Dangerousangleofadream - Femdom

Hired Help pt.2

@greeny1969 asked:

Do you get to the stage where you have no interest in having a release , or do you still crave the pleasure of it ?

(another question from the comments)

Tom here.

I'm assuming that by "release" you mean "orgasm," and it's a good question. The situation is that @mrs--edge and I have a "date" about once a week. I really enjoy the feeling of being aroused leading up to it, and naturally I'm very excited during it. After she is finished and satisfied, I'm still excited, but it tapers off to a more normal feeling of arousal after an hour or so.

About once a month my wife likes to make me come in my cage, because it makes her feel good about herself, which adds to our intimacy. Sometimes she drags it out for two months, and recently she made me go for three.

The thing is, I have learned to really enjoy surfing on that ebb and flow of arousal and excitement, and the longer I go on, the more that I (sometimes) don't want to spoil it with an orgasm. This leads to some games where I try to hold back and she tries to make me (she usually wins). But sometimes she will get me close and then ask if I want to. And of course, I both want to and don't want to at the same time (and she knows this). Usually I tell her that I want her to decide (she usually, but not always denies me when it's her decision) which is hot.

For as many years as we've been doing this, I'm always aroused and excited, and I always want and don't want a release. 😉

When He Begs in Frustration...

There comes a point in every FLR where the male sub comes to a realization. While submitting to her is amazing, and he loves it, and can't get enough of it. When she starts really utilizing and asserting her power, he begins to realize that there really is no going back. That it's actually impossible to go back.

He's suddenly caught in a net, where he realizes that if he backed out due to being scared, and afraid to fully commit to her, he knows within a few hours, or days, he would regret pulling away, and come crawling back to her. So he knows any rebellion against her authority is completely and utterly hopeless. So instead, he begins to stew in his own frustration, fighting with himself, trying to hang on to whatever control he can, in his mind.

This makes him ache to the point of desperation, and since he is not allowed to relieve that desperation, he reaches a boiling point, where he suddenly breaks. He knows he's not allowed to beg for a release, but he will beg anyway. He will whimper, he may even cry. He will get on his knees and beg. This is a point where he will say, he will do anything for her.

It's important that she understands what he's going through. She is witnessing the breaking of his ego, his last desperate hope of clinging onto control. His last ounce of weakness, of resistance to her. Rather than punish him, she should completely and totally embrace him.

Make him feel safe. Cuddle with him, hold him close, and tell him it will be alright. This isn't the time to make him service you more, it's a time of bonding, intimacy, love, and loyalty. If he feels safe in his extreme vulnerability, he will finally come to the realization, that she is all he needs. That she will take care of him, and that it's okay for him to let her authority rule his life.

It's an incredible moment, and foundation of real solid trust is built here. It's the moment he dedicates himself in service to her, the moment she becomes the center of his world, and he will no longer resist her, all reservations, inhibitions, and hesitations will fall away. Obedience will become the only thing that matters. He will trust her judgement in decisions without back talking. He will defer to her all decisions and trust she knows best.

When he breaks down and begs, never let him have a release. This would reinforce his last remnants of control and he would think that begging is a weak spot for her, and he will use it again and again whenever he gets desperate. So no, never have mercy, never give in. Just hold him and tell him he will be okay, and that you're there for him.

Let him figure out that when he stops resisting her, his frustration will become more bearable, and more importantly, he will want to bear it. It's the greatest gift she could possibly receive, when he breaks down and begs in frustration, because it's a give away, it means, he finally understands his place at her feet.

The Submissive's Journey can help!

https://books2read.com/The-Submissives-Journey