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Amen... And even if they ask for forgiveness, you don't have to give it, especially if they fucked up your life so hard. There are certain people I will never forgive and I have my reasons, and that is no one's business besides my own.

Forgiveness isn’t a required part of healing for everyone. You aren’t required to forgive someone who abused you or bullied you in the past, even if they’ve changed now. You can start to come to terms with what happened to you and try to cope with it without forgiving the person who did it to you, and not forgiving someone doesn’t make you a bad person. 

Forgiveness is often portrayed as being the right moral choice, but it’s not morally wrong to do what’s best for you and your recovery. Sometimes, forgiveness can actually be detrimental to your healing, and being unforgiving can keep you safe. And some people don’t deserve to be forgiven, no matter how long it’s been.

And finally? Traumatized people shouldn’t be shamed for not forgiving the person who hurt them and instead be allowed to deal with their trauma in whatever way is the most helpful for them.

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I normally wouldn't do this, but I am in need. My parents have kicked me out because of my gender identity and their strict religious upbringing, I have lost my job, and I am in need until I can find another job. My girlfriend is helping me how she can but right now, I have no home, no job and no money. Please help a transgirl out how you can.

Edit: just adding some info. My dad has been emotionally abusive and manipulative, making me pay for stuff out of the blue, draining my money when I was trying to save. I'm trying to focus on finishing school in a few weeks (I am 18 and in college), but it was impossible to do so with my job, which constantly made me stressed and sick, as I worked the late hours of night, right after I got out of school and not getting home until 1 in the morning.

Anywhere I could go would be I would have to start over, but right now, I have no money to do that, so that's why I'm asking for help.

fun tip for cis people: instead of saying “back when she was a he” or “back before [birthname] became [preferred name]”, try not being a pile of shit by saying something like “before she came out” or “before she began her transition”!

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Here’s a transitioning starter pack for all my trans folk out there!

Your transition is up to you- we want to provide information on all your options so you can make an informed decision about what you want. If you find a resource useful, then use it! If you’re not interested in doing any of the things listed, then don’t!

Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Bottom surgery (genital surgery)

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

More resources:

What gender am I? A brief intro to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and tips page

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns 

Here is how to get hormones in the US

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

The NHS’s Guide For Young Trans People in England

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker 

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Airposts and traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Vaping prevalence

Summer tips

Being religious and LGBT

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults) 

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

Crisis help: Suicide and crisis hotlines

Anyone can reblog, including allies!

I need help. I live in a very abusive situation, with my parents and now my ex-girlfriend. My parents aren't bad now, but my ex keeps trying to come back, even to just be friends. I need not only advice, but support too

I’m not sure the entirety of your situation, but if it’s possible check if there are any lgbt groups in your area because they will sometimes have support groups that could help you, also I’m not aware of the past with your ex but if it was unhealthy or abusive I suggest you do your best to cut ties with her or do whatever is best for your mental and physical health, as for your parents if it gets bad you can report them if you feel safe doing so or you can seek out others in a similar scenario who may be able to offer advice on how to get through it until you can leave home, I would search through tumblr or online in general for some online support groups for abuse because there are some communities out there that can help.-Brianna

Good resource for trans feminine followers who want to know more about vaginoplasty.

Easy Makeup Tips That Literally Anyone Can Follow

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Don’t get us wrong: We love a show-stopping makeup look as much as the next girl. But makeup basics are important. They’re what help you with your base makeup routine that gets you ready in just five minutes flat every. single. day. and the hacks that can take you from office to date in just a few simple steps. We spend a lot of time breaking beauty down to the essentials, but here, we’re going even further into 101 territory: we’re talking a what’s what of your makeup kit. Whether you’ve glossed over the nitty gritty of each product or are just learning how to build a routine that fits your personality or schedule, consider this your guide to keeping makeup simple and approachable. This foundation of knowledge can also be your stepping stone into the more advanced, creative ways to use makeup. Here’s everything you need to know about makeup basics and how to use them.

Foundation + Concealer

Foundation: Beyond your skincare routine, foundation is what makes your skin appear flawless; it evens out your skin tone and conceals any subtle blemishes or discolorations on your face. The most important aspect of foundation to consider is coverage. Generally speaking, there are two ways to go. If you want lighter coverage then opt for a tinted moisturizer, a slightly colored cream that you can swipe on with your fingers to give your skin a wash of color. This is the lazy girl’s M.O. If you’re interested in more coverage then liquid foundation – the classic form of foundation – is your best bet. This foundation is best applied with either your fingers, a flat synthetic foundation brush or a sponge blender.

Take it to the next level with concealer: When you really want to be sleuthy, add concealer to your routine. It’s your go-to for things like covering blemishes and more apparent skin discolorations, and can also be used to brighten and even out your under eye area. Concealer comes in different mediums like creams, sticks and liquids. Similarly to foundation, you’ll pick your product based on the level of coverage you need for your skin type.

Bronzer + Highlighter

Bronzer: Imagine bronzer as sunshine in powder form. When you apply foundation to your skin you even out your skin tone, but you’re also getting rid of the natural shadows and highlights on your face. Think of the bronzer as your way to use shadow to create depth or to give the illusion of moving a part of your face back. This is the first step to adding warmth and dimension back into your face. The “right” bronzer for your skin tone should look like a naturally tan version of you, not too orange and not too dark.

For extra illumination use highlighter: Highlighter is essentially the opposite of your bronzer. Rather than making a part of your face look smaller, you will use the brightness of a highlighter to bring out areas of your face (When you see images of a gal who has that glowing dewy-looking skin, there is a very good chance that she is wearing highlighter. Secrets revealed!). You can get highlighters that are golden, pearlescent and opalescent. There are also other variations, such as matte highlighter, which gives you the brightness without the shimmer. Finding a highlighter that works well on your skin tone and for your personality is pretty simple.

Blush + Cream Blush

Blush: When you’re not wearing any makeup, you’ll be able to see a natural flush of color on your cheeks. But again, after applying a little foundation, you’re covering that up in attempt to get a more even base to work with. Enter blush, the product that adds life to your features (um yeah, you can wear blush on more parts of your face than just your cheeks). Because blush comes in so many hues, you can take it literally and match your natural flush or use a more playful hue to make your look more vibrant. Typically, beginners will wear powder blush because it’s usually easier to apply for a more natural finish.

Pump it up with cream blush: Cream blush is a really fun way to take wearing blush to another level – it’s more pigmented, and therefore a bolder way to wear blush. To take it even further, you can apply a cream blush as your base and set it in place with a powder blush for an even brighter punch of color that will last all day.

Eyeshadow + Smokey Eye

Eyeshadow: When it’s used on its own as a single shade, eyeshadow is purely cosmetic. As a minimalist or beginner, you can apply a sweep of a single shadow across your eyelid for a subtle pop of color.

Get your blend on with a smokey eye: For a more advanced gal who wants to take eyeshadow to the next level there’s the smokey eye. The concept here is to create dimension using a base shade, highlight shade and contour shade just like you would do on your face, but focusing on your eyelids only. You can use endless color combinations as long as you keep the basic approach the same. To build a dramatic look, use a neutral color on your eyelids, a deeper medium hue in your creases and a brighter shadow on your brow bones and the inside corners of your eyes.

Eyeliner + Brow Pencil

Eyeliner: Eyeliner is all about enhancing the shape and color of your eyes. There are several techniques you can use, but beginners should keep application simple by using a pencil along their lower lash line to create definition and along the upper lash line to make eyelashes look fuller. Simple as that.

For further definition use a brow pencil: The idea of filling in your eyebrows can be a little intimidating for the gal who has never gone there, but once you’re ready to accentuate your eyes further, this is the way to go. Eyebrow enhancement can actually change the entire look of your face – this is why we’re considering it a more advanced makeup route. You can try powders, creams and other variations of mediums, but the easiest way to fill in and shape your eyebrows tends to be an eyebrow pencil that you can get in a hue to complement the natural color of your eyebrows.

Mascara + Eyelash Curler

Mascara: This was actually my gateway to makeup; I wore mascara before anything else. Mascara is a great way to give your entire face a little extra pop without having to learn all the other techniques. I recommend that you pick a mascara that’s not waterproof to start because it will be much easier to take off later. The formulas are typically designed to enhance length or volume and the biggest actual difference is usually the shape of the brush. Try to find a mascara that has a smaller application brush so you can have more control when putting it on.

Turn up the volume with an eyelash curler: This device looks scary as heck (I always make sure to be gentle with this little contraption), but it’s totally clutch when it comes to getting va-va-voom lashes. It’s a must for certain looks, but you have to make sure you use it correctly or else you can – eek! – break or rip out your eyelashes. Be sure to watch a tutorial that offers tips and tricks as to how to use it properlly before you get on this train!

Lip Color + Lip Liner

Lip Color: We’re not just talking color – the choices are endless – but we’re also talking types of lip color. There’s lip balm, gloss, tints, creme sticks and stains. The main difference you should be aware of is that each one carries a different level of pigment, aka the amount of color that will show up on your pout; this can vary from brand to brand. The easiest intro to lip color is to start off with the less pigmented options and work your way up to the bolder hues that take more effort to apply and maintain.

For an even more perfect pucker use lip liner: While lip liner is a next-level product, it’s one that I highly recommend using whenever you choose to wear any type of lipstick or darker pigmented lip color. Lip liners essentially create a barrier to keep the lipstick on your lips and prevent the color from bleeding or feathering onto the perimeter of your mouth. In other words, it’s the secret to totally kissable lips.

For more beauty + DIY tutorials, check out brit.co!

Is it possible for me to become a doctor in the United States if I'm a trans woman? I'm going into the medical field and that's my biggest concern.

Yes!! While there may be discrimination (because you’re a woman and because you’re trans), no one’s going to stop you. One of the hormone providers in my area is actually a trans woman, and I live in a pretty conservative area, so for sure it’s possible. 

If you are worried about discrimination/safety, and you pass well enough, you could go stealth so nobody knows you are trans while you work through med school and navigate the professional field. I would suggest getting your ID changed as soon as possible, if you haven’t already, so all your records are under the correct name. 

Followers who are in a professional field, any advice for anon?

Just an FYI for those in the US with insurance issues