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“Those who know that they are profound strive for clarity. Those who would like to seem profound to the crowd strive for obscurity. For the crowd believes that if it cannot see to the bottom of something it must be profound.” - Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science

FYI: I’ll be off the next two weeks for the holidays. I wish everyone a peaceful year end and an auspicious start to the new year.

Some food for thought from Viktor Frankl: The pessimist resembles a man who observes with fear and sadness that his wall calendar, from which he daily tears a sheet, grows thinner with each passing day. On the other hand, the person who attacks the problems of life actively is like a man who removes each successive leaf from his calendar and files it neatly and carefully away with its predecessors, after first having jotted down a few diary notes on the back. He can reflect with pride and joy on all the richness set down in these notes, on all the life he has already lived to the fullest. What will it matter to him if he notices that he is growing old? Has he any reason to envy the young people whom he sees, or wax nostalgic over his own lost youth? What reasons has he to envy a young person? For the possibilities that a young person has, the future which is in store for him? “No, thank you,” he will think. “Instead of possibilities, I have realities in my past, not only the reality of work done and of love loved, but of sufferings bravely suffered. These sufferings are even the things of which I am most proud, though these are things which cannot inspire envy.”

me trying to decipher the half deleted internet fight

“Nobody can change who you are, except for you.”

— Jean Kwok, Girl in Translation

Foods that are packed with vitamins and nutrients that help with your body and mind's health (which includes your mood):

Chicken/ Pork/ Beef

Tuna/ Salmon / Shellfish

Tofu

Lentils/ Beans

Seeds/Nuts

Eggs

Dried fruit

Spinach/ Leafy greens

Mushrooms

Whole, unprocessed carbohydrates (brown bread/rice/pasta)

Cocoa (without sugar. Dark chocolate is good)

Avocados

Milk

Bananas

Sweet potato

“Every habit produces multiple outcomes across time. Unfortunately, these outcomes are often misaligned. With our bad habits, the immediate outcome usually feels good, but the ultimate outcome feels bad. With good habits, it is the reverse: the immediate outcome is unenjoyable, but the ultimate outcome feels good. […] The road less traveled is the road of delayed gratification. If you’re willing to wait for the rewards, you’ll face less competition and often get a bigger payoff. As the saying goes, the last mile is always the least crowded.”

— James Clear, Atomic Habits

Alright. The people I am thankful for are my two close friends. Hanging out with them, I felt a sense of calm and comfort. We let each other be whatever we wanted, no judgements, no intruding. All of us were going through some kind of chaos or another in our personal lives, so we sort of all needed that silence in one way or another. Thanks so much, guys.

Today Someone said to me , is there any person you wanna say thank you to ?

And for sec i said huh yep my Dad I feel bad because he was there for me all the time i feel like as grown up there’s a desire within me that i wanna protect him 24/7 .

And you guys reblog this with a person you are thankful for in your life .

there’s a popular post on tumblr that says INTJs have two “modes”: one that has no qualms using social masks to achieve goals and one that doesn’t see a reason to be anything but honest.

1. how does having a social mask that goes against their true values affect low Fi types?

2. these “modes” are present for all types, aren’t they?

Sounds like “This INTJ is an Enneagram 3″ vs “every other INTJ.” ;)

Healthy TJs typically have strong beliefs based in a few areas (things of personal importance to them that they work hard toward) but high Te knows you get more flies with honey than vinegar. To succeed in business, for example, being likable, presenting oneself as competent, and proving self worth through reliability and the ability to work with people is how you earn their respect and cooperation. That is earnest, sincere, pragmatic, and not a “mask.”

3s on the other hand can “adapt” to be whatever the situation requires of them – for example, keeping their mouth shut on something when they know to bring it up in their current group would cause unnecessary friction and prevent them from accomplishing a goal, or that it might prevent them from GETTING the job they want. (IE, not supporting 100% everything a business, individual, church, group, etc represents, but being able to “appear” in such a form that they assume you are “one of them” without being one of them.) But even 3-core INTJs do have something they believe in and are working toward.

So… yeah, on this issue I’d say 3-core/fixed vs. not-3-core/fixed (non-adaptable) is the factor. And yeah, the same goes for every other type.

- ENFP Mod