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*straight person voice* not that there’s anything wrong with that

Something people don’t understand about child abuse

One of the things that I really hate is that people don’t understand that survivors act differently and respond to their traumas in different ways.

I’m a survivor of csa and so is my friend. Her trauma made her extremely hypersexual while I could literally cry if someone even touched me.

My bf is a survivor of csa, I can talk for hours about my trauma if I felt safe enough while he NEVER brings it up.

A friend of mine is a survivor of emotional abuse and so am I. Her trauma made her angry while mine made me soft and defenseless.

My bf remembers every little detail about his trauma, while I repressed most of my childhood and traumas.

There’s no special “criteria” that you should fill in order to be a “valid” survivor, and there’s no specific way you should act if you were abused.

People respond to their traumas differently and it’s okay, your abuse is STILL valid no matter how you respond to it.

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there’s still a couple hours left of thanksgiving, so i’m gonna use that time to say this:

- thanksgiving is actually a relatively new holiday!

- it does not date back to the early 1600s with the pilgrims and the indians or whatever you were taught in kindergarten

- a feast did occur around that time, and a few native americans might have been in attendance, but that was likely nothing to do with giving thanks and celebrating cultural unity

- the first actual “thanksgiving” didn’t actually occur until the middle of the american civil war when good ol’ honest abe wanted to try to unite americans and give thanks for what we still had

- and the practice stuck

- the pilgrims and indians colonizers and natives shtick didn’t take the stage until the early 20th century when a group of white guys from new england wanted to tie the already established holiday in with a much earlier historical event to try to show some kind of romanticized version of a cultural connection between white new englanders and native americans

- take from that what you will, but to me, i think we should abandon all “historical and cultural significance” bullshit when celebrating thanksgiving. teach your kids what really happened. don’t give them some romanticized story about how the indians liked us and we liked them so we helped each other. in time, tell them about the abuse. tell them about the death. tell them about the centuries of pain. let them know the truth about how their nation was built.

- i’m not saying drop the holiday altogether (columbus day, yes, by all means, please get rid of that one…thanksgiving, maybe not…maybe). keep the food and the time with family and the “giving thanks for what we have” aspect. but toss out all notions of that false history so that we might move forward.

izzie: yes, i am bisexual

izzie: i’m attracted to women because women are awesome

nate: so, why are you attracted to men, then?

izzie: because i’m good at making terrible choices

When my therapist points out how fucked up something from my childhood was

captain on a sinking ship: women and children only

other girls: aw no! i will have to leave my husband behind :,(

me, a lesbian: *grabs wife* YEET