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Make a list of non-negotiables in your partner. I'm not joking either. Make a list of non-negotiables. Make a list of things you will not do for your partner with the following categories: Never-Dos, Will Not Do Before A Label, Will Not Do Before Rings, Will Not Do Without Marriage. Make a list of must haves and nice to haves as well as the inverse of must nots and should nots. If you want, break it down into categories of men: Male Friends, Men For Casual Dating, Men for Long Term Relationships, Husband Material. Don't even bother dating without building a solid network of platonic, mentorship, and familial relationships. Your familial relationships can absolutely be found family rather than blood, but ensure you have a strong social network foundation before getting into dating. Get comfortable being single, and if a man is having a negative affect on your quality of life rather than a positive one, drop him. Remember that men are on their best behavior for the first 3 months, and if there are problems before that, those problems will be significantly worse. Don't have fuck buddies, and if you do, don't develop feelings for your fuck buddies, and if you do, stop having sex with that fuck buddy. Do not chase these men. They are not worth it. The right men will work their ass off to be with you, and will do the work necessary to be with you if you call them on their shit and send them away to fix it. Do not be someone who's bar is in hell. These are grown ass adults and need to behave as such.
I sincerely don't want to get involved in the celibacy discourse but I will say this as a 35 year old bisexual woman. If you are a woman in your twenties who is attracted to men: Do not chase a man. Any man. Under any circumstances. He isn't special. There will be others. In chasing him, you will lose yourself.
warmly,
auntie Shellstrop
Yes, but in the same tragic way any 2000s It Girl was a good celebrity. Just trying to live a normal life and having normal struggles and it constantly being blown out of proportion by tabloids until I devolved into the monster they made me out to be.
do you think you’d be a good celebrity?
A Typical Work Day:
I work Tuesday through Friday, averaging 38-42 hours per week, and I'm on call Saturdays and Sundays, My Mondays are very similar outside of my working hours, with seeing patients being replaced by studying, the occasional personal medical appointment, and my 2 standing appointments for my vocal therapist and my psychological therapist.
Mornings Before Work
05:00 First Alarm, Morning Stretches, Review of Daily Agenda
05:15 Dream Journaling, Self-Love/Positive Self-Talk Affirmations, & Morning Devotional Prompt
05:30 A Morning At The Office Podcast / Morning prayer
06:00 Wake up critters, and take the dogs out for a potty break
06:10 Feed Critters
06:15 Morning Cardio - Fasted 2-4 mile walk-jog with Phobos
06:45 Morning Hygiene
07:00 Medicate Chewbacca & Scoop Cat Boxes
07:15 Breakfast & revise notes over coffee with the news in the background.
07:45 Get the cats into their respective rooms, get Phobos ready to go to work, and Chewbacca set up for the day
Work Morning
08:00 Clock In, Return calls, and Check in Surgical Patients Tue, Wed, Thu, Fri
09:00-12:00 See Patients (GP, Rehab, & Surgical) Tue Wed Thu Fri
Afternoon
12:00 Lunch, feed Hannibal, Olive, and Chewbacca their lunches, and Noonday Prayer (BCP + Forward Day by Day Reading & Meditation)
13:00-17:00 See More Patients (GP & Rehab)
15:00 Clock Out Fridays
15:00-17:00 Sports Conditioning Phobos (Fridays)
17:00 Dinner & Vespers Prayer, Clock Out on Wednesdays
Evenings
17:00-19:00 Course work Wednesdays & Fridays, See Patients Tuesdays & Thursdays
19:00 Medicate Chewbacca + Feed All Critters plus Clock Out Tuesdays & Thursdays
19:15 Strength Training Workout
20:00 Shower, Evening Hygiene & Supplements (Melatonin & Magnesium
20:30 A TV Episode, knitting, blogging, checking social media & my personal emails.
21:30 Screens off for the night and Compline via smart speaker followed by fireplace sounds
22:00 Bed Time
That's a typical work day for me! Okay, Bye! 🩷
happy mean girls day to all my nice girls out there
(pics from Pinterest)
There's also dietary changes, supplements & vitamins, and psychotherapy options for treating PMDD. I'd recommend going to a female D.O. + OBGYN who generally will present you with a more well-rounded and wholistic (not holistic) treatment plan. My original PMDD team consisted of a psychologist, a psychiatrist, a dietician, an endocrinologist, and a D.O. gynecologist.
We figured out hormonal birth controls aren't an option for me due to both lifestyle factors and the exacerbation of my PMDD symptoms. We also restricted/eliminated soy from my diet as my intolerance of it went beyond bloating, and it also influenced my mood and psyche due to hormone levels being thrown off when I'd eat soy products as part of my inflammatory response to it. We added in psychotherapy with a focus on DBT and regulation skills to help me better adapt to psychological stressors. For about 3 years, while I was gaining those skills, I was on antidepressants.
My current treatment plan addresses both my seasonal affective disorder, birth control needs, and my PMDD through vitamin D & magnesium supplementation, a paragard IUD (non-hormonal copper IUD), dietary changes to a more whole foods high protien diet, and exercise. I haven't had a true PMDD episode in almost 4 years with this plan. Treating the underlying psychological disorder, getting my hormones balanced, and controlling the inflammatory response has done incredible things for me.
Talking to your primary care doctor or gynecologist about PMDD is an important step, and if you feel your needs are being ignored or aren't being addressed by your medical team, you can and should change providers. Your doctors also can't help you if you don't ask them to help and advocate for yourself. I've gone through a lot of good doctors and bad doctors and now have a fully female medical team whom I trust and who trust me.
Pre-menstrual depression is always depicted as like "He He! I had a box of icecream bars and cried while watching the Titanic!" But in reality, it's more like, "I'm standing the edge of an abyss. There is nothing good inside of me, I'm filled with rage and desperation."
It's crazy that being told how to deal with that is never a part of anyone's menstrual sex education.
thinking about that one wordless calvin and hobbes sunday strip thats just calvins dad ditching his work to go play in the snow... its going to make me cry
Anyways, BoyToy and I are now planning a renfaire weekend.
Actual Conversation Today Between BoyToy and I:
Me: 😷 I wanna snuggle
BoyToy: Not happening.
Me: I know 🥺
BoyToy: You got ADv and I got strep. What kinda bioweapon you trying to create?? 😂
Me: With you? The kind USAMRID would lock up. 🥹👉👈
Him: 🤣🤣🤣 Go back to sleep, I'll see you when we're both healthy.
