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It’s mental health awareness month! How to support someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder.

If they disclose to you that they have DID:

DO:

• Accept them. Tell them that you still respect and care for them.

• Tell them that you are there if they need your help.

• Tell them to let you know if there are any triggers that are important for you to know. If they choose to tell you any, be patient and understanding. Listen attentively.

Helpful things to say or ask:

• “Is there anything you need me to do to make sure you feel safe in our relationship?

• “If you want to tell me more about it, I am here to listen.”

• “If there are any triggers you think I should be aware of, please let me know.”

• “I’m here if you need help with anything.”

• “I still love you and you are still my friend/family/partner.”

DON’T:

• Ask if they are dangerous or if they are going to harm you.

• Ask them what their trauma is.

• Call them crazy.

• Suggest that their mental illness is caused by supernatural or pseudoscientific means. (AKA, NEVER suggest that someone is possessed or haunted.)

• Bombard them with questions.

• Demand proof.

• Force then to switch as evidence.

• React in an unkind or rude way.

• Minimize or invalidate them.

• Tell them DID isn’t real.

• Deny their existence or refuse to call their alters by their names.

• Demand any answers from them.

Unhelpful things to say or ask:

• “I’ve known you for [span of time]. I would have noticed if you had it.”

• “It’s fine as long as you aren’t going to murder me.”

• “What’s your trauma? Did [traumatic event] happen to you?”

• “Isn’t that really rare? How could you have it?”

• “You had an easy childhood so there’s no way.”

• “You don’t know what ‘hard’ is.” “You were lucky to have the childhood you had.”

• “I just don’t get why you’re doing this to me.”

• “Can you imagine how hard this is for me?”

• “Tell me your triggers.”

If they’re switching or dissociating:

DO:

• Be patient with them.

• Tell them that it’s okay, and to take their time.

• Politely ask who’s fronting.

• Reintroduce yourself, as if a new person just walked into the room.

• Fill them in if they are unaware of what is going on.

DON’T:

• Snap or clap in their face.

• Express that you only want to interact with the previously fronting alter.

• Raise your voice, or try to force them to “snap out of” their dissociation.

• Ask if they are going to harm you, or if they are “evil”.

• Tell them “they should know what’s happening”, or refuse to fill them in on what is happening.

• Accuse or blame them for not being a good friend, not listening, or dissociating. 

DID is a highly stigmatized disorder. People fear disclosing this disorder to their loved ones, because their safety could be compromised. They trusted you enough to tell you. It is your job to create a space of love, acceptance, and respect for them.

🖤 Delphine

Hiya everyone. I hope everyone is holding to hope today. Depression takes away our joys by bringing a lot of us into this survival mode where we focus on the basics like work, eat, and sleep and activities that distract us from the chaos happening in our minds. It should seem good enough to stay in survival mode but our mental health continues to decline simply because our brains were never meant to just survive. The brain performs a variety of higher functions that arent needed for basic survival. We dont need to know how to bake cakes, or build amusement parks or be an interior designer or make glitter or create different dance moves or even have such an extensive vocabulary with words that have the same meanings. We didnt have to dive so deep or reach to the stars, but humanity did and we do everyday by just daydreaming of creating and discovering new ideas and places. The truth is our brains Survive to Thrive. Depression brings us to a place where we feel the burden of keeping on but cant access the memories of what for. We dont remember our passions or hope or really who we are at times and if we do they seem numbed in ice and the connection to our identity is weakened. I think for the most part we dont want to die, I think we forget how much we truly want to live. Under all the supression and burden that is depression we forget how to thrive and then we forget that we want to thrive at all. Its not easy to thrive because with depression our brains are wired to perserve oursevles, our emotions, our focus, our energy, our actions as a way to cope. Dont hate yourself because your brain is trying to protect you from breaking even more. Depression biggest weapon is turning you against yourself. Love yourself, your cells are cheering you on, I'm cheering you on, people in the world who know of people like you are hurting are cheering you on, and somewhere your very being is waiting for permission to cheer yourself on. Love yourself even on the days you dont consider yourself so great because you are always of great worth either way. Even if you didnt like who you were yesterday make the choice on what person you will be today and then tomorrow, one day at a time, theres more things that change than things that stay still. We are welcome to grow along too. And we can grow into another way and the true way of thinking. Our little cells make us a force to be reckoned with so our little acts to support our goal of thriving can do the same. When I think of thriving, I think of being joyfully 'unecessary'. Add a different spice to the same meal. Make your own little dance, color in a coloring book, your brain thinks it wants to die? no it wants to DYE, paint on that paper then, color the world with your creative ideas, sleep on the other side of your bed tonight, add a little to your life like flavor powder adds color and a different taste to the water. Humm to yourself, write a short story, mismatch your socks, talk into the fan, make shadow puppets, make your own joke to tell people, make that bopping noise with your mouth, thrive not by doing hundreds of 'unnecessary' things in a day but by allowing yourself to be the more you already are little by little. Jesus bless you all.

Find joy in every day.

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you’re not annoying!!! ur not annoying when u talk about what u love!! ur not annoying when u double text!!! ur not annoying when u share ur feelings or call that person or laugh at that joke!!! ur not annoying!!!!

Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!

alternatives without harming yourself:

holding/squeezing ice.

splashing your face with water.

getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).

take a hot shower or bath.

eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)

massage where you want to self-harm.

get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.

remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)

describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.

you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;

having a family.

getting married.

to watch the sun rise.

to watch the sun set.

to save someone else’s life.

finish school.

get your dream job.

to laugh.

to smile.

to go camping.

travel to new places.

to wake up every morning to the person you love.

friends.

family.

to keep that promise you made.

to accomplish a goal.

to meet your idol.

to listen to new music.

theme parks.

video games.

chocolate.

to be able to look back and say “i made it”.

what you’re going through is temporary.

in case you need to hear this:

you are loved.

you are wanted.

you are needed.

you are beautiful.

you are handsome.

you are important.

you are not alone.

you are okay.

you are strong.

you are worth it.

you are smart.

you are not a failure.

you are useful.

you are going to be okay.

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