How do I make my masculine walk more feminine?
Chrissi says:
This is really an important part of transition for trans feminine folks, and one gender therapists seem to forget. Here’s some steps that should help.
Focus your weight into your hips. Cismales tend to walk with their weight in their arms or stomachs. Think of a model walking a runway — her steps are light and her shoulders are back.
Swing your hips as you step. While an overly enthusiastic swing will certainly be noticeable, most ciswomen walk with a subtle hip swing. Practice by walking around your home and exaggerating the swing, then tone it down when you hit the street.
Slow it down. If you observe ciswomen in a shop or casual setting, or searching for a shiny Charizard, that was stolen from them at school (not bitter), you will notice that they tend to browse and meander. It’s not uncommon for a ciswoman to walk like she’s on a mission, but mimicking these browsing habits can make you appear more feminine.
Swing your arms gently and point your elbows in toward your torso. A light swing comes off as feminine, and turning the elbows results in creating a smaller silhouette.
Relax your muscles and allow your body to move more fluidly. If you’re wearing a wig, ensure it is secured so you can move your head freely. Rigid posture will make you appear more manly than feminine. Don’t relax too much though, or you’ll be sitting down, and this helps no one.
I know you didn’t ask but here’s a bonus:
Tips on walking in heels, a lot struggle, even ciswomen, and Princess Leia..
POSTURE: Heels pitch weight forward, so for balance, keep your head up and shoulders back. Tightening your core will offset some of the pressure on your feet.
STEPS: Striding in a normal heel-to-toe motion can snap a stiletto or twist an ankle. Instead take short steps, going down evenly on the ball of the foot and heel. But remember heel-to-toe is the best way if you’re walking in sturdy heels.WEIGHT: As your weight shifts fully onto a foot, spread your toes in the shoe slightly; this will help to distribute the weight onto the ball of the foot. HIPS: When you’re feeling off-balance, you tend to stiffen up. For an easy, attractive momentum, let your hips swing in small, sideways, figure-eight motions.
These should help you appear more Kate Moss, and less Bambi on ice.
Much love
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Hey, I've been having doubts about my gender. Like, I don't feel dysphoric all the time, and at the times I'm not, I just feel content with my body. Like I don't love or hate it, I just accept what it is for right now. But when dysphoria hits, its debilitating and the dysphoria is hitting harder than ever right now, but I can't transition or do anything because of transphobic family. Is it normal to experience fluctuating dysphoria also, tips for managing it while still basically closeted (mtf)
Yes. it’s normal for fluctuations to happen with dysphoria. We all have bad days, we all have good days.
So then, finding exceptions to the transphobic slogans help.
Only 2 sexes? Um, intersex people exist Body hair? Hair is common.Big frame? Uh… Exists. Gal Gadot is 5'10" Allison Janey is 5'11". And Lane Bryant exists so…Shoes? Sigh. There are specialty shoes sizes, and some stylish shoes can be uncomfortable so you’d be taking them off at your seat already. (I just want to mention that size outliers exist for other parts of wardrobes, and also condoms & I’d guess tampons. Those are usually tailors & prescriptions.)Reproduction? Growing a human population requires keeping ourselves alive too, so doing a job, babysitting, etc, those help too.Makeup? Do whatever, everything is an aesthetic if you find the words for it.
That being said other people suck, and we can’t control them. Therefore, like look for other things to do to adapt to this/them. Admittedly this part I don’t know much on.
However, I do have mental illness. So generally making a to-do & i-did list helps out a lot. Also journaling can help.[1]
and yeah, walking/hiking to where you’re constantly trying to decide on a path, breathing, learning stuff, doing puzzles, writing instructions for things, all of that can help. Video poker like those handheld games like on your phone can be nifty too.
Good Luck, Peace & Love,Eve
[1]If you’re worried about privacy for your journals I’d develop a short-hand of abbreviations. Personally, for mine I focused on the little words like by, to, of, -’s, anyway, so yeah, basically, like, just, which I turned to x, t, v, -z, anwa, s yh, bscly, lk, js. You would want to look up texting short-hand in different languages & mix & match them. Also consider doing creative spelling when forming your shorthand. If you do it good they’ll be distracted by all the short-hand & not get you’re writing in code. For proper nouns, basically make a word association with it, perhaps use emoji. If lacking emoji for that write “such&such emoji”. Rhyming slangs can help too.
I normally wouldn't do this, but I am in need. My parents have kicked me out because of my gender identity and their strict religious upbringing, I have lost my job, and I am in need until I can find another job. My girlfriend is helping me how she can but right now, I have no home, no job and no money. Please help a transgirl out how you can.
Edit: just adding some info. My dad has been emotionally abusive and manipulative, making me pay for stuff out of the blue, draining my money when I was trying to save. I'm trying to focus on finishing school in a few weeks (I am 18 and in college), but it was impossible to do so with my job, which constantly made me stressed and sick, as I worked the late hours of night, right after I got out of school and not getting home until 1 in the morning.
Anywhere I could go would be I would have to start over, but right now, I have no money to do that, so that's why I'm asking for help.
Below are 200 random questions to reblog. Have people message you random numbers to your askbox, so you can post your answers to your blog. Remember to repeat the questions in your answers.
1. What is your middle name? 2. Do you have any nicknames that aren’t derived from your actual name? 2. Do you have any allergies? 4. What is the longest your hair has ever been? 5. How well can you write in cursive? 6. Name one item on your bucket list. 7. Have you ever been on a blind date? 8. What is the oldest piece of clothing you still wear and how old is it? 9. How often do you eat out at a fancy restaurant? 10. How grammatically correct are you when you text? 11. Can you drive stick? 12. What foreign country would you most like to visit and why? 13. Nutella or peanut butter? 14. At what age did you have your first kiss? 15. DC or Marvel? 16. Have you ever hosted a wild party? 17. Name/author of the last book you read cover to cover. Do you recommend it? 18. How many of your Facebook friends do you actually hang with? 19. Have you ever donated blood? 20. From 1-10, how much do you like decorating for holidays? 21. Coffee or tea? 22. What is your go-to Starbucks drink? 23. Last show you binge watched? 24. Dogs or cats? 25. Favorite animated Disney character? 26. Have you ever cooked a big family meal by yourself? 27. Favorite winter activity? 28. Have you ever butt dialed anyone? 29. Can you blow a bubble gum bubble? 30. How early in the year do you start celebrating Christmas? 31. What emoji best describes your life right now? 32. Are you fluent in more than one language? 33. What is the longest you’ve ever kept a New Year’s resolution? 34. Have you ever successfully been on a diet? Did you gain any of the weight back? 35. Are any of your grandparents still alive? 36. How good are you at communicating through facial expressions? 37. Have you ever gotten a commercial jingle stuck in your head? 38. Have you ever left a movie theater before the movie was over? 39. Do you consider rapping singing? 40. Does your home have a fireplace? 41. Favorite non-chocolate candy? 42. If you could have only one superpower, what would you want and why? 43. 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How long was your longest relationship? Are you still with that person? 66. Star Trek or Star Wars? 67. How good are you at math? 68. Have you ever acted in a play or a musical? 69. How often do you read/pay attention to your horoscope? 70. What is the shortest your hair has ever been? 71. Have you ever broken any bones? 72. Do you like to go fishing? 73. Do you believe in evolution? 74. Favorite costume you wore for Hallowen? How old were you? 75. Real or fake Christmas trees? 76. How many pillows do you sleep with? 77. Do you live in an apartment or a house? 78. How many of your friends are of the opposite gender? 79. Have you ever had a near-death experience? 80. How long have you been at your current job? 81. What kind of car do you drive (year, brand, model, color)? 82. How flexible are you? 83. Have you ever ended a romantic relationship? 84. Phrase you say the most? 85. Have you ever kissed anyone of the same gender? If so, did you like it? 86. Do you own any homemade clothing? 87. Do you like fast food? 88. Have you ever given anyone CPR? 89. Have you ever learned to do anything from a a how-to video on YouTube? 90. Describe your sense of humor. 92. Favorite cereal? 93. Have you ever auditioned for a reality competition show? 94. Have you ever gotten a TV theme song stuck in your head? 95. Do you believe in ghosts? 96. Do you think there is life on other planets? 97. Have you ever given money to a street performer? 98. Your deepest fear? 99. Pancakes or waffles? 100. Are you still friends with anyone from high school? 101. From 1-10, how good of a dancer do you consider yourself? 102. How much of a patient person are you? 103. Do you know your IQ? 104. Do you eat meat at all? 105. Do you own any clothes from a garage sale or a thrift store? 106. Have you ever bought anything from a flea market? 107. Have you ever quit a job? 108. Have you ever gotten a song you dislike stuck in your head? 109. 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Have you ever gotten a New Year’s kiss exactly at midnight? 177. How many of the United States have you visited? 178. Have you ever given money to a homeless person? 179. Have you ever gotten a surgery? 180. Your least favorite food? 181. From 1-10, how competitive are you? 182. Do you like wearing hats? 183. How much of a jealous peron are you? 184. What was your SAT score? 185. Have you ever voted for a reality competition show? 186. Does anyone in your family currently serve in your country’s military? 187. Snowboarding or skiing? 188. What celebrity would you most want to play you in a movie about your life? 189. Have you ever been a Boy or Girl Scout? 190. Have you ever dyed your hair? 191. From 1-10, how good of a cook do you consider yourself? 192. You have just opened up a web browser. What is the first site you visit? 193. How many things can you do with your weaker hand? 194. Were you involved in any academic clubs in high school? 195. Have you ever played hooky from school? 196. Are you comfortable with watching rated R movies? 197. Do you root for any sports teams? 198. First thing you do when you wake up in the morning? 199. If you could take home any one animal from the zoo, which one would you choose? 200. Tell something about yourself most people don’t know.
I’m just going to leave this here…
I've been trying my best to get into astrology but I don't even know where to begin, you know any good place to start? Thanks for replying if u do! Love ur blog sm
not to sound rude but google stuff & take notes. i use this screenshot from tumblr a long time ago to help me.
& I read a book titled something like the best astrology book you’ll ever need
Right. Here is it everything you ever wanted to know about fashion cuts, trends, style, all in one post.
Every example of a trend that existed is list in the above post. So get to know your styles, perfect your image and enjoy mixing trends and different eras together. 😍👌👌
Hi, so is it possible for me to be a trans girl, but prefer to be fluid in my expression? Like I know I don't fit in my body and need to transition, but after that, I want to be able to wear feminine and masculine clothes and express myself as more of a mix of both. Hope this makes sense.
Yes absolutely! Lots of girls are tomboys, and trans girls aren’t any different.
Check out therapistaid.com. There’s worksheets there that you can download for free.
Of course it would be a lot more beneficial if you have a therapist to help you through it but not everyone has access to one.
It’s a free site where you can have free downloads of worksheets on many things.
If there’s something there that you think would be helpful, print it out and complete the worksheet on your own.
It’s hard to be accountable for yourself but at least there’s a way for you to have some insight and work on yourself.
idk, whatever this is ○ i was the turkey all along ○ she/her, queer trans woman
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