How To Be Soft:

one of the most influential things i’ve learned in dbt is to change “but” into “and.” so instead of saying, “i know you feel that way, but i feel this way,” try saying, “i know you feel that way, and i feel this way.” by doing that, you are validating the other person’s opinions and emotions as well as viewing them as an equal.

good evening to eldest daughters, people with a complicated relationship with their mother, service industry workers, big tiddy bitches, college dropouts, people who are spiritual but not religious, they/thems, nintendo gamers, and friendless loners

Looking for thinspo I kept thinking “ughh I love her she’s so pretty but not thin enough to post” and that says a lot. You’re beautiful. Stay safe babes💖

don't romanticize

Bulimia isn't a long haired pretty girl bending over a toilet with a tragically beautiful face on. It's a puffed miserable face with vomit dripping from its chin and a fucking nose bleed. Anorexia isn't a slim figure shyly refusing a cupcake. It's hair growing all over your freezing malnourished body. Depression isn't a model with running muscara staring into the sunset. It's staring at the ceiling at 4 in the morning with burning eyes because you can't even find the motivation to close them. Self harm isn't lovely boys kissing your arms and telling you that you're still beautiful. It's nasty scars that will be there forever and showers that sting. Panics attacks are not burying your face into your lover's chest and having them to tell you that everything will be okay.It's feeling out of control and like oxygen has suddenly been taken from you. *Mental illnesses aren't beautiful* They don't make you special and don't make people suddenly care about you.

They are monsters that destroys life.

So stop taking them lightly and promoting them to impressionable teenagers on the goddamn Internet.

I’ve seen a lot of posts on my dash tonight about users who are threatening suicide, with other Tumblr members posting in effort to try to get ahold of them. I think you all should see this:

IF THERE IS EVER A TUMBLR USER WHO HAS POSTED A GOOD-BYE MESSAGE, SUICIDE NOTE, VIDEO, OR ANYTHING OF THE SORT, PLEASE FOLLOW THIS POST.

1. Scroll to the top of your dashboard.

2. See the circular question mark icon at the top? It’s the third one over from your home symbol. Click on that, and a screen similar to the one in the picture will come up.

3. Where you can type in questions, the box with the magnifying glass at the top, type in the word “suicide.”

4. Click on the first link that shows up. It should say, “Pass the URL of the blog on to us.”

5. Type in the user’s URL and tell Tumblr admin that the user is contemplating suicide and has posted a message indicating that they are going through with it or will be attempting. Hit send! Tumblr administration will perform a number of actions to contact the user and take the necessary steps to prevent the suicide.

TUMBLR: THIS COULD SAVE A USER’S LIFE. PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE SUICIDE THREATS.

Reblog this to keep other users aware. Suicide isn’t a joke, and neither is someone’s life. If you didn’t know this, someone else may not, either. Pass it on.

Our trip to the science museum goes horribly wrong.

drew this earlier today cause i was tired of not drawing something awful 

It be like that sometimes

He WILL scream