last year.
Survey URL: https://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/gendercensus2021/
The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.
Thank you so much!
💐🌷🌹🌺🌻🌸🌼 send this to ten other bloggers you think are wonderful. keep the game going. 🌼🌸🌻🌺🌹🌷💐
*rakes all the flower emojis together and jumps into them like a pile of leaves* 🌼🌸🌹🤗🌻🌺🌷
Get To Know Me Better: Last/Current
Tagged: @the-ever-chaos-collective (Thank you~ ☺️ 💞💕)
Last song: Gesaffelstein - OPR I’ve been obsessed with this one ever since I heard the experience of listening to it described as “exactly what it feels like to drive to 7-Eleven for cigarettes and gas at, like, 3:30 in the morning when you have clinical anxiety” lmao... Is it? I wouldn’t know. But it IS a Certified Banger™ imho. 😩👏
Last movie: White Palace What can I say? I have a weakness for 90′s James Spader romances. 😏
Currently watching: Northern Exposure Speaking of my 90′s-era weaknesses.
Currently reading: Dragon Age: Asunder by David Gaider. I’m working my way back and forth between the novels and the lorebooks in a roundabout attempt to make them last me the winter.
Currently craving: A slice of homemade Earl grey cake, from this recipe specifically. Luckily my partner’s mother’s birthday is in about a week, so I have a good excuse to make it soon. 😌👌 🍰 (If you want my advice, though, do not attempt the accompanying honey buttercream frosting. It melts at room temperature, which I learned—you guessed it—the hard way. Go with something sturdier like this instead.)
Tagging: @5lazarus @proudofmyanger @jellydishes @levikra @jarakrisafis (But only if you’d like~ 🎼📖🎞️✨)
Tagged: @jellydishes (Thank you~ 👋😘 ❤️)
Tagging: @the-halo-of-my-memory @the-ever-chaos-collective @astriaage @hawkeish @proudofmyanger @rat-spit-village @the-horae (But only if you’d like~ 👑👗🗡️✨)
Saw this on Twitter and thought it was super cute!
Google your name followed by:
*your name* fantasy gown
*your name* fantasy crown
*your name* fanstasy weapon
Create your fantasy outfit and tag 5 people to show you theirs!
Ummm sorry but Geralt of Rivia ain’t gonna know what hit him baby!
Tagging some peeps, show me yours!!
@iloveyouyen @littlefreya @dancingwendigo @onlyhenrys @achaoticaugust @thelastsock @the-soot-sprite @killjoy-assbutt-1112 @fishcustardandclintbarton and anyone else who wants to join!
17 Questions
Rules: Answer these 17 questions and then tag 17 people to do the same.
Tagged: @the-halo-of-my-memory (Thank you~ 👉😉👉💖)
1) Nickname(s): Jack
2) Height: 5' 4½"... The inclusion of the half-inch suggests some amount of height insecurity, I know, but—hear me out ☝️—what with my (maternal) great-grandfather and grandmother both being career carpenters, it’d probably curdle my blood to provide inaccurate measurements.
3) Amount of Sleep I Got: Just under 10 hours.
4) Lucky Number: 3 and/or 9
5) Zodiac: Taurus ♉
6) Aesthetic: Second-Generation Goth 💀🖤
7) What I'm Wearing: A blue floral print housecoat with white lace at the collar and cuffs. *mutters* And I’m already undermining my goth credentials, incredible... 😌 🌼
8) Dream Job: In this economy? Anything that’ll keep me financially solvent.
9) Favorite Author(s): Jane Austen, Arthur Conan Doyle, Zora Neale Hurston, F. Scott Fitzgerald
10) Song Stuck in My Head: Dua Saleh - mOth
11) Favorite Song: Peppino Gagliardi - Che Vuole Questa Musica Stasera
12) Favorite Instrument(s): Plucked string instruments. My (paternal) grandmother had a lap harp that she used to prop up her romance novels on the shelf and the looks I lavished on that thing likely outdid the ones exchanged between their pages.
13) Favorite Animal: Cats 🐈
14) Favorite Animal Noise: That trilling little chirp cats make when they greet you.
15) Following: 1,205 tumblrs
16) Last Thing I Looked Up: "1/2 symbol"
17) Random: “You kiss me with your mouth wide open like you're not afraid of swallowing poison. I taste the good and bad in you and want them both. We call this bravery.” - Anita Ofokansi, Literary Sexts
Tagging: @therealmnemo @fandomn00blr @heartsyhawk @the-horae @jellydishes (But only if you'd like~ ✍️✨)
jessica rabbit is literally a sex symbol though she can't be asexual?
she is in romo with a rabbit because he makes her laugh and aside from using her looks to get things out of people she literally never once shows interest in anything or anyone sexually through the entire movie and is clearly appalled when anyone makes advances towards her like there is canonical evidence that jessica rabbit from the classic motion picture who framed rogger rabbit is an asexual character
Yuuri Katsuki is Demisexual
First off a real quick definition of Demisexual for those who may not know about it:
Demisexuals are characterized by a lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless they become deeply emotionally or romantically connected with a specific person or persons. The level of connection it takes for sexual desire to form is dependent on how close the relationship is rather than initial attraction.
Reasons why I think Yuuri is Demisexual:
-The entire show is advertised and described partly as ‘a sexual awakening ‘ for Yuuri
- at 23 years old he has not dated or had sex or really put much thought into actively having sex appeal
- when presented with a sexy routine , he doesnt know how to define sexual attraction
- laments and repeats the definition of sexual attraction over and over again to the point he associates ‘losing all senses of reasoning’ with the gluttony of eating his favourite food dish
- honestly tries to equate craving food with craving sex because thats how far out there sexual desire is for him (which from all of the rampant ace cake jokes in the asexual community this is a pretty common expierence)
- privately scolds himself thats hes a man and 23 and should be able to have sex appeal ….if he only wanted to (which screams toxic masculinity and societal expectations of everyone being interested in sex , something of course the show explores and rectifies at least in the aspect of gender roles via Yuuri’s genderfluid eros outfit and mindset towards performing in a feminine way not masculine because hes more comfortable in that role )
- eventually figures out how to channel sexual desire into his routine by imagining seducing a playboy (a.k.a Victor who he is romantically attracted to)
- blatantly states that he wants Victor to watch him perform this routine , in a way that makes it clear hes thinking only of him/ only cares about his response
- Victor specifically helps Yuuri perfect this routine by stating things like ‘skate like youre trying to seduce me’
- as he gets more comfortable with Victor he becomes more receptive to Victors affectionate advances as well as his suggestive ones like look at episode 2 compared to episode 8:
- which is really important because a lot of the early part of their relationship is spent with Yuuri rejecting Victor , which confused a lot of fans because they are obviously romantically interested in each other
-but when you look at the specific scenes scenes Victor is rejected there is always a sexual element involved (Wanting to sleep in the same bed together , The offer to be whatever role Yuuri needs him to be , specifically be his boyfriend : in the context of power dynamics of coach and student its pretty easy to allude he means he’ll sleep with Yuuri to motivate him. ) versus the advances Yuuri accepts is more comfortable with and grows to repricate (hugs , affection touching , holding hands)
- the more time passes , and the more evident it is that Yuuri is falling in love with Victor , the more natural his Eros routine gets for him (and more intricate we go from flirty eye contact to licking his lips to blowing a kiss as his opener) :
- Yuuri establishes with words and gestures before every Eros performance that he specifically is performing and thinking about Victor. and this evolves as he gets more in his element of his sexuality , not for the audiences consumption , but for Victors
- Its obvious even looking at how Yuuri interacts with Victor before he performs the Eros routine at different points of time in the show , sexual awakening indeed:
- last thing that really clinches the idea of Demisexual Yuuri is the Eros routine itself compared to other ‘sexual’ routines ( Specifically Seung Gil-Lee and Christophe Giacometti’s. )
- Chris’s routine is overtly sexual in the body language that its clear he is sexually interested in anyone who will provide him sexual gratification , the routine is very ‘come hither ye who dare’
- Seung Gil-Lee on the other hand is much more so a focus on being a conduit of peoples sexual desires , but having no agenda himself in his performance except to win presentation points (his body language and face tell very different stories , and he establishes the audiences reaction means nothing to him)
- Yuuri on the other hand no matter what he uses as a story bases for his routine , ultimately thinks of Victor , of seducing him and only him , and the audience just happens to get to watch that seduction. This is visually established with the opening of the routine where Yuuri turns and looks at Victor and only Victor before dancing
In conclusion : Yuuri is Demisexual , have a nice day.
Seggesting a character might be ace.
me @ ace characters: 👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀 good shit go౦ԁ sHit👌 thats ✔ some good👌👌shit right👌👌there👌👌👌 right✔there ✔✔if i do ƽaү so my self 💯 i say so 💯 thats what im talking about right there right there (chorus: ʳᶦᵍʰᵗ ᵗʰᵉʳᵉ) mMMMMᎷМ💯 👌👌 👌НO0ОଠOOOOOОଠଠOoooᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒ👌 👌👌 👌 💯 👌 👀 👀 👀 👌👌Good shit
me @ aro characters: 👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀 good shit go౦ԁ sHit👌 thats ✔ some good👌👌shit right👌👌there👌👌👌 right✔there ✔✔if i do ƽaү so my self 💯 i say so 💯 thats what im talking about right there right there (chorus: ʳᶦᵍʰᵗ ᵗʰᵉʳᵉ) mMMMMᎷМ💯 👌👌 👌НO0ОଠOOOOOОଠଠOoooᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒ👌 👌👌 👌 💯 👌 👀 👀 👀 👌👌Good shit
me @ characters on the ace and/or aro spectrum: 👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀 good shit go౦ԁ sHit👌 thats ✔ some good👌👌shit right👌👌there👌👌👌 right✔there ✔✔if i do ƽaү so my self 💯 i say so 💯 thats what im talking about right there right there (chorus: ʳᶦᵍʰᵗ ᵗʰᵉʳᵉ) mMMMMᎷМ💯 👌👌 👌НO0ОଠOOOOOОଠଠOoooᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒ👌 👌👌 👌 💯 👌 👀 👀 👀 👌👌Good shit
me @ asexual/aromantic/spectrum headcanons: 👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀 good shit go౦ԁ sHit👌 thats ✔ some good👌👌shit right👌👌there👌👌👌 right✔there ✔✔if i do ƽaү so my self 💯 i say so 💯 thats what im talking about right there right there (chorus: ʳᶦᵍʰᵗ ᵗʰᵉʳᵉ) mMMMMᎷМ💯 👌👌 👌НO0ОଠOOOOOОଠଠOoooᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒ👌 👌👌 👌 💯 👌 👀 👀 👀 👌👌Good shit
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m o o d b o a r d ; demisexual pride
m o o d b o a r d ; asexual pride
My Asexual Story, 2018.
Another little autobiographical comic I whipped together (this was drawn in like two hours tops so don’t judge the drawings lmao). To clarify, I am in a happy long-term committed relationship with a non-ace girl and we’re both very happy with our relationship, and I have never had bad experiences with relationships because of my asexuality. Being ace isn’t a big deal to me - I barely think about it - but asexuality is something that a lot of people seem to have trouble fully understanding, so I wanted to take some time to describe it the way I see it in my life and from my perspective. Every story is different - here’s mine.
Heyyy woo! I’m finally ready to share this online~ This has just been my experience being Ace. I’m selling these at cons and will have them at MSP Spring Con (at the MN state fair grounds, yo!)
But I’ve also been trying out gumroad too - so you can get a pdf of it off there too if you want~
because the valentines are coming and people are asking questions
This time of year can be frustrating for people in the aro/ace community.
I will be here, whenever you need to talk.
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“asexuals are broken” sweetie the only broken thing about me is my sleep cycle
I like the “plays for the other team” entendre because it implies that asexual people play for no team. We merely watch from the stands, confused by the world of sports, just like I do in real life.
Reblog this post with your favorite ace, aro, or aroace meme!
My friend: *updates me on her relationship encounters*
My asexual ass:
"Bravery Courage Happiness Slurpee”
- The Asexual Motto
What is an asexual sex toy?
In a conversation recently, there was a question about what an asexual sex toy would be. Now, obviously, sex toys don’t have any kind of orientation limitations or requirements, so there’s no such thing. But the question was more, what would an asexual sex toy be, if a company wanted to try to market sex toys to aces?
Feel free to treat this as a serious product design brainstorming session, or as a ridiculous exploration of what a company might think we want based on who they think we probably are.
As a lesbian who used to identify as aro/ace, I just wanna say that I'm never going to stop supporting the aro/ace community. It was a big part of my personal journey and I really valued being part of a group that's so open to people exploring their identity. If you don't believe that aro/ace identities are valid and belong in the lgbt+ community, I don't want you on my blog
Asexual meme of the month: loving and supporting their bisexual brethren unconditionally
If they “don’t think people are really bi/ace,” or if they think they can’t trust you because you’re bi/ace, you deserve better. Invalidating your identity or using your identity against you is not okay, and having a partner who does that might feel like it comes with the territory of being bi/ace, but I promise you it doesn’t.
Shout out to all the people who've existed in bi and aspec identities.
All the aspecs who thought they were bi because they experienced the same level of attraction to all genders. They just figured out that level was little to nothing.
All the bi folks who thought they were aspec but later found out what they were experiencing was attraction.
To all the bi aces who figured out how to understand the attraction they feel and that sexual attraction isn't needed for romance
To all the bi aros who came to understand that being sexually attracted to multiple genders doesn't mean they also have to be romantically attracted. And that that's ok.
To all the bi aroaces that experience attraction other than sexual and romantic and find it important enough to label.
I love all of you and I feel honoured to know your all a part of this world.
tbh it doesn't rly hurt teenagers to incorrectly id as ace like... what's the worst than could happen? they don't have sex till they're older?? lol
another important thing about solidarity within queer communities is that so many of us will identify with different labels (especially when we are young/still figuring out that we aren’t straight & cis to begin with) before figuring out how we identify longterm. E.g. gay people who start out identifying as bi, trans men who initially identify as butch lesbians, asexuals who at first identify as bisexual (because hey, that’s technically being equally attracted to multiple genders), and so on. In fact, most queer people, at one time or another, identified as cishet. So we of all people should be aware that figuring out our identities takes time, and is a winding path.
And this is why solidarity in our communities is so important. And why gatekeeping is so dangerous. Because not only is each part of our community a longterm home, sanctuary, and support system for people of a certain identity, we also provide a path and an unofficial Welcoming Committee to new members of the wider LGBTQA+ community (especially young queer people, for whom a supportive welcoming is so important). And in turn, many of the people who find their way to us will be coming from a different part of the rainbow path. This is also why bigotry is so so damaging when it comes from within our communities, and why we each of us have a responsibility to examine our prejudices and acknowledge that being queer doesn’t automatically give us a pass–we are just as capable of bigotry as anyone on the outside, and in a unique position to do harm from within. Fight transphobia, fight aphobia, fight biphobia, fight racism and ableism and discrimination wherever you see it in our communities. And more than that, celebrate ALL the colors on our flags, and all of the diverse communities they represent. Solidarity makes us so much more powerful, as a community and as individuals. So I’d like to start by saying: