Hi. I'm an ESTP and I find this explanation very helpful /post/183481379497/. But I was wondering, how does this process work with Ti aux? For example, you've said, "Fi needs to feel authentic self-expression, which actually means that life cannot only be lived for yourself. When you express yourself or your values into the world, you always hope to get validated in some way, and you cannot achieve validation in a vacuum." What about Ti? What does Ti need?
Ti needs to build a genuine sense of capability and mastery, which requires that you work on developing your knowledge, skills, and talents. However, this also means that life cannot only be lived for yourself. Knowledge, skills, and talents don’t mean very much when you never put them to good use, especially when you only use them as a means to convince yourself of your own superiority. This is why Ti and Fe go together. Only when you use your intelligence and capabilities to contribute something good to those around you will you feel as though you are living at your best - this is the long road to life fulfillment and realizing your potential (Ni). Many estps don’t have the patience to take the long and winding road, which is why they opt to play games and use mental tricks in order to feel self-assured (Fe loop).
I have an estp friend who makes a very, very good living in a job that requires immense adaptability and mental flexibility. However, he is not content with only being able to support himself and give his family a high standard of living. He also teaches what he knows, sets up communities to support people who are learning his craft, and mentors the next generation. Why? Once upon a time, somebody taught him how to fish and now he returns the favor by teaching others, so he understands how to show humility and gratitude. In fact, many people in his field tend to keep to themselves. He could easily rest on his laurels because he is widely regarded as a master (part of being able to claim mastery comes from social validation). However, there is something that drives him to do more than just living for himself. He’s not a complicated man by any means, his motives are very simple and straightforward, he doesn’t try to be good at everything but only at the one thing he loves, he enjoys his work and is forever practicing and getting better - he can be said to hear the call of his greater potential.
this feels relevant
please do not force an lgbt label onto anne frank. she died before she had the chance to explore her sexuality and if you need to think of her as lgbt to have empathy for her you need to reconsider how you think of holocaust victims. please do not vilify her father, a man who lost his entire family in the holocaust, for censoring the parts in anne’s diary where she expresses attraction for women. it was 1947. jewish girls were already seen as hypersexual. he was protecting her legacy as best he could, and you have no right to call him a villain for wanting what was period-typical best for his late daughter.
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This is the kind of weaponization of the elderly I can get behind.
You have two coworkers named John, one short and one tall. As you normally would in this situation, you call them Big John and Little John. One day the tall John tells you that he doesn’t like being called Big John. You’re a decent person and stop doing it. It turns out when his depression was at its worst, he gained a lot of weight, and even though he’s lost weight and is secure in his body image, being called Big John reminds him of that time. He’s much more comfortable being called Tall John, Old John, his last name, or just John
You call everyone dude. You were raised in an area where dude is an all-purpose term. One day your coworker Mary tells you that she doesn’t like being called dude. You’re a decent person and stop doing it. It turns out she’s trans, and even though she’s transitioned and is satisfied and secure in her body, being called dude makes her dysphoric. She’s much more comfortable being called girl, pal, or just Mary.
If situation one is so obvious, why isn’t two? Just be a decent person, don’t call people what they don’t want to be called, and don’t make them give you their reasons. It’s that simple
We need more people like this
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Take good care of yourself so you can care for others as well.
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